We're parents, all we want is the best for our kids. So, we provided them all they needed as we can. We will do everything for them. We don't think about how tremendous and hard our sacrifices. Just to grow your child kind and intelligent or gifted.
But the question is how we will grow them as strong and independent? Let's find out how.
As they grow, they need to stand on their feet- especially when your child is a girl. As a woman, they have many challenges that might be facing in their lives like gender inequality, the perspective of the society that women are weak, and their mindset that women need to stay at home. A woman's role is to take care of and guide their children, but the division depends on them. But how to raise them as strong and independent women. The important is to know her that responsibility has no gender. Women are not only for house responsibility like cooking, washing clothes, and taking care of their kids. Nowadays, women can work as man's do. In obligation and responsibility start a child for being an independent one.
There are 5 ways on how to become strong and independent of your children:
Let them having failures. Don't make a failure a big issue. They will make mistakes and they might even repeat them despite your warnings. Acceptance for their mistakes and failures make them strong and courageous. Let them know what he could have done better but don't connect their failures.
Let them make their own decision at times. Teach them how to be responsible. You might prefer to have your child do their homework before playing. But he might be playing first then doing their homework. It might be starting them in choosing what to wear. Let them buy their taste in shoes and dress if they are going out.
Let them get hurt. I'm not referring to serious injuries here but I am discussing this from the standpoint of normal injuries as normal childhood activities, not tragedies. Don't worry if they're being hurt because it is part of their milestone. Yes, it's hard for us to see them crying, being hurt by their friends, or having low grades that affect their emotions. But it's part of the process and let them accept all challenges. You only need to guide them.
Don't give them limitations and expectations. In their growth and development, they are passing the puberty stage. There's a change in their body, starting how to groom themselves and having a group of friends. At this stage, girls are more sensitive than boys, time will come that they will change their physical appearance and their actions. The main reason is being pressured in her environment. Base on what she saw in her environment is her definition of being smart and beautiful. Teach them how to be herself because this is the key to become a strong and independent woman.
Be consistent. As they grow, have a lot of discovered things. They will be facing in real-world and preparing in making decisions. It will be successful if parents become brave and consistent in guiding them.
Your child's obligations involve doing what is important to maximize the opportunities that you give them. These obligations include giving their best effort, being responsible and disciplined, staying committed, and giving an achievement opportunity a realistic try, as well as, completing all tasks and exercises, getting the most out of instruction, and being cooperative. As they learn of being independent, they test their capabilities in the real world and find a sense of competence and security. Parents should be there to protect them when needed.
I agree with what you've said. Parents are just a support to their children. Children should make things on their own with a parents support at their back. It okay to have failures, it's part of life and in this failures children also learned.