Disadvantages of singlehood.
Married couples always see the single person as a happy person that have low budget and expenses. But there are problems, they are facing. True, singleness have many blessings. But let's talk about the disadvantages today.
Loneliness, although humans are social being whereby we have friends, relatives, workmates, schoolmates etc, who they can relate with. In the Advent of mobile technology, there are many online friends and global village where humans can relate with another fully. Loneliness can still set in when one is unmarried because that companionship is not there. Nobody to share your "breath" with you! Loneliness is a very boring situation that can drives one crazy and makes that one unproductive too.
In emergency situations, those that are single have free time and can socialize freely with everyone. But they are very pathetitc when you encounters emergency situations like sickness or in debts. Couples helps each other out when one is sick, reminds and give the partner drugs, cheers him/her gloomy face up, give foods, fruits, do laundries etc but in singlehood, it's very difficult experience. When one of married couple ran in debts, another can sort it out or there's high chances for both to generate income very faster within a shortest time than a single person. Such person hardly knows what to do. Might seek loans from a friend that he/she had not repaid the last debt!!! It's very devastating too.
Conjugal warmth, sex is meant only for married couples and they enjoys it very much. The right over the body is given freely and hardly be denied. Unlike a single person, the right over another person's body is limited and can't be available at all times. Sex is not free for single person and problems therein are high. Stress and Anxieties can be reduced by the physical intimacy. Single person don't have intimacy with someone physically often so they are stressed frequently.
Marital blessings: children born with wedlock are blessings to the couple. Soon, they can be of help to them. One's spouse is also another blessings because both of them look for the best of another. Companionship is another blessings. They both will be available for each other in every situations and challenges, helping each other mutually. These blessings and more alludes the single person and they are waiting patiently for the day, they will be married. When they do, they will enjoy the blessings and suffer as well with it's challenges too.
Life is in stages. As it evolves, humans should follow suit. If not, there will be disturbance and problems therein.
6 things that you should not share with anyone in this life
Human beings are social animals and tend to be with someone that we like to discuss/chat with. Such discussion always makes our nerves, worries and anxieties go away. It can even makes us happy. But there are THINGS that we should not shared with anyone even as we are discussing with them regularly.
There's are things not to share with anyone in your life even if you are to forget them. They includes:
Every detail of your life. It sounds funny and weird. Right? Yes. Whenever we are comfortable with our friends. We tend to share everything with them. For instance, Studies indicates that woman can share everything of anything in their life with their best friends more than their husbands. They knows about their crush, kisses and how they lose their virginity! While men share with their best friends how they toast/woo their ladies and how the methodology of their business/works. Do you think that it's wise for such person to know everything? The current answer is NO! We can be the best friends ever but still maintaining our boundaries. Best friends tends to be worst haters in life and our secrets are in their disposal to do at will.
Oversharing. Similar to the first point? Yes! But very different. We have established at the first point that everything should not be shared. But oversharing is when we did it excessively. most commonest way of oversharing in this modern years, is talking about such secrets via phone. There's one slogan that internet does not forget! One day, our secrets will be exposed for greater scalable proportions. Where will be hide our faces? What then will be the remedy? It's far better to be cautious about things that we share with anyone and be careful too over phones.
Every other fight that you had with your spouses. There's no perfect marriage. We, humans will always fight with each other. With scarce and limited resources, the essentials in the home can cause fight between spouses or our imperfect behaviors can contributes too. It's unwise to share them with anyone in life because they can rashly judge our partner based only on what we told them or due to the protective nature over us. It's not fair at all and can limits our happiness too. Be mature enough to endure our pains of the rancors with our spouses to safeguard such precious relationship. Be forgiving and learn to be apologetic can be the solution that we need.
Everytime someone say/do hurtful things to us. Although it's very painful and hard to endure at times. We yearn for a listening ears of our friends and comfort us. Many a times, while telling them what the person say or do, they might increase the hurtful tempo by telling us more about it rather than calming us down. They might even gossips about our vengeful plans to the ears of that person that wrongs us. You should know what that means! They might not even calm us down or be suggestives, only listening and laughing at us. That's immature! Be calm and work on ourselves. Control the situation and direct such geviances to God. If we can't do anything about it.
Family problem. Don't tell anyone more than they should know about your family. Every family have their problems. Although solutions can come from them but be specific about it. If you are looking for solutions, ask yourself if that person can be of help before exposing every detail of your family problems to such person. Ask of such person precedence, many can't keep secrets and don't tell you much about theirs. Is it not better to keep shut and focus more on the progress of your family than those woes.
Good deeds. Kindness that's advertised loses its importance. The more that we talk about what we did for someone/group, then we seek praise which is far below the gains of such kindness. How will the receiver of such kindness feels when he/she learnt of the advertisement of such kindness? Many will not be happy and some might tend to return such kind acts. It's better to be known by our acts, not by our words. Whenever other blew our trumpet, it's sound will be melodious and heard worldwide than when we blow it by ourselves.
However, not sharing some secret with anyone does not mean that you will become anti-social and stay alone. It means that you will become more wiser to checkmate certain details of things/secret to share with anyone in your life. Whenever we share something with someone, our hearts became lighter as if there's a heavy load lifted off from it. We will tend to become more closer to that person that we told that secrets thereby them, our sense of privacy which is the most costliest personal resource.
How to turn a lady on without touching her.
My fellow men will really understand and appreciate this because as easy as it seems, to turn a lady on is not a simple task. It takes a lot of effort and diligent planning to be achieved. But, some guys are lucky on this aspect. That's great! What of majority of men that can't achieve this feat? This article can be of help!
There are five things to do: they are:
Wear a sweet cologne. As bees are attracted by sweet scent of a flower that's also a magic to many ladies. There's something in perfumes and Cologne that tells a lady more about you, then she draws closer to know and feel you too. Spend some cash on this and thank me later. Bad odour from a man, no matter how wealth and resourceful he is, can scares ladies away. And that's not good at all.
Whisper to her ear, Ladies are highly sensitive and those nerves needs to be aroused. One of their part of body that's heavily endowed with nerves is their ear. They really wants to hear good things just as men wants to see beautiful and curved ladies. Whisper sexily to her ear and be gentle and kind in doing so. Make sure that you had a good breath while doing so. Bad breath irritates everyone and ladies get upset with that. Maintaining good breath can works magical to your girl and whisper sweet words too. You are the most beautiful woman in the world and you look sweet are some of kind words that she wants to hear. Whisper sexily and mean your words because she wants to be convinced too. Such words will "wet" her and allow her to flirt with you. All you needed at that time is a secure place to do your thing . Hahahaha!
Call her early in the morning: A lady needed to be care and she appreciates it a lot too. She will be aroused more when you call her early in the morning. This timing is very important because she will know that you really care for her and she is the reason of your sleepless nights too. She will fall for you and thinks about you along the day and opportunity of being with her will open the legs wide for you. Deep and Bristone voice of men send a romantic signal to a lady too. The voice of men becomes more deeper in the morning than any time of the day, so it's better to makes such calls that time to tell her how special she is.
Cook for her. She needs to know that you can take care of her and the kids when she is weak and sick. Although not all men can cook but ladies fancies it a lot. When she watch you, cooks for her and see as your cut, steer and fries etc. She will be imagining how you will carress and touch her too. Ladies even feel free and happy when a man wash plates and chat with them in the kitchen, how much more when that man can cook a delicious meal for her. She will just met and wait for you to finish in the kitchen and handle her in the other room too. Hahahaha!
Take care of your body. It's time to get rid of excess fats and build up muscles. With your money and fortunes, a lady can overlook you and go for an athletic and build up man. Although it takes a dedication and efforts, you can do something about your body to improve your physique. Ladies feel safer with such a man and spend their resources on them too. You should know what their "resources" might includes.
Although these points are wonderful but can only works wonderful when a lady already found you interesting. Your character and generosity always makes you attractive so treat them right because they need such care. They are angels and should be treated with respect, love and care. Thanks
A Wedding that I attended.
Hello everyone, it's being long but I'm healthy. I was distracted by other things especially my micro- blogging on Noise.cash with my account @kaluorjisamuel . Also, I'm very depressed and discouraged because of my activities here, have not earn or attract a supporters. It's very depressing but I'm encouraged to keep publishing. Lolz.
Yesterday, Sunday 20/02/2022 was a day to remember. I attended a wedding ceremony which was very blissful and enjoying. There are several factors that contributes to this my assumptions. Let's take them one by one.
Firstly, I was not personally invited by the celebrants or even I don't have personal relationship with anyone of them but I graced their occasion. Unlike me, I have not attended all of events that I was invited, not that I'm not social or don't like ceremonies but I virtually don't have time for such. My shop needs my attention always. I deals on groceries, my customers depends solely on me for their essentials. A day off, will unbalanced them a lot. As my civil responsibility, I always get them stocks and ready to give them whatever they want. I attended this wedding event, based solely on the hearsays. I heard from my neighbors, who were presents too that the guy is a good guy. He used to passed along and greet us all. He is very humble and kind. That will only be truth because his immediate senior brother always visits us and chat along with us. I then concluded that I will grace that occasion to return good to the deserving ones.
Secondly, I did not know the venue, how can one being at event that he does not know it's venue? Who does that? Only me Lol😁. I asked questions of the venue and ensure that I go with my neighbor. He was so kind and generous. He was my gistmate at the event. We dances together. Happy events like this, one have to shake his body. I did just that. Within that minutes, I was very happy and forget some of my worries too.
Thirdly, I have not been at event for so long now. Apart from my busy schedule which I said earlier, Events like this scares me a lot and keep reminding me of my singleness. Although there are blessings of singlehood, but being alone even as I'm typing this is also depressing. Happy events should be attended as couples. We will book for a night at one of the lounge there and enjoy ourselves. I really need a partner to enjoy that kind of life too.
Fourthly, my wears are outdated. Because of not attending events for so long now, I have not be able to update my wears on my wardrobe. Going to events now is a challenge because I have only few clothes now to choose from. I know that I will work on it which I will do very soon. Being at this event reminds me of that too.
Conclusion
Although there are many challenges like the ones above, I still attend that happy occasion and enjoy myself. I can afford anything that they provided to care for me but such events don't comes easily this days.
I will win over all odds and attends such events over and over again. Good people deserves every good gifts and my presence in respective of our social attachment.
Burkina Faso's Coup and Lessons learnt?
The peace in a Nation can be challenged. The ability of the government to quell those challenges proves that they are really in charge. Government officials when elected are vested with all the power in the country to protect lives, ensure stabilities and encourage economic prosperity. Government maintain the peace in the country internally and externally with the power of order. These power of order are enforcement agencies like the Police, Army etc. Back to what we wanted to discuss; Burkina Faso's Coup. Do the people really wanted it? Yes! Majority of the locals congratulate the Army for maintaining the internal peace, taking over the "power that be" and stabilizing the nation.
Since 2015, the country have suffered many crisis. Many have been killed and millions of people displaced. These crisis are caused by jihadists that is targeting governmental agencies and social institutions. Teachers, bankers, police and even armed forces are targeted and killed. Creating a disunity and conflict laden situations. People are not happy at this.
Corruption, nepotism and other evil vices are the order among the government. The armed forces and other agencies are improperly funded. These events inspired public demonstration and protest across the nation. The government responded with bans on public gathering and protests but people rebels against it due to the insincere and "powerless" situations among the enforcement agencies and the government of President Roch Kabore.
A successful Coup was plotted and executed by newly promoted head of Armed forces of the third military region, Lit-col Paul Henri Sandaogo take control of the military barracks and camp. He and his loyalists forced the President and governmental officials to a halt and people praised him. He had declared the leader of the Nation as they are finding solutions to their national crisis. Protests and demonstrations have disbanded. Constitutions have been restored under a new leader and his loyalists.
The rumor of this coup was heard in the late 2021 with some arrests made but the coup later went on to be successful because people are really tired of their government and his rule. People does not trust their democratic leaders because of their corruption, laxity and nepotism. This distrust affects the administration structures and social institutions although they are doing their best. The election results was allegedly doctored and can't be seen to be true. If it can't be true mandate as alleged, how can it produces "leaders" that people can be trusted?
Conclusion
Political crisis is not good for any nation. Great administration begets good governance and development. Governmental and enforcement agencies should be properly funded and equipped to maintain territorial integrity internally and externally.
Corruption, laxity and nepotism should not be found among the leaders and anyone found culpable should be publicly prosecuted to serve as a examples to others and good social virtues should be encouraged. National resources should be used effectively to develop the nation and not for personal, tribal and regional gains.
Africans should learn how to develop their nations and not what the government will do for them! Africa first!
Who will you eliminate?
Hello everyone,
I read an article about this writing challenge from @TengoLoTodo via this [post](https://read.cash/@TengoLoTodo/who-would-you-eliminate-f59e3a2.). I decided to participate by writing this article. https://read.cash/@TengoLoTodo/who-would-you-eliminate-f59e3a27
Who will I eliminate? This is a tricky question. But leads me to still ask myself these other questions; Why will I plan to eliminate or kill someone? Do some people merits of being in my list of people to be killed by me? The answer is Yes! Because of their devastating lifestyle or behavior to others. They did not show mercy to others and don't merits my mercy too. Take a look at my list of three person or group of people that I will be eliminate.
Number one: A group of internet scammers.
This group of four boys deserve to be eliminated by me. They are fraudsters and engage in fraudulent and internet scamming activities. They are still very young of 17, 18 and below 22. They conspiraced to kill a girl, who happened to be a girlfriend of one of them. Killing her for money rituals. Why will one be killed for money rituals? It's not justifiable and being so young to dabble in such thing is abnormal too. This is so painful to me that I think seriously about this our generations of lazy youths. They wants free money and does not want to work hard for it. Our country, Nigeria is known worldwide by their fraudulent activity and looks like every Nigerian is a fraudsters. Which is not! Their example and more like it, should not be show mercy! Read more about them via this blog: https://www.lindaikejisblog.com/2022/1/18-year-old-lures-his-girlfriend-to-a-building-where-he-and-his-friends-killed-and-beheaded-her-for-money-ritual-photosvideo.html.
Number Two: Surajo Mamman
Surajo Mamman popularly known as "kuraku" is a notorious bandit and kidnapper. His devilish exploit are devastating. He represent the hardened notorious armed groups that is killing innocent people in my country. Although this kidnapping and banditry started in the south by the activities of militias groups against governmental agencies using the natural resources in their land without some amenities. But for Northern banditry and kidnapping rings which Surajo belongs, they just kill for fun, religious beliefs and ethnicity. He said that he had " lost count of people" that he killed. They attacks farmers, traders and passengers. Even our president boycotted his Trip because of their nefarious activities. I will not show mercy for him and his likes.
Read more about him via this post: https://www.google.com/amp/s/dailypost.ng/2021/09/29/ive-lost-count-of-people-i-have-kidnapped-killed-notorious-bandit-kutaku/%3famp=1
Number Three: Osama bin laden.
Although coming from wealthy home and being trained by US, he chose to be world known terrorist. His organizations al-qheda is still operative although he is killed by special US forces. He still don't merits my mercy because he had a better life but allow vengeful actions to cloud his thinking and motivates him to murder many people. He changes the world order for bad and many people and nations are blacklisted because of his actions.
Read more about him via this post: https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Osama_bin_Laden
Conclusion
I'm not a wicked person and don't have intention or means to kill anyone but this list of people's activities pains me a lot. They had opportunities to change the world for good but chose evil. Their actions is still encouraging others which is still worst. I know that God will keep protecting and sustaining us - the good ones.
Thanks for reading. I need your encouragement, comments and supports.
How I spend $1000000 within 24 hrs
February 8.
Good morning everyone.
I got shocked and happy to be inspired by this two blogs from @BCH_LOVER and @yhanne on how they will spend $1000000 within 24 hrs. Then, I decided to write mine to answer their questions below this articles.
Spending money is never difficult no matter how much it is. But to make a fraction out of the money is very difficult and tiresome. One can finish any amount on luxuriously and make a huge population of friends within seconds but feel very alone and empty whenever it is all gone. To be sustainable, setting up an investment plan and funding them too is very easy within 24 hrs because there are many dreams plans of investment already that needed funds.
Now, Let's discuss how I will spend this amount of money within 24 hrs. Firstly, I will invest more on cryptocurrencies. Recently, I came to know of Bitcoin cash. Being newbie of two weeks journey here have been awesome to me, I saw a greater opportunities and greener pastures too. If I can invest and hodled this coin - BCH for some time, I will make more money. My Reason for investment is not unreasonable because coming from lowest economic state is not a joke. Suffering and huge economic woes have dealt with me seriously, investing a part of that money will make me from my economic woes and help my family, relatives and unborn generations too to be totally free from our perennial economic status.
Secondly, I will build a new home for my family. My family lost our home during crisis.
A house of our own will give us a sense of comfort and security. Building such an edifice will keep us together in unity as a family. We all will have luxurious rooms for everyone and enough spaces for relaxation both interiorly and exteriorly. It will be easier to contact the building contractors because there is enough money to achieve this dream house and a parcel of land already for the construction.
Thirdly, I will register my business conglomerate. Plying in this business of groceries for long without being a legal entity is not good to me again. Paying taxes and getting leverages from Governmental agencies too will be helpful. Being born and bred in Aba, Abia State, Nigeria is an advantage for me to be an astute business man. Our city is one of the commercial and industrial hub in my country and Africa, investing more on them and hiring more hands will be a boost to our economy.
Fourthly, i will take my family to one of my favorite resort centres. [Obudu Mountain Resort](https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Obudu_Mountain_Resort). There are many resorts centres in my country and worldwide but I chose there for good reasons of mine. One, I love being closer to the nature. Obudu Mountain Resort will afford me that great pleasure. Second, it will boost my country GDP. When we spend our money in our country, it will boost our economic growth and put food to our people.
Honestly, I have never been there and other Resorts apart from visiting Olumu Rock very shortly. I will enjoy spending some of that money there with my people for weeks. A stay there will be refreshing due to its natural sceneries and take our minds away from the problems of urban areas.
Fifthly, I will give my family, friends, relatives and neighbors some fractions of the money. Being wealthy and having very poor siblings, friends, relatives and neighbors is not good at all because the relationship will be parasitic in nature. But getting them equipped financially, will give me more peace. They are many, but giving them carefully will do the magic.
Sixthly, I will help my government through my non-profit organizations that I will establish. Provision of social amenities is a core role of government but what if there is a helping hand to them? It will be good as it will enhances their services, build new ones more convenience to people and efficient governance too.
Conclusion
Having cash is very helpful because one's existence depends on the essentials that money can buy. Being happy and secure is very important and highly attainable when there's cash.
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Life is not balance.
This saying "Life is not balance" is very popular and popular slang in my area. It can be apply in every situations or incidents fittingly. What does it really means and what's are noteworthy situations, it can be applied?
Life is not balance means that things are not perfect. To strives to be perfect in every respects, it is very hard and impossible. There are greatest achievements ever known to man but there's an underlying demerits found within those achievement that needs to be revised or resolved, then it becomes yet another great achievement! Knowing this fact can make us to calm down and allow "nature" take it causes.
Disadvantages and demerits attached on wonderful event can ever be resolved? Yes! But it will take more time and God's grace. Meanwhile, we will continue to evaluate things that we had achieve or events that happened to absorb/adopt the wonderful lessons therein and resolves problems therein. Nothing on Earth have only the advantages without the disadvantages. Take a look at Nuclear nukes, with the radioactive energy, many countries are enjoying steady electric power and other useful resources therein but what about nuclear bombs? It is not from the same nuclear nukes! What about Crude oils? Very useful mineral resources with great benefits. But what of oil spillage, pollution and kill of innocent lives due to its exploration? Nothing comes with disadvantages!
However, you think that like is balance? have you not noticed that you will be attracted to one person while he/she is far away from you emotionally. One will be bubbling up in good health but lacks essentials to sustain that health status and lives right. Many are richly employed but how many of them are enjoying that their work? Life is not balance!
Conclusion
Life and things therein are relative. We should be satisfied and contented with whatever you have and never expect more. Time and nature solves a lot of mystery about life. Worries and Anxieties can't solves any problem. But, Add still more pains!
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Love makes me speechless
Michael Jackson, one of the greatest Pop singer worldwide sang a song with a lyrics that "when he is with her, he becomes speechless". I thought that it was a joke until I felt like that.
A local and popular saying that "love makes one foolish" was just a meaningless words until I met her and started to act like a "fool". Saying and doing things that I normally will not do, just to make her feel very happy. To my greatest surprise, I noticed same in her, trying very hard to please me too.
Can this be real love? If it's not, what then can you call this "strong feeling" of mine towards her? True love is based on selfless sacrifices and wholehearted appreciation. I appreciate every about her in words and deeds but find it harder to let her know whenever I'm with her but her body language tell me that she acknowledged my speechless efforts.
True love is not blind because I clearly observes her but I chose to ignore the bad sides. She is not as beautiful like a girl that passing by but she is special to me. She is chubby and well endowed exactly how I want my woman to be. She is dark in complexion, Yes! She is black. I still love her skin color unlike what majority of people strives hard to bleach and others entangled with fair and bleached ladies here.
Moreover, She doesn't pretend and express herself respectfully. I appreciate it a lot after being with a lot of pretenders, enemies that posed as friends and materialistic individuals, who are "just" selfish. She is free from that and tell me everything about her, which I appreciate and reciprocated mutually.
Nevertheless, she is obedient to God and fears him too. With this unique quality, every other good characters will emanates. Although nobody is perfect, but being obedient to God will afford her a great opportunity to continue learning about him and applying the lessons in her life, which makes her special. Great minds attracts, so being a good Christian too makes me appreciate her nature the more.
However, I found words to let her know whenever I'm with her. I don't really know how to ask of her welfare without being sagaciously. Will she continue to appreciate my simple words and knows that it takes great efforts from me? I wants her and I will continue to be vocal in letting her know.
How my Yesterday, Sunday 30/01/2022 went?
Sunday, 30/01/2022 was a good day to remember. It started very good and ended happily. Let me write about my activities throughout the day in three subheadings.
Morning.
I woke up by 6:15 am in the morning. Had my morning Bible study and prayer. With the aid of our spiritual and motivation book that discusses about Bible topics daily. I consulted the yesterday's own. The title was "Return evil for evil to no one" based on the Bible verses of Romans chapter 12 vs 17. The summary of the lesson was on being peaceable with people and not thinking about being vengeful because it makes circles of violence to continue. Peace will be far-away and where there's no peace, prosperity and unity are usually unattainable too. I was encouraged from that study to be loving and caring to others no matter how they treat me. After my studies, I had my early morning body exercises. It's a lightweight exercise whereby I carry some weight of light kilos for some minutes for several positions rapidly but totally unprofessionally. This helps to check my body's structures and shapes in good forms. Because being healthy includes how we exercises our body too. After that I had my beards shaved, change my teeth and had a warm bath. I had a quarter of bread and tea for breakfast. A quarter? Yes. To sustain me because I'm a heavy eater. I rested a bit while reading my materials for my spiritual worship with my congregation. With the aid of Zoom videoconferencing due to the fear of spread of Covid19 virus strains, We had a meetings that starts from 09:00 - 11:00am on Sundays which usually start with praising songs to God and prayers, A 30-mins Bible discussion is held where a minister usually a baptized brother will discuss with other from the scriptures too. Bro Akpan explain the reason why we should be obedient to the authorities. Authorities can be found at families, schools, congregations and governments. How do we look at them? We learnt to be respectful and obedient. God placed them for things to be well arranged and organized. We should not challenge them often especially when we don't know the reasons why they did what they did. Also, people that usually call for protests are not always of good characters, Absalom, one of sons of Ancient King David was cited. He decevies others to believe in him against his Father. Although having very bad character for a leader, had a ranks of people believing in him against constituted authorities of his Father. We learnt how it went which is very bad and the true of nature of his father was revealed again as he wept bitterly for him at his death. He is a merciful father and leader. Our leaders might be "good" but the bad administration structures and policies might thwarts his clear vision for his people. The system should be reformed and the leader encouraged. God will keep blessing all our efforts. We had a watchtower discussion too on how we should continue to worship God despite many problems therein. We concluded with songs and prayers. Exchange pleasantries with others. My morning gradually turning into next stage.
Afternoon
My afternoon started with a sweet afternoon sleep. I had a sleep to be invigorated healthily that is one of the beauties of the Sundays. When I woke up, watched a movie, it's an American movie which focused on the suffering of blacks, negros in America society. I don't know why they are suffering so pitiably and treated as second class citizens whereby America is no-man's-land. Everyone there had an immigrant parents. Why treated others very bad racially? I checked their historical events online and noticed that every other people suffers racially too. Maybe being black, I highlighted the kind of racial abuses against the blacks more. The movie ended happily as they are highly compensated as their cases are treated judicially. After the movie, I went to my shop. Shaded my goods which is groceries.
Wait on my customers and had some sales too. Although I have a few goods at my shop as the picture above indicated. I'm very hopeful that my passion here will earns me one BCH to improve my livelihood. That's why I plead for upvotes, subscribers and supporters.
Evening
I closed at shop in the evening, headed home with a friend. He bought oranges and snacks along the way home and chatted along to our several homes. I wrote one article yesterday's night and went to sleep. Nature calls, I obeyed and wake up now to write about my yesterday's activities for your reading pleasure.
Lessons: I don't give up on myself and I learnt to be peaceful too.
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Why me?
Why me? Who should answer this terrifying question of mine? Who knows me better than me, should answer this question. Who is the person? I'm in this depressed situation alone? But where my answers should come from? A satisfying answers calm down one's nerves and curiosity. But, without answers, we are just "void" or "vacuum" waiting to be filled up!
There are things that are challenging my existence. I can itemized them under subheadings or topic but keep wondering why I'm in this situations. Let's see it together.
Singleness, singlehood comes with it's blessings. There's no tribulations particularly to married ones and there's no cheating, unfaithfulness or other scaring situations associated with married couples. These are blessings that I should be enjoying but it seems like they are far from me. Why me? All I faced are loneliness, unhappiness, no companionship etc associated with singlehood. Is it that I don't have the fundamental right of enjoying happiness of knowing that someone is at home, waiting for me. I don't want it to continue. Where can my solutions comes? I don't have a serious girlfriend/fiancee and money for marital ceremonies talk. With these, where can I start to remedy my situation?
Unemployment. After completing my high textiary education and awarded numerous certificates and honors. It seems right that I should get a paying job to care for my needs and my dependants. But, no job for me. Why me? I searched for jobs for over seven years now. I even looked for jobs under my educational qualifications to be employed but still no job for me! Why me? I took several classes and underwent numerous trainings. But still no job for me. I read on news on high rate of unemployment in the world and Nigeria precisely, still wonder why I'm in this pitiable group of youths.
Capital. There's nothing to raise a business with. There's no business that will thrive very well without a capital. As there's no capital for business, my business ideas are dying with me! If Only, I have cash set aside now, I will venture into a kind of business that deals on groceries. I love that kind of business because there's no season and time, one don't sell. But lack of capital is crippling this ideas of mine. Taking loans in Nigeria is not an option because of high collatral demanded or capital can't be accessed.
Health, there's nobody that's sickness free. Everyone is suffering from one aliments or another. I'm dying here slowly. Our health services here is very malfunctioned that why our president is always aboard taking care of his medical conditions. We that doesn't have enough funds are left here.
Conclusion
I'm not perfect and challenges are facing me daily. Nobody can encourage me more than the one that I gave myself. I will keep pushing. There's always a light at the end of the tunnel. Having this platform, where our works of our mental strength are rewarded is my hope to be financially stable. My health will improves too when I let go of worries and expect very little from others. I will focus on rewarding recreational activities to my Anxieties at Bay and enjoy myself a bit. Being educated does not really means that one should be employable. Self employment is the best way to be wealthy but very hard to starts! I will keep tarrying on higher. Only the tough keeps conquering serious situations. I'm a winner and overcomer.
Draw close to God, and he will draw close to you.—Jas. 4:8.
The apostle Paul set an outstanding example of courage and endurance. At times, he felt weak. But he was able to endure because he relied on Jehovah to give him the strength he needed. (2 Cor. 12:8-10; Phil. 4:13) We can have that kind of strength and courage if we humbly recognize that we need Jehovah’s help. (Jas. 4:10) We can be certain that the trials we face are not punishment from Jehovah. The disciple James assures us: “When under trial, let no one say: ‘I am being tried by God.’ For with evil things God cannot be tried, nor does he himself try anyone.” (Jas. 1:13). When we are convinced of that fact, we are drawn closer to our loving heavenly Father. Jehovah “does not vary or change.” (Jas. 1:17) He supported the first-century Christians through their trials, and he will help each of us today too. Earnestly ask Jehovah to help you gain wisdom, faith, and courage. He will answer your prayers
Anxieties, who should be aid us to reduce them?
Everyday's anxieties is very alarming. It's getting stronger and harder every day by day. Solutions and remedy are far-fetched. Who can rescues us? Politicians, they are not our friends. They look after their pockets and their interest. Which is "only" their families and unborn generations! While others - the ruled, they don't care about our woes rather they divide us into religious and ethnic lines to get that "power", they wanted and elevates our everyday's anxieties by ignoring the "reasons" of giving them the power!
Is it the clergy class? These men are given a mantle of leadership but have spoiled it very long ago. Their works should encourage us but keep tearing us down with their insistent demands of money and fortunes for "heavenly blessings" which they don't even possessed. How can you give someone what you don't have? They are in very sinful state but asking others to repents!
What of our Scientist? They are very important but still helpless in their field especially when the world is greeted with new strains of pathogenic microbes. They works tirelessly but still can get a cure. Our hope is not in them again, since they can't even help themselves. Only telling us to stick to personal hygiene which is a healthful routine, not a cure.
Conclusion
Our hopes should be on our Maker. He knows us very well and how to manipulate things for our goods. He is perfect and can't lie. All his works are excellent and very good. From his holy scriptures and books, he urges us to live around our means. Never expect much and be contented with whatever we have. He also wants us to be obedient to every safety rules and healthcare guidelines to keep living healthy lifestyle. Exercise, sleep well and eat good foods will be helpful too.
Break free from generational poverty curse!
To break from the circle of poverty in our families. To avoid blaming others for our financial woes. These are things that we should be doing;
Taking Financial risks. Fears and worries have kept many backwards. Any financial opportunities comes with struggles and risks. Our abilities to overcome them makes us very experienced and better poised to get more financial gains. But avoiding them will also means that we are avoiding opportunities which will keep us in poverty for long.
Entertainment and recreational activities. Some activities especially the types used for leisure can keep us in poverty for long time. Entertainment and recreational activities are very beneficial but are very expensive. choose them wisely and engage in them sparingly will help our pockets.
Bad Habits. Smoking, womanizing, get drunk, drugs, gambling etc are Habits that can affect our pockets. These habits hooks us for a long time and makes huge demands on our pockets. Cut them out aids our financial healthy state.
Dressing and Grooming. Look at our very good is excellent but should not cause much Financially. If we have properly view on them and better management goals on our wardrobes.
Conclusion
Brace up yourself and readjust your mindset to achieve better financial gains. Don't blame others while you still need to work on yourself. Take risks and when opportunities fails, stand up again even if from the lowest state. Our ability to stand over and over makes us great achievers. Avoid certain habits, keep entertainment at it's pace and checkmate our expenses on dressing and Grooming will help you out!
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Your humility makes me great.—2 Sam. 22:36.
A man can learn to be a good family head by imitating the way that Jehovah and Jesus exercise their headship. For instance, consider the quality of humility. Jehovah is the wisest Person in existence; yet, he listens to the opinions of his servants. (Gen. 18:23, 24, 32) Jehovah is perfect, but he does not, at present, expect perfection from us. Instead, he helps imperfect humans who serve him to succeed. (Ps. 113:6, 7) In fact, the Bible even describes Jehovah as a “helper.” (Ps. 27:9; Heb. 13:6) King David acknowledged that he could accomplish the great work he was given to do only because of Jehovah’s humility. Consider Jesus’ example. Although Lord and Master of his disciples, he washed their feet. Jesus himself said: “I set the pattern for you, that just as I did to you, you should also do.” (John 13:12-17) Although he had great authority, Jesus did not expect to be served. Instead, he served others.—Matt. 20:28
Love is enough to sustain any kind of relationship.
Is love enough for marriage to stand the hard times? Have you heard that question before? What do you think? Your answer will determine what you understand love to be!
The term "love" is very deep in affection. It's very emotional and pure. It's ask for what one can do for another, not what one will get from another only. It's sacrificially. Nobody claims to "love" another but can't be real and helpful to that person. Such claims are false and not "real" love. Love does not have measure and can't pretend. So if your love is conditional and dependant on any reason, it's fake! You don't love that person. In a relationship with someone like this mentality, love is not enough!
Do love grow? Let's discuss in Dept about it next time! But if I wait on your growing "love" to sustain our relationship, it will never be enough! Love that's spontaneous based on gifts, favours, money, forgiveness etc is never enough for a long lasting relationship!
Can love be true? Do true love exist? Yes because Love itself is true! Anything short of that is never love but something that I don't even know it's name. Let's be genuine and true to ourselves about this wonderful emotional state "Love". Love should streams from our inner person towards another person. Let it be express to those people without high expectations. It is a word that is actionable and sacrificial. Someone that we loves, can hurt us that's Fact! Our ability to forgive them freely and from heart when they are genuinely repentant, will ease some relationships tensions and makes it last longer.
Love comes with our wonderful qualities like respect, truth, forgiveness, tolerance etc. So if we love someone. It will be truly when we show those other qualities towards those people. Such love is very enough to sustain any kind of relationship!
Don't allow Worries and Anxieties weigh you down
The problem is that we do not know what we should pray for as we need to, but the spirit itself pleads for us with unuttered groanings.—Rom. 8:26.
As you throw your anxiety on Jehovah in prayer, be sure to include words of thanks. It is good for us to count our blessings, even when our circumstances are especially difficult. If at times you are unable to find the right words to express your intense emotions, remember that Jehovah answers prayers as simple as ‘Please help!’ (2 Chron. 18:31) Rely on Jehovah’s wisdom, not your own. Back in the eighth century B.C.E., the people of Judah felt threatened by the Assyrians. In a desperate effort to avoid coming under the Assyrian yoke, they turned to pagan Egypt. (Isa. 30:1, 2) Jehovah warned them that their wayward course would end in disaster. (Isa. 30:7, 12, 13) Through Isaiah, Jehovah told the people how they could find real security. He said: “Your strength will be in keeping calm and showing trust” in Jehovah.—Isa. 30:15b.
Love me or Hate me!
Love is beautiful and everyone wants to be loved. Everyone beams a shining face whenever our activities and existence are highly accepted and appreciated. We felt bad whenever things considering us are repudiated by others. But, what can we do to others for them to cherish us?
It's of note that not everyone will cherish us. Not that it's our fault or something we do, No! Many of our haters don't even know us very well to tell! But they just hate us and don't want anything to do with us! It might be because of our physical appearances, body color, height, ethnicity, language, biological status etc. They just hate us for these factors that we did not develop by ourselves. Many hates us "just" because we are friends of their sworn enemies. Although we don't even know their reasons of enemity. How can we deal with this kinds of haters? Be silent and calm. Don't panic or try to win them over because it might leads to other serious problems. Allow nature take it place. With time, love will conquer such hatred when they found out your innocence and uniqueness.
What about those that says that they love and cherish you when their hearts are far from you? This kind of hatred is worse! Because you might not know that you are dealing with your haters but thinking that they are your friends! They envy and jealous you in any instance. They backstab or backbite you always and indirectly. That's a big red flags! If your friend do that! You have to be careful with such person! When they gossips about another person with you, know that he/she do so with other about you too. Just be careful! Keep your success and achievements silent! Belittle your efforts and results before your friends to see how they will reacts. This method is known as striking the ocean and see how the fish. Those of your friends, but haters will poke their faces or even leave you. Don't worry about them. You just separates goats and sheep. If you don't get any sheep. It is better to be alone than to be surrounded by haters, you called friends!
Conclusion
Hard situations and challenges bring out the true nature of people around us. Let's keep managing our affairs personally and allow nature to take it's course. Time solves a lot of problems especially individuality or personality differences! It's better that you hate me than posing as a friend but my sworn enemy! But love brings progress and unity! Let's love ourselves!
Surely in vain I have kept my heart pure and washed my hands in innocence.—Ps. 73:13.
The Levite psalmist began to envy the wicked and arrogant, not because of their badness, but because of their evident prosperity. (Ps. 73:2-9, 11-14) They seemed to have it all—wealth, a good life, and no anxieties. The Levite needed to see things from Jehovah’s standpoint. On doing so, he was at peace once again, and he was happy. He said: “Besides [Jehovah] I desire nothing on earth.” (Ps. 73:25) Likewise,let us never envy wicked people who seem to prosper. Their happiness is superficial and temporary. (Eccl. 8:12, 13) To envy them is to invite discouragement as well as spiritual ruin. So if you find yourself envying the seeming success of the wicked, do what the Levite did. Heed God’s loving advice, and associate with others who do Jehovah’s will. When Jehovah is your greatest delight, you will find true happiness. And you will stay on the path to “the real life.”—1 Tim. 6:19
My First on Noise.cash. new Community created and my journey so far on read.cash
Hello everyone,
Thanks for giving me your undivided attention. Reading my article with other of your useful activities here needs your time and other resources. But you keep it up to be with me. I will not let you down. That's my promise.
Being on this legitimate Platform excites me a lot. I have always dreamt of being rewarded for writing my article or blogs till a friend showed me this. I'm very grateful to him @unclecee . On this Platform, I don't expect much but just to own a single dollar ($1) of this token. It will go a long to improve my life and get me on my feet back again.
This Platform had many intricate part but I'm highly drawn to the way that it's being arranged. The communities are superb and our ability to create a new one too is highly appreciated. Although being here in a very shortest time, I have created a community titled @daily Bible Reading.
This Community had a mission of motivating, encouraging and inspiring us all in the Faith. Feel free to join and discuss a Bible verse with us to build us up!
However, after reading some articles from one of my mentor here @BCH_LOVER, I stumbled at a new other Platform incorporated with this unique Platform. That Platform is called noise.cash. I quickly ask her about it. She gave me a satisfying answers and encourage me to get registered. Which I did.
I even download the app from Google play store for easy accessibility. I wrote a lot of post on it already. I'm very happy to be HERE.
Conclusion
A wise saying is that "show me how to fish than giving me a fish. Being here will exposes me more. Increase my crypto knowledge and forum to express myself. More to this, get rewarded for writing about myself and things around. I pledged to be determined and consistent in the quest of becoming a "Better" me in the coming days.
Our hearts may condemn us.—1 John 3:20
Feelings of guilt are not unusual. For example, some feel guilty because of things they did before they learned the truth. Others feel guilty because of mistakes they made after baptism. (Rom. 3:23) Of course, we want to do what is right. But “we all stumble many times.” (Jas. 3:2; Rom. 7:21-23) Although we do not enjoy feeling guilty, it can do us some good. Why? Because feelings of guilt can move us to correct our course and to be determined not to repeat our mistakes. (Heb. 12:12, 13) On the other hand, it is possible to feel excessive guilt—that is, to continue to feel guilty even after we have repented and Jehovah has shown that he has forgiven us. That type of guilt can be harmful. (Ps. 31:10; 38:3, 4) It is vital that we guard against the trap of excessive guilt. After all, just think how happy it would make Satan if we were to give up on ourselves —even though Jehovah has not given up on us!—Compare 2 Corinthians 2:5-7, 11
Who Is Right For Me?
Marriage is very important but very crucial relationship that should be taken very seriously. In this part of the world, marriage relationship is very complex because it involves more than the two individuals attached. Here, it involves the families of the both parties and even their friends. Any wrong or differences can't be solved wholly by the two individuals involved but mainly solved by everyone else. To my great surprise, when the couples are progressing and living a happily life, those intending parties does not get attached! But whenever wrong or conflicts that's when they are involved!
Who is Right For Me? I keep asking myself. But there's no satisfying answers yet! I'm a devout Christian who believed solely on the supremacy of Jehovah God, I don't doubt his power and ultimate solution but from the pages of Bible, I studied favourably but can't be satisfied with the answers provided because there's no direct answer to my challenge and question! I don't believe in magic or miracle but I still know that God will provide a right one for me but how will I know her, is still my dilemma!
Traditionally, we believe our elders and families in every issues. Initially, they are the ones that solely decides when one of their family members is ready for marriage. Even if they are not capable Financially and morally, their elders and families will help them to get a "right" one and gave them means to start a marital journey. Reason why they get involved maybe;
To increase their numbers of the family members because they believed in "igwebuike" meaning that their is absolute strength in numbers.
To fully getting their land and property rights. Because it is "only" married man is viewed "responsible" and seen as a man to get participated in village and family discussion.
To avoid shame. They believe that it's "only" unmarried ones can be promiscuous.
With their understanding then, the sample reasons above and more are seen "correct" to them. But the time have changed abruptly, those reasons can be doubted and absolutely very wrong. Also, their preference and ability to choose a "right" one for another is very wrong perceptive now because everyone have a choice and whatever that seems "right" to me, might not be right to another. Another reason is that one's character can change. Once, a right one can be influenced wrongly by the peers and other societal groups. Any issues that comes up will not be adjudged alright but blamed on the families for arranging such marriage. Now, everyone should make their choices. This statement scares me a lot.
Physically, beauty and physical appearances of an individual changes and beauty is very relative. Whatever, that can attract me to someone, can't attract another person to that person. Individually, my choice on physical appearances keep changing too. Who will I blame? So if I attached my choice of the "right one" based on beauty and physical appearances, I will be totally wrong. I have asked a lot of married people this question. They said that beauty is not a factor to watch out! But how can I stay faithfully to someone that I'm not physically attractive, is it possible? No wonder, many of them are enduring their marital life while they supposed to be enjoying it!
Many of my findings from the research on this question proved that it's "only" one's character can be used as a yardstick to called a person "right one". That's is true with many evidences and predecents. But, whose character is the best? No one! Even me that's writing! I do wrongs many times. But can be a "right one" for someone. This means that my "right one" will have her wrongs too but my abilities to overlook them and appreciate her good sides will make her my "right one" and I will enjoy my marital life despite the woes in the world!
Conclusion
There's no specific plans and place to get the "right one". Ability to define the "right one" too is solely on the individual perceptive. Beauty, physical appearances and personal behaviors are useful parameters to consider while contemplating who is the "right one" to get married too. Happy Marriage is only achieved when both parties tolerate, respect, forgive, love and communicate freely!
Introduction
INTRODUCTION
Hello everyone,
I'm very happy to introduce myself HERE. A platform where a quality content created can be rewarded with cryptos. A platform like this is very rare and should be appreciated. Let me tell you more about myself.
My name is KALU ORJI SAMUEL with a username; @kaluorjisamuel here. I'm a Nigerian from Igbo extraction. Based in Aba, Abia State, Nigeria. I'm a devout Christian that believe in supremacy of Jahovah God that's not equal to his son, Jesus Christ or his active force, Holy Spirit. I'm the first born of the family of three kids, Two boys and a girl. My Dad is late when I was only 5 yrs and being fatherless boy at that tender age is very difficult experience. My Mom is a pretty trader in this third world country where we don't have up to a dollar a day but keep surviving.
EDUCATION AND SOCIAL STATUS
I have a higher diploma in Environmental design and technology and I'm very passionate about environmental sustainable development approaches and goals to curb the menace of our dangerous activities on dying mother Earth. I'm also an amateur artist, who dabble in free hand drawing as a passion and stress reliever. I speak and write good English language and Igbo which is my mother's tongue. Socially, I belong to many social organizations where my contribution are appreciated and had meaningful impact.
MARITAL AND HEALTH STATUS
I'm very single without complicated relationships. But, with the hope of getting married to my "would be" wife. Below is my health status
GENOTYPE: AA
BLOOD GROUP: A+
HIV STATUS: HIV-
I'm 4.57 m tall with broad shoulders. Black skin and strong bones.
@kaluorjisamuel
