Marriage is not easy, it is still necessary to prepare for this stage of our lives. They say that marriage is not like hot food that when you taste it and you burnt , you spit it out. It is important that you isolate yourself from your family to get used to being independent. Aside from being independent, you will build your own family, you should no longer depend on and live with your parents because once you have children, you will serve as their guidance.
Soon, the couple must learn to stand on their own two feet. In the long run, use this time lesson on how to operate a house so that when you move out you will not be too innovative. When separated, the couple is forced to solve problems that do not always depend on the parents. This way, they will be more responsible and easily learn to app
The following are advantages when you are isolated:
When you rent either rent or own a house you will have what we call "privacy" which is very important to the couple. Like me, having a space of my own is very important to me because I want privacy. I want to feel like there is only one mom and dad in a house. I can't comfortable when someone else is with me, even my parents or siblings. Even my husband also wants to have his own space so he understands what I want. I don't want an extended family.
You can do whatever you want. Have your own time at home. It doesn't matter if you laying all day, you will not clean the house or you will wake up at noon you will not hear anything because your house, your rules. Only you and your spouse can argue.
Learn to be independent in everything. What you serve, what you cook, how you budget, how you fix the house, what you buy, the color of the paint, etc. In short, you and your spouse have your own decision in everything.
You have control over your child. How do you raise and discipline, what to feed or what things you want to instill in your child without contradiction. This measures your family structure and how you can be responsible in your lives.
No one interferes when your spouse / partner has problems. There is no bias because you are the only two adults in the house, no one will interfere. Your problem is not the problem of your entire relative. Because in married life its not advisable to interfere, sometimes small problems grow due to the instigation of the people who are with you at home.
Financially responsible. All your finances are the only two of you that have the right to how you spend. You'll learn how to save. Also learn to work hard because you have nothing to expect from paying your bills and household expenses.
You will your own identity as a family. You can change what you do not want from the ones you grew up with, you can make your own family traditions. You can change your past family traditions that you don't want. Remember, that you build your own version of family.
Less stress. You are not tip- toe, you are free to act without eyes looking at you.
You'll grow as husband and wife. You will get to know each other better.
Peace of mind. That is priceless. It doesn't matter if you cook dried fish as long as no one interferes with you. They say, do not interfere, especially if they have no contribution to your work.
Leaving your parents doesn't mean you don't love them anymore. Actually they can also breathe more because they also need quite space. It will also reduce their thinking especially financially. Leaving your parents doesn't mean you are not oblige to visit them, its about being an independent and decision making.
