My dear friend,
In friendship, there was truth and honesty for the consolidation of friendship. It fell to me to add the friendship of “Those who read correctly” to the events I experienced.
My dear friend,
If you say what is “friendship that reads right”, I am writing you this letter to explain it.
My dear friend,
There are those who read, but they do not understand what they read. There are those who read, by deducing meaning from what they read, by telling others the meanings they have deduced from what they read, causing them to misunderstand the events, perhaps to understand the opposite of what is told. Therefore, it is necessary not to read, but to have others read it by understanding and understanding.
My dear friend,
Let me tell you a story.
A man likes to listen to sermons, but does not listen carefully to them, and tells them as he understands them. One day, he told the story he heard to his friend as follows: "God asked a woman to sacrifice her daughter to a saint, but when the woman was going to sacrifice her daughter, God sent a dog and told her to sacrifice it." The listening teacher said to that man, "My brother, how are you listening to the story, here the saint is not a woman, but a man, moreover, the prophet is not a saint, he wanted him to sacrifice his son, not his daughter, the sacrifice sent is not a dog but a ram."
Dear friend,
Here, people who can't read correctly, people who don't listen properly, tell them the stories wrongly and cause them to misunderstand, causing them to have trouble. Sometimes friendships end because of misunderstandings, misreadings, and wrong explanations, and people cannot correct their mistakes when they realize it.
Dear friend,
One of the reasons why our friendship is solid is that we tell each other what we hear correctly and test what we understand correctly. If we explain things that are misunderstood and explain the events to each other without confirming their accuracy, maybe we think that some people are hostile to us, that they are speaking against us, and we will lose them or make them offended. On the other hand, our friendship is strengthened because we do not tell each other what we have heard without examining it thoroughly, and we do not tell others what we have read without understanding it well.
My dear friend,
Every person reads a book, but it can give different meanings, for example. Let's say a person who reads a novel about cheating on his wife, if he doesn't have a strong moral structure, maybe he will try to cheat on his wife by being influenced by the character of the novel. But perhaps the author did not write so that people would cheat on their wives, on the contrary, he tried to explain how bad it is to cheat. Maybe someone else who reads the book will be influenced by the book while in love with someone else, and will reinforce the idea of cheating by reinforcing how bad it is to cheat with what they read from that book. Actually, the book is the same, the author is the same, but because the reader is different, he has given different meanings to what he reads. Maybe someone who knows the person who wrote the novel may hold a grudge against the author of the novel, thinking that he is describing himself. That's how important it is to read and understand correctly. Explaining something to others without understanding it well or reading it correctly can be perceived as sedition and mischief. Because those who misunderstand will most likely cause others to misunderstand. We, on the other hand, are happy as friends who thoroughly examine everything we read and hear without sharing it with others so that it is not misunderstood, my friend.
My dear friend,
Sometimes we read in the newspapers. This writing, reading, correct reading is carried even to the courts. If the reader does not like the novel because he did not understand what he has read correctly, they open lawsuits claiming that they insult their beliefs or the prophet, and the authors are even acquitted by saying that they are misunderstood. So misunderstanding is everywhere. In order to avoid misunderstandings, it is necessary to hear, read and understand correctly as strong people in communication.
My dear friend,
People who are weak in society such as women, the disabled and the elderly are often misunderstood. The strong ones, men, young people, accuse these people they despise in everything. These weak people are not wanted to be strong. Even putting a constitutional clause to prevent this is being discussed in our society today .
My dear friend,
You and I are thinking well before we say “I am right”. It is very easy to justify oneself. The job is to see others as right and to seek their rights. For example, a person who truly loves his wife, protects himself, as well as protects his wife against both his family and surroundings. A person who truly loves his disabled relative tries to defend himself against those who misunderstand him, by explaining his beautiful aspects. But most of the time, we see that it is the families of those who do not understand the disabled the most, dislike them, and accuse them at every opportunity by pretending to love them.” A woman cannot read. He is disabled, he does not know. He is old, he is demented. His word is not trusted. We hear the words "Let the old sit in a corner" a lot. But our friendship is solid, dear friend, since we swear on a friendship that does not belittle the woman, the disabled, and the elderly, but genuinely loves and seeks their rights.
My dear friend,
Love is not in words, but in the heart. What goes through the heart is reflected in our behavior in life. If we love what we love, we will never allow others to cause strife between us and them, and we tolerate the mistakes of our loved ones. We congratulate the achievements of our loved ones and never try to take credit for their success, or try to humiliate them by telling them about the help we did years ago. We never hesitate to tell the truth without thinking that our loved one will also be sad. Many people understand the bitter truths of their loved ones as humiliation, belittlement and vilification, and they declare war on their relatives who tell the truth. Because they could not recognize the people in front of them and could not read correctly. Most of the disagreements between people are due to not reading, understanding and not knowing our interlocutor correctly.
Dear friend,
It takes years to even get to know. Maybe you wouldn't believe me if I said it took 10 or 15 years for my wife to get to know me and understand me, but what would we say to those who married with love and divorce after years of fighting and noise? Either those fights are lies or those loves are lies. This means that people can only see the truth even years later. That's why knowing people well, reading correctly and reading the truth on time gives a person a lot of money.
Dear friend,
Those who have good knowledge and culture do not misread people. A person who reads, understands and applies what he/she understands can only be knowledgeable. If people were knowledgeable with having many books, people working in libraries would always be scholars. But let's face it, most of the people who work in the library hate the book just as they don't like it. When we come across rude people who have become professors, think about how much of what they read is correct.
Dear friend,
It is necessary to "read correctly" and "know people correctly". Sometimes we do not recognize people even after years. They develop by reading and applying. Others cannot develop because they do not read. They may perceive his every utterance, every word he writes, as slandering themselves. Because nothing else crosses their minds. Since we understand each other correctly and read each other correctly, our friendship continues until we die, even after we die, and even our children read our friendship correctly and experience the joy of continuing the beautiful friendship. Let's take a lesson from the history of people who got married by maintaining the friendship of their fathers and rejuvenated their generations.
By reading correctly, I embrace your love with affection, my friend.