We Believe Other Lies about Love

We have all heard the common phrase, "true love never dies." Death, divorce, and breakups, no matter how many times it is said, separate even the best couples all the time. Just because someone for a while has their one true love, people change, things happen, and there is no assurance that those feelings will last. Many have tried to come up with an explanation for love for hundreds of years, but they always miss the mark. Here are a couple more misconceptions about it that we believe and why you shouldn't fall for them.

Love At First Sight

In fairy tales and movies, "Love at first sight" is a common term. It happens when, from across the room, two people who have never met simultaneously catch each other's eyes and immediately realize they've found their match. While several individuals would say they knew they were going to marry their significant other even before their relationship started, for everyone, the sudden spark does not occur.

Your Soulmate

A soulmate's concept is promising. The guarantee that your perfect match is somewhere out there; one person who will know you uniquely when no one else will, gives us hope when we inquire, "does true love exist?"

Love Hurts

This is one of the most damaging lies out there about marriage. Whether it be physical, emotional, or mental, love can never hurt. Although love is complicated, and traumatic things happen in relationships, this is a big red flag of violence if your partner is continually hurting you in any way. You should apologize to a partner who is hurting you. But you need to quit if they do not want to fix their actions or just repeat their hurtful tendencies time and time again. You may feel like you're letting them down or giving up on them, but the priority is your safety and health.

Love Conquers All

We are also taught the fantasy that all the issues in the world will be solved if people loved each other more. Unfortunately, the solution to life's tests is not always affection. Even couples who love one another intensely also need more.

Love Is All You

Need Knowing that our basic needs include food, water, and shelter, this lie is obvious. Despite this, love, just not in the traditional sense, is important for your overall well-being. For your mental health, self-love is far more important and is much longer-lasting than relying on a romantic partner to fulfill you.

Time Heals All Wounds

Time can indeed help with heartbreak, but maybe you need a lot more. Self-love, self-care, and some one-on-one time with a licensed mental health professional are effective in helping individuals in their lives to overcome painful circumstances. In reality, suffering silently for long periods with health conditions such as anxiety and depression can result in feelings getting worse. While it is nice to think that our problems with love will disappear in time, if there are no other tools to help, this is rarely the case.

Love Will Find A Way

We get put in difficult situations in our relationships sometimes. For instance, when a job change puts two individuals on different sides of the nation. Although some relationships can overcome just about anything, others need certain circumstances to thrive. It is stupid to believe that just because two people love each other, all their other emotions or obligations can be put aside. Sometimes, love must be sacrificed for a bigger or more urgent cause whether we like it or not.

Why does it matter not to believe the lies?

Although they do not bode well for real-life advice, these clichés about love work for poetry. This is because they're leading us to believe a lot of fake love theories. Here are just some of the thoughts they're spreading, and why they matter.

They Do Not Tell Us About Real Love

For every couple, true love looks different, and it is an idea that is not easy to write in words. Trying to make a lie fit into the concept of love produces a false impression of what love is or what it may be. You are the only one that can describe what love is for you. And a better judge would be your heart than a quote that sounds good.

They trick people into relationships with unhealthy

Ideas such as "love hurt" and "all is fair in love (and war)" set the stage for the notion that relationships are supposed to be hectic. They diminish the significance of all relationships of the limits, respect, and protection that should be found. For romantic storylines, messy love is wonderful, but it becomes toxic easily.

The Lead To Heartache

If you start thinking that love means never having to say "I'm sorry" or that time cures all wounds, the meaning of real feelings is downplayed. You don't have to suppress those emotions just because you've been led to believe that's what happens in a relationship if someone you love has hurt you. Some issues in love do need an apology or someone to go out of their way to right their wrongs. Others might need the help of a therapist.

They're making more lies

Not finding your "soulmate" or not feeling the deep feelings of love at first sight, when it comes to love, can sometimes make someone feel like they are doing something wrong. If you have a very rigid understanding of what love is supposed to be, and you do not discover that it is possible to get caught in the thought that you are supposed to be alone. This, of course, is not the case. You might just have to change your definition of what love is.