Its always a matter of choice

I have read here in read cash the article titled"Did your parents raised you right"( the title catched my attention and comment my insight about it without reading the whole article). Now that I am already a parent that question pop up in my mind. How will I raised my child right?

Well how can you say that you was raised right by your parent? Is it because you became successful? You know how to respect others? You did not do things that are againts the law? You did not do imoral things? You just do things that told you to do by your parents without any hesitation?

Every parents have their own parenting style. There are parents that are strict while some are cool. Some are conservative while some are not. There are also parents that do physical punishment when their child did something wrong while other talk to their child and give lighter punishment. But there are also parents who are irresponsible and abusive.

I remember when I was a child our parents used branch of guava or "sanga ng bayabas" to discipline us or shall I say they use it as "panakot" (since I do not remember that I was hit before). As I grow, it stuck on my mind that I should not do bad things so I will not be hit. And that perception or belief was became my guideline as I grow old that until now I stick on that principle not because I will be hit by guava branch but simply because I know that in my own knowledge it is the right thing to do. I am not saying that I am such a saint or I never did a mistake, of course I have done some but I can say that it is not a worst one. Actually there is time in my life that I almost did a big mistake but at the end, I choose to do what is right.

Although there is a big factor how someone was raised on how they became, I still believe that what ever we became it is because we choose it. There are people that was raised with so much love by their family but ended up worst person while some raised with violence but choose to be good. When we are old enough we can never blame others on what we became because we are old enough to decide. We are solely responsible in all the action that we made. Coz Its always a matter of your choice.