The happiest people aren't always the ones who laugh the most

In many areas of our lives or about the people around us, we all make assumptions from time to time. 'If he bought that, he must be very rich, if he behaves like that, he must be very sad, if he doesn't behave well, he must not love me, if he criticizes me, he must be angry with me, if he loved her very much, he wouldn't do that'... By making positive or negative assumptions, we can get unrealistic ideas and even drag others in that direction.

She doesn't wear make-up so she must be very sick, she doesn't smile so she must have a problem, she looks very happy, she has no worries, but is that really so? How accurate are our assumptions, how much of the truth do they reflect or how do they affect us? We say that every man is his own man, but at the end of the day, we don't really let ourselves do that and involuntarily or with awareness we make assumptions about other people's lives, feelings, thoughts, beliefs, lives, pain, happiness. But it's time to put a stop to all these assumptions. In this article, we have gathered the assumptions we urgently need to stop making, let's let everyone live in their own world 'in their own way'.

Behind the polite smiles and friendly greetings people give you, there may be brokenness, loneliness, deep pain... If only this assumption were true; if only people who smile a lot were really happy. But it is very difficult to know what is really behind a deep smile or a seemingly joyful laugh. Sometimes a smile is really an expression of happiness, and sometimes it can be a mask for deep pain. Therefore, even if we cannot always see the pain of others, it is always good to be kind.

I wish it didn't happen that way, but unfortunately it does. We may all have been disappointed by the people we love the most at some point in our lives. People whom we love and trust, whom we say can do us no harm, can also upset us. In other words, snow can fall on the mountains we trusted... No one is perfect; just because we love and care for someone very much does not mean that they will not have flaws or make mistakes. Sometimes trusting or loving someone too much can make it easier to overlook those flaws, but we should also be prepared for disappointments from the people we love so much in order not to be caught unprepared for a mistake, a mistake, and not to be more upset later.

Just because others do things differently from us does not mean they are wrong. The right way for everyone is undoubtedly the way they know best. But that doesn't make other ways ineffective or unsuccessful. We may all have different methods and tools for doing things differently, and despite these differences, successful work can be achieved. Giving differences a chance can increase the chances of success, and it can also help you broaden your perspective. In short, just because someone doesn't follow your path doesn't mean they will get lost on that path. Wait, be understanding and give them a chance; they may even be more effective than your way.

Did you know that the attitude we show towards people we disagree with gives clues about the kind of personality we have? Are you tolerant or quarrelsome? Do you use destructive criticism instead of constructive criticism or can you use your communication skills effectively to find common ground? All of them can give themselves away at the point where your ideas come into conflict. Instead of excluding, criticizing or judging people who disagree with you, you can try to build strong communication, find solutions and solve problems by showing understanding. Moreover, this way you can be sure that you are not hurting anyone in vain.

Just because we don't know someone doesn't mean they are not trustworthy. Some people put up so many walls in their lives that it is almost impossible to find bridges to reach them... If you don't want to be one of them, you have to open yourself up and give people small chances. Don't make yourself believe that people you don't know are untrustworthy, so that you don't lose people from the beginning who can gain your trust slowly, in small steps, over time. In fact, if you think about it, you may have experienced some situations where you have witnessed that people you know are not trustworthy enough, so you may believe that trust has little to do with whether you know someone or not.

Considering all this, assumptions may seem to be an integral part of our daily lives. However, with a little awareness, we can realize that what we believe to be true can often be far from reality, and we can change our perspective and move away from our subjective judgments.

In this way, we can put our prejudices aside and take a deeper look at everything that is going on.