From emotionally wounded children and those wounds are found in traumas and if we do not look for a way to transform those wounds, they are real stones in our path.
When we are children we face many events that direct us directly and indirectly and because we are children, we do not know how to face those events and if we do not have a guide (our parents or another) that explains us or simply puts us aside, we are saving and accumulating those emotions that are forging our character.
This lack of tools in adulthood leads us to sometimes behave in an irascible way, without knowing how to face a situation as it should. This lack of tools will have serious consequences in our lives over the years, since it does not allow us to develop as coherent adults.
But how to overcome these obstacles?
We can overcome some of these traumas ourselves, recognizing that we are incapable, other times we need professional help to overcome them. We can manage our emotions by facing these situations with courage, to recognize that we are fit and capable, for example, to recognize that we do not know how to handle problems and we react in an angry way against the people around us, making them feel responsible for the situation that Presents itself.
When it comes to being parents, representatives or guides, we must take into account what we go through so as not to make the same mistakes with our children. If we are faced with a situation, we must explain or attempt to do so, have them process as much information as possible, as long as it is age appropriate.
What are the main childhood traumas?
Each human being is a universe of emotions and therefore each situation affects them differently, but many experts agree that there are traumas that can affect individuals to a greater or lesser extent. The following can be considered the most common traumas:
Violence. There are many types of violence that are not just physical. As children we are victims of outbursts of anger that not only end in physical punishment. Rather, we are victims of the law of ice or other types of punishment.
Fear of being abandoned. One of the biggest fears of children and adults to be abandoned, being alone for a long time does not benefit anyone, since they are usually insecure people.
Based on promises. Many of us are taught that to get something you have to earn it. This exchange can generate mistrust in the child, which is then projected onto the adult. "If you approve everything I will buy you this doll" or "if you eat all the vegetables I will give you an ice cream".
Rejection. Many times we are victims of rejection and more when we are small. Sometimes we don't know how to remedy this.
Injustice: From a very young age we establish the concept of justice and injustice. Starting from the fact of the relationships with our parents, siblings and relatives we establish what it is to be fair and unfair, on many occasions we misinterpret the idea of injustice because we do not have a good orientation.
The fear. We all feel fear and many times those fears are unfounded in childhood. A child who is subjected to darkness as punishment will be afraid of being alone and more afraid of experiencing anxiety attacks in situations that send them this kind of fear.
The humiliation. From a very young age we suffer from games that sometimes we do not understand and we believe that we are victims of humiliation. This causes our self-esteem to suffer and even suffer from depression.
It is very important to do a self-examination, discover what terrifies us, what situations leave us in a state of shock and, above all, ask ourselves the reason for a certain behavior to solve these behaviors. Taking advantage of what happened to us so that our guidelines are more precise, helping our children not to be victims of this behavior, helping them not to suffer these injuries is very important so that in the future they will be a healthy and emotionally capable person. adult.
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