Are you unsure if you're really, honestly in love with someone? Most likely, you've already asked a close friend or family member for warning signs. And, if they're like most people, they'll probably react with something ambiguous like "you simply know," "it's difficult to describe," or something similar—all of which are, obvious to say, useless.

However, just as there is no hard and fast rule for how long it would take to fall in love, there is no fixed checklist for determining whether what you're feeling is genuine. Some people recognize the sentiments after a single instant, while others build them through months and even years of little actions.

There's a hypothesis that we'll fall in love thrice in our lives, at three different periods of our lives. Each relationship feels completely different from the others and taught us something new that affects who we become. The first love, strong love, and unconditional love are the three sorts of love. I'll tell you the different phase of love.

The First Love

This romance has the sense of a fairy tale. It's that all-consuming puppy love that you assume will last forever at the time. We often have our first love in high school, and it usually ends because the two people grow apart or because the connection isn't strong enough to weather some minor disagreement. While it may appear to be true love at the time, it is rarely the deep, raw love that you will later experience. The pain of heartbreak can seem overwhelming at first, but you usually recover fast.

The Intense Love

This will be the second love, and it's usually the one that completely changes our lives. As we fall further into this passionate love tale, the relationship will become a reflection into our soul, reflecting all of our doubts, needs, and desires. We may feel jealousy, dread, and self-doubt that we have never felt before in this relationship. It can be harmful, imbalanced, or even egotistical at times. There could be emotional, mental, or even physical violence or manipulation—and there will almost certainly be a lot of drama. This is precisely what keeps us hooked on this storyline: it's an emotional roller coaster of severe highs and lows, and like a junkie seeking a fix, we stick it out through the lows in the hopes of a high. This is the kind of love that takes us on a rollercoaster ride and leaves us feeling guarded, distrustful, and hurt.

The pain of this relationship's grief is indescribable, yet it is also thru this heartbreak that individuals truly grow, adapt, and evolve, discovering inner courage and bravery we didn't know we possessed. This type of love is the one who educates us about ourselves and that we often desire or have to be loved.

The Unconditional Love

Lastly, the one that appears out of nowhere and feels absolutely perfect. There have been no games, and you simply feel at ease when you're around them. You accept them for who they are, with all their flaws and complexities. You're more genuine to them than you've ever been, and you continuously motivate each other to be your greatest selves. When you and your partner face a problem or a hurdle in your relationship, but you work together just to solve it because you really care about the future. This is the kind of love where we meet someone and it just feels right—there are no high standards on how each other should act, and no pressure to change who we are.

What it basically comes down to is whether we are constrained by how we love or if we can love without boundaries. We all have the option of sticking to our first love, the one who looks nice and makes everyone else happy. We can stay with our second love because we believe that if we don't have to battle for it, it's not worth having, or we can choose to believe with in third love.

So tell me, have you ever fallen in love? What phase do you think it is? Is the first love, the intense love or the unconditional love?

Have a good day everyone! Keep safe always <3