Probably because I was approaching the age of 30, the marital conversations both around me and in the family reached the highest level. First of all, my friends got married one by one, and now my mother started to say that she was a nurse, look she was a teacher, and turned the wheel to my mother-in-law. If we can find our way, we will marry, Mommy, I am not saying that we will not marry, but let's talk about these issues first.
When I ask people around me, how much money have you spent for getting married, the lowest is 60 thousand. There are no expenses such as meals or wedding halls. When you tell me to have a living room and give food, you have spent an expense of 100 thousand. The money needed for two people to get married is 100 thousand.
Somehow I could not understand the following thoughts of women. (I am beyond those who stand out and think rationally.) I do not know whether they are in their nature, I do not know the idea of getting married once, but almost all of them think the same way.
After all, I get married once, then there must be a photo shoot, I know it will remain a memory even if we take normal photos, but he should give 3-4 thousand to the outer shot! After all, I get married once, he should buy the best white goods, the best furniture sets, I know that white goods and furniture set will be renewed 3-4 times more, but now he should buy the best! Shall I count, more honorable people?
As the ummah of the prophet who says that the best marriage is the easiest and the most burdensome one, are you aware of how difficult we make marriage and how much we spend? Right, you were married once, I forgot. You can put the newly formed family into debt for years just because you are getting married once. Then how can you expect peace from that house?
Who are you marrying me, me or the furniture you call indispensable? Sometimes I wonder if I'm thinking wrong, but I don't. Wherever I hold it, everywhere remains in my hand. If it seems right for you that the newly married couple is in debt, perhaps in the best years of their lives, unfortunately I have nothing to say.
I also want to have my own home, read a book with my wife, watch movies, and discuss. But the situation shows that it makes more sense to do these against the wall rather than with a partner. I am a man of logic, brother, if I give a name to the wall opposite me, this is okay. Welcome schizophrenia.
Now, after writing all this stuff, there will be those who think of being stingy. Vallahi is not because I was stingy, it is not billahi. Instead of giving so much money to so many unnecessary and ridiculous things, it seems more correct to me to go abroad with my wife after a humble wedding to get to know different people and learn about their cultures. I am ready to give as much money as I have in my pocket to travel with my wife and meet our needs, and I will think that if I give that much money to that saloon suit, to the horse thieves who will block the car, the wedding dress to be worn for 2-3 hours, to decorate the bridal car, I will think that I am an idiot. I don't like crowds anyway, I'm getting narrow, I can't stay in that hall even if I pay that much.
Now that I do not have any marital situation in front of me, I may be talking with a lot of pouches, but if those days come, I will resist and try to resist. Now this circuit has to be reversed. Otherwise, we will be more bored.