I believe that distance makes the heart grow fonder, but not during a pandemic. Life has been tough for couples during the COVID-19 crisis. The ones living together have struggled to put up with each other but it’s been harrowing for the ones living miles apart. The lockdown has made all of us paranoid but the distance has made long-distance couples more anxious and insecure. There is no timeline for when they will meet again, so naturally, frustration can kick in. It’s tough and we all are struggling to save our relationships, so, here are a few mistakes to avoid.
1. Don’t over-analyse
Remember, this phase is temporary. It’s an uncertain time and everyone is in the same boat. Do the best you can to keep things as normal as possible. Don’t go into a negative spiral. Things may go haywire but to make decisions based on that is not healthy for your relationship. How your partner is currently reacting to certain conversations is temporary. Don’t make decisions in a hurry. Don’t catastrophize.
2. Communicate, but not 24x7
Focus on building proper communication. It is the key to a healthy long-distance relationship, but that doesn't mean you stay connected 24x7. Giving your partner space is now as important as ever. You don’t need to be on video calls all the time so, don’t force them. Stop keeping tabs on your partner because personal space is of utmost importance in every relationship.
3. Don’t suspect your partner
Trust is the base of any relationship. Try to control your suspicious nature because remember the other person is suffering as well. Don’t bombard them with questions if they don’t pick your call at once or ask you not to call at a certain hour. It’s natural for your mind to be surrounded by mostly negative thoughts but don’t let that ruin your relationship.
4. Manage your expectations
If you are in a long-distance relationship, manage the expectations you have from your partner, especially during the pandemic. Try to be emotionally strong because your partner is far and can’t be present all the time to take care of your emotional needs.
5. Avoid heated conversations
You already have a lot to stress about, why add another? Try to back off from conversations that would lead to arguments. Always remember, your partner isn’t your punching bag so stop treating them like one. Lashing out at your partner will only make things worse. Be patient with your partner, don’t jump to conclusions like, ‘I don’t think it’s working anymore.’
Just to think that long distance relationship really works if you will give the serious attention with it.
