Have you ever been asked an awkward question from your child? Something that that they heard from their grandparents? Or from someone else?
How would you feel if your son asked "Momma why is my dad irresponsible? Why is he very lazy?"
My son is 7. Way back when he was 4, I remember him telling his father "Papa, why don't you get a job so we could buy a big house of our own?"
We are an average family. We cannot afford to pay for someone to look after the kids. So my husband had to sacrifice as I was the first one in position to get a job. He had always wanted to go out and find a job but our children are too young. They need to be taken care of by a real parent.
So, going back to my son's question. I never expected that because he had always admired his father. They were best buddies. Why did he suddenly felt confused about him?
I asked the kid where was he able to hear such degrading words. He said from his grandma (my mom).
We left him in the care of my parents as we live in the city where I was working. We come to see him during holidays and weekends. I can't afford to risk my child in a city which recently reported to have fresh cases of covid 19. It's either we live together and all get infected or keep him safe far from us.
I was shocked! I never expected these words from my very own mother as well. But maybe it's how they see our situation. I, being the provider and not my husband..
It was heartbreaking. Children at a very young age should see their parents as heroes and not like lazy cats. We as parents should be the model to our children.
Children wants to become like their parents.. That's what it should be.
What really hurts the most is that they hear it from their own grandparents.
I know it has not been good between my husband and my parents.. They are casual but I know they have hidden grudges inside.
But one thing you don't teach my child is to look down his own parent!
Children are listening to adults and they must not hear things like this. It affects their growth. It influences their attitude...
My husband heard it and he was badly hurt by his question.
Children learn soon enough if dad is lazy and sleeps 24/7 or someone to respect. We happy your child asked it because now it's open for a discussion. The answer is simple: one there was a time with many jobs. Women stayed home and took care of the children and the man had to work (you can cite the Bible if you like). Now times have changed. Girls go to school too, they learn and work but there are not so many jobs left. We made robots and there are too many people. Your mom found a job faster than dad and that is why I work and your dad takes care of you. We think good parents raise their children themselves and do not let strangers take care of them.
If it comes to the Coronavirus... This virus exist for decades. There will always be someone catching it. It's the same with the flu. Many die from it. Will you keep your child with your parents forever because people get ill? If you are afraid of that you shouldn't visit your child at the weekends. The virus is airborne you can infect him and your parents. But we this virus is mainly dangerous for people who are overweight, have diabetics, heart problems, a donor organ, elderly people with a lack of vitamins/minerals. Children hardly get it or if not get very ill. Can it be this is what bothers your mother? Your husband works now?