Have you read my previous article about the Christian View of the 7 Basic Keys For A Happy Marriage ? Here's the continuation.

2. CONFIRM YOUR WEDDING AS A LIFETIME COMMITMENT AND AN UNBREAKABLE UNION.

Some people took their commitment in front of the Lord very lightly resulting broken marriages when faced with difficulties. Don't just take your marriage vows as merely a ritual cause God said in Matthew 19:6, "What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder."

Challenge: Commit to staying married forever, no matter what, to provide your marital stability and your partner security. Then, if your kids are old enough to comprehend, explain this commitment to them because it will reassure them if their friends' parents split up. Additionally, it will strengthen the belief that their marriage is a lifelong commitment.

3. A 50/50 PROPOSITION IS NOT WHAT MARRIAGE IS

The 50-50 proposition might accordingly sound logical, yet the logic behind, can destroy many marriage since the basis would be you'll only do your part if your partner does his or hers. It is inevitable for one of you to fail as time passes by, thus, the other partner might step back and refuse to do his 50% leading a raging battle then.

What God wants in marriage is a 100%-100% proposition which we can find in Ephesians 5:18-33.

Wife: It was said that a wife must submit unto her own husband as unto the Lord while complaining, nagging, and lecturing or teaching the husband are discouraged as she should win him to Christ by her behavior. God is the one who will deal a man when he fails to be who he is in a marriage.

Husband: We all know that husbands are the head of the home. They really are. Yet, when we relate how God is the head of Christ in 1 Corinthians 11:3, such statement doesn't make the wife inferior to her husband. Being in authority does not accordingly imply inferiority. Jesus Christ is God and is equal with God the Father in every ways, yet He submitted Himself to His Father in all things by becoming a man, living among us, and dying for us.

Furthermore, a husband must love his wife enough to die for her. Since wives are required to submit, God SEVERELY limits the man's right to do anything that he pleases in Ephesians 5:25 saying, "Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it."

His patient and long-suffering love will win her heart and change her behavior like how Christ's love change ours through His Word. Therefore, each partner is called upon to fulfil his/her own 100% even if the other does nothing. God is not asking us to live as martyrs forever, but He will utilize these characteristics to transform the partner.

Yet the question is, what if we have not been giving 100%?

Simply confess those every failures to the Lord in detail, ask your spouse for forgiveness for not being the spouse that God wants, and lastly, start submitting sweetly and lovingly.

4. ACKNOWLEDGE EACH'S DIFFERENT PERSONAL NEEDS

What is the primary cause of divorce in this situation?

Divorce happens when the other partner meets his or her emotional needs to someone outside the marriage. Thus, both partners should fulfil these emotional needs for a strong and growing desire for a complete physical relationship.

What do a husband and wife require emotionally on a basic level?

God tells husbands and wives how to meet each other's needs. Ephesians 5:33 says, "Let everyone of you in particular so love his wife even as himself, and the wife see that she reverence her husband." It's absolutely crucial to recognize your own fundamental need for reverence and respect (men) as well as for love and attention (women), in order to prevent yourself from drifting into a relationship where these needs are satisfied outside of marriage.

5. MEETING YOUR WIFE'S NEEDS SHOULD BE ONE OF YOUR LIFE'S PURPOSE

A husband or wife can only learn to understand that their partner has a genuine need by first acknowledging his or her own wants.

Husband: The husband is then able and prepared to comprehend that his wife also has a real, but profoundly felt need after realizing and confessing how much he requires respect and reverence from her.

Wife: Recognize her own intense need for love and the certainty of receiving it. It's the only way a wife can truly understand, feel, or express the intense need for respect and reverence that her husband has.

When both of them meet each other's needs, they grow to be increasingly essential to one another, which causes the relationship as a whole to flourish and bear fruit. The issues that caused separation are now bringing husband and wife closer together. Following the satisfaction of the other fundamental requirements, a lifelong promise to satiate the other's desires can be established once the physical relationship in marriage becomes fully satisfying.

6. FIX DIFFERENCES GOD'S WAY

Matthew 18:15 says, "Moreover if they brother shall trespass against thee, go and tell him his fault between thee alone: if he shall hear thee, thou gained thy brother."

How did God forgive?

He took all the punishment, blame, and guilt even though He has done no wrong. This is accordingly how we should be willing to do the same for others just us to your marriage partner. True forgiveness means putting ourselves where we can be hurt again. On the other hand, God commands us to make amends if we become aware of or feel that we have offended someone. The best way to resolve any conflict is through God's method of reconciliation, which involves asking God to point out our mistakes.

7. COMPLETELY TRUST EACH OTHER

Trust is one of those stable marriages' foundations. Husband and wives must commit themselves to earning the trust of their partner which was commanded and demanded by the Word of God.

For husbands: Proverbs 31:10,11

Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies.

The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.

For wives: Ephesians 5:22

Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.

The decision we make and the action we take lead to trust.

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