In 4 years of high school, you have a lot of friends and others for a short period. You think you’ll be friends forever... until you drift apart.
I had a friend for 11 years that I thought I would have for the rest of my life. We always talked about how we wanted to live next to one another and raise our families together. Until he decided he no longer wanted that.
After graduation we started to drift apart. No more daily conversations, no more getting together, that was that. It broke my heart. The one person that I thought I would always have by my side was gone. That’s a hard pill to swallow. From this I got upset, angry and just plain confused. What had I done so wrong?
After a while I had confronted this friend and asked her what happened to our friendship. Her explanation was kind of a slap to the face. He had basically said I was self-absorbed and he was sick of it. Now in my defense, everyone can be self-absorbed at times. Though, for the most part I was a great friend in my opinion and I would do anything within reason for her. I truly just think he had found people that he thought were better and that was the easiest way to explain it.
A few months later I left for college. After I was all moved in I figured I would reach out one more time to see if I can fix what had been destroyed. It didn’t work but at least I can say I tried. After that I fully gave up on the idea. It was the closure that one may need during a break-up. Some do say that friendships hurt worse than romantic relationships when they’re broken up.
After that all was great. I had made new friends at school and still kept in touch with the loyal friends from high school that I still had. I eventually got over being upset over this one broken friendship and started focusing on making other quality ones. It took a while but I finally was able to get to that point.
During summer break, one of my best friends from home wanted to go out to eat and go skating with me and this former friend. To be completely honest, it was weird. It was as if I were meeting her for the first time. I wasn’t sure what to say or how much to say. I don’t trust her anymore to indulge more than surface knowledge. Since then, we went back to not speaking to one another. I’ve been told from sources that others have noticed that he changed and he actually tarnished more friendships than just ours.