It means being an individual and establishing your own truths; It does not mean ignoring the obligation to comply with the rules of society and environment, and the frame of education we have acquired in our traditional culture.
With the changing time, I observe that starting from primary school age, children's desire to do what they know and put in their minds has turned into a predatory thing. Children and young people often misunderstand the pursuit of what they want, perseverance and determination. The fact that a group of children who were asked not to play ball here -for this reason- had to say this over and over, tried to do their own thing without heeding the warnings in front of the "balling is prohibited in this area" sign, looking into the eyes of those who reminded the rule while doing this and wanting to give a message by continuing the action, really scary. Acting with the logic of "We have decided to do this and no power can prevent us" cannot be classified as human behavior. This behavior is unique to the wild nature that fights to survive.
It is one of the most challenging tasks of parents and educators to raise a youth who can feel the power to realize what they want to do, who have high self-confidence, who are determined and who break their own. Because the child/young person who needs to establish all these values as solid building blocks in his/her personality; Showing stubborn, oppressive, self-centred, disrespectful and unruly behaviors, continuing on his way without questioning, examining, ignoring warnings and criticisms, making stubbornness a way of life, will cause the unhappiness of the generation we are trying to create. The challenge is to strike the balance.
Children pass, the foundations of behavior are laid at the age called. He doesn't understand, most things are made sense at times called smaller. He is the child of yesterday who realizes that he can get something in the end when he wants, crying, today at work, at home, and is the one who wreaks havoc when he doesn't get what he wants. It has not been taught that life is not like that. It is a child who distributes but does not know how to collect, never mind, it is our child we say, who will not be able to deal with the files he distributes at work in the future or who will not be able to adapt to the order of his home. If we think of our children as candy dough, we can visualize them better. They are very sweet, displaying a very cheerful exterior. However, if we do not shape the dough correctly in time before it dries, they will be left on the side like garbage, as they will break the integrity of the piece that needs to be completed. However, with the right styling, the whole will become perhaps the most eye-catching, the most desired part.
Parents should never forget its power in creating future generations. It is very difficult for individuals who have not received family education to show a change in behavior after mixing with society. What should be given to children and young people; Confidence should not be confused with stubbornness, the key is the ability to maintain a balance.
