Sadness invades people who lose their spouses, many in the world have to face the sad loss of the person with whom they shared their life.
When we are alone, we are not as alone as we think: before entering the deep sleep of death, that person leaves us a rich feast of delicacies: sweet memories, beautiful moments, and that is enough. After all, how many in the world have never enjoyed the pleasure of being loved and have loved more than themselves? How many have died before experiencing the joy of living?
If we had been given the opportunity to choose between two options, or to be alone from the beginning or to know the beauty of shared love, even for a few years, what would we have chosen? It is true, perhaps circumstances have taken the most dear from us, but if we analyze it well, we are not so alone after all. We have been left with a very pleasant taste, the memory of many years, the tremendous consolation of knowing that we were able to awaken beautiful feelings in that person, to feel loved ... We live in splendid times and, as if that were not enough, we hope to a promising tomorrow.
He is just asleep, we have to wait for him to wake up again and, when he does, tell him what we have done in this period ... and this time without interruptions: time and life will be ours, we can arrest them in the hand, as we would have liked before and as it could have always been.
It is true that the months seem like years and sometimes silence breaks our hearts, but if we try to fill it with beautiful notes we will feel it differently. There are so many things that can be done in the meantime! Let's look for others who feel lonely, let's fill the blanks in our lives with spiritually comforting activities, let's look for a divine answer to the unknowns of death, not always the traditional ones are the most accurate, let's follow a guide other than the human one. .. let's learn from the separation and dream of a great reunion.
When we try to recover from our pain, we see that there are others suffering perhaps a little more than us; if we try to support them, our sorrow does not seem so great. More comfort is felt in helping than in receiving, and the triumph is twofold: by accompanying someone in their anguish, we are helping ourselves, we feel useful, really important.
True, it is not always easy. But if we count all the beauty that that person has left us in their place, we will feel like millionaires. It was a great honor that, although for a while, we were able to enjoy his company! In no language have words been created that serve as a bandage to heal such a great wound. We were created to live, and so no matter how much time passes, we will never get used to the idea of not seeing those we love. But before the impotence of being able to offer the key that opens the treasure of consolation, I can only invite you to look for the answer in her Bible.
When we study about the resurrection hope, we see that we have not lost them: there is a better tomorrow, we will be able to see them again soon! And in the afternoons of pain, when the place of the table that his master occupied is empty, we can recreate ourselves in painting that day: that of the awaited reunion when, at a perfect angle, we open our arms and give him the welcome that we have dreamed of so much!
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