Success is complex. We love to applaud people for being famous, winning tournaments, and making loads of money, but the cost of success is seldom addressed.
Did the elegance of the art of Picasso bring the world more joy than the suffering that he created by a series of broken relationships? It's convenient for you and me to believe that his contribution was good, because we didn't have to endure the pain. His ex-wives and mistresses, particularly the two who committed suicide, might feel differently.
The fact that the downsides of your abilities can not be escaped takes us to an important decision point. People always speak about the success they aspire to in life, but the most important question to ask yourself is not, "What kind of success do I want?," as author Mark Manson writes in his famous novel, but instead, "What kind of pain do I want to have?
Do you want the shadow of success that comes with it? Do you want the baggage with the bounty that comes with it? In the interest of doing what you want to do, what kind of pain are you able to bear? It also leads to more insight into what you really care about than worrying about your goals and ambitions to address this question honestly.
It's quick to want financial control or your boss'
approval or to look good in front of the mirror.
Everybody wants
the stuff.
But do you want the side
of the shadow the goes with that?
Would you like to spend two extra hours
per day at work rather than with your children?
Will you like to put
your job ahead of your wedding?
Would you like to get up early and go
to the gym when you feel like getting some sleep?
Different individuals have different responses and you're going
to have to determine what's right for you, however
