At times, everyone seems a little unsure. We continually think as human beings, and some of our thoughts may be filled with doubt. This can contribute to thoughts of insecurity. In relationships and your daily life, too much insecurity can lead to other issues. There are ways, however, that you can work more confidently despite your insecure thoughts and live life.
What Is Insecurity?
A sense of inadequacy and confusion is vulnerability. This causes anxiety about your interests, relationships, and willingness to cope with those circumstances.
From time to time, everyone struggles with insecurity. It can occur and come from several causes in all areas of life. It could result from a traumatic incident, prior experience patterns, social conditioning, or local environments such as school, work, or home.
Types of Insecurity
There are some types of insecurity that appear frequently.
Relationship Insecurity
One of the most common forms of vulnerability concerns interactions or "attachments."
The theory of attachment arose from a desire to relate early childhood attachment patterns to later relationship patterns and expectations. When the "attachment figures" of a child are often not reliably accessible and positive by parents or guardians, the child often feels insecure, develops a negative self-image and relationship models, and later in life experiences greater emotional distress and maladjustment.
Insecurity of Work
When you are worried about your continued employment or the continuation of such benefits associated with your career, job insecurity arises. Anxiety over your job performance or anxiety over factors outside your control, such as the economy, market developments, conflict in the workplace, or the possibility of business restructuring or failure, may cause it.
What is likely to get in our way of coping with insecurity?
Any of the hindrances that get in the way:
Previous critiques. If we were criticized by a parent or other relatives when we were growing up, or if we were bullied, we have probably internalized it. I'm grateful that my mom still seemed to tolerate me the way I used to be, but not my dad. He had insecurities of his own, but those would manifest themselves as critiques of me.
A negative self-image. You tend to criticize yourself as individuals criticize you over the years. And all this criticism results in a self-image that isn't so healthy, along with negative comparisons of yourself to others. It doesn't matter if this self-image doesn't match reality, we can be professional, brilliant, and beautiful, but if we have an image of ourselves that's hideous, stupid, and beautiful.
Required approval. To preserve this self-image, the dilemma then becomes that we need more validation, and we fear not having the approval because then this wonderful self-image will go away. In a loop of perpetual need for acceptance and fear of rejection, we become trapped. In terms of acceptance or rejection, we read into all that everyone says and does, in real life and on social media.
Absence of faith. We learn not to trust other individuals to stick to us, to support us, to see our side of things as understandable. Over the years, this is trained in us as people do stuff that we think of as abandonment or rejection. We quit trusting the moment to turn out all right.
Social Media & Media Pictures. On Instagram or other social media, we compare ourselves to the hot people we see. In movies, TV, magazines, we equate ourselves with those hot people. These pictures are supposed to sell us, but by making us feel insecure about ourselves, the way they sell us and then wanting whatever it is that the celebrities sell us so that we can be as good as them.
Not accepting of ourselves things. Ultimately, the effect is that we deny substantial parts of ourselves. We don't like being overweight, we don't like getting pimples, we don't like something about our bodies. Parts of our inner self, the parts that are undisciplined or uncaring or afraid or lazy, are often rejected by us. The pieces of ourselves that are vulnerable, we deny.
How to deal with Insecurity
Forgive the past. If a peer or authority figure who criticizes you has influenced your insecurities, consider this. Start to forgive them then. Understand that they were motivated by insecurities of their own, grappling with demons of their own. They weren't right on what they did, but you can still comprehend it. And forgive them for their bad conduct, for its not bitterness to hang on to.
Accepting all of yourself. Note the aspects of yourself that you do not like, both your body and your inner self. Think of how you can treat this imperfect friend, and be yourself the same way. Give trust to yourself, give yourself compassion. Embrace every part of you. It's what makes you who you are, and it's amazing.
Conduct self-approval exercise. You do not need the permission of someone else except your own. That doesn't mean that you don't want love or interaction with others, but you can love and be loved by others while being self-approved as well. Accepting yourself enjoying yourself.
Embrace Non-comparison. Instead, instead of comparing yourself with them, when you see someone else, see them as apples to your oranges. Be happy they had fun, be happy with their accomplishments. They're on a very different path than you, and they can be happy, and they can have a great time, and so can you, on your path.
Develop faith at the moment. Build trust at the moment when it will unfold and be well.
You find the stuff that you struggle with, and you learn to deal with them. Learn to change your point of view. Learn to see what's driving you up, and turn it into a chance to learn new abilities.
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