We need role models throughout our lives. The character traits and behavior patterns of the people we take as an example from a young age make a great contribution to our development. However, it is not always possible to come across positive and strong models in life. Therefore, we can consider creating such models ourselves, which will guide us especially as we move towards our life goals… How? By modeling ourselves in the future!
Your core model is you who have accomplished your future goals. It is your future self that succeeds in getting where you want to be. This person is both a part of you and a higher version of yourself that embodies certain traits that you don't currently have. He is the person who has succeeded in reaching your goals by overcoming the difficulties that you will experience in the future. In this state, he may be the only person who can guide you in life.
Now let's try to bring it to life with an application consisting of three steps. In the first step, we will build our Self Model with the help of specific questions, while in the next steps we will learn how we can benefit from it in our lives.
Step One: Creating a Self-Model
You can get better results if you do this work by watching my video "Increase Your Motivational Power". First, try to visualize an important goal that you want to achieve. Take your time, think about it and make it very clear… What do you want to do, what to have or who do you want to be? If you wish, you can pause the video while answering the questions and express the answers to these questions by writing.
1. What kind of person is this person who achieves his goals? What are your personal characteristics? For example, he can be patient or hardworking. 2. What behaviors do they exhibit? What behaviors does he have that make him different from your current one? 3. What habits does he have that make him successful? What does it do, what does it never do? 4. What does he believe in? What strong beliefs does he have to achieve his goals? What are their values? What does it care about? 5. What are the physical characteristics of this future self? How does it look? How does she dress? 6. You can even give it a name if you want. If you can't think of a unique name, try naming it by adding the word 'super' to the beginning of your name.
Second Step: Developing a Self Model
Who you are is the main factor that determines what you can do. Remember, to achieve your goals, you need to become the person who can achieve them. All these features that you have just mentioned refer to the personal development goals that you need to reach over time. Set yourself daily and weekly goals and create a plan for confidently moving towards your big goal.
You can turn your self-model into a powerful motivational tool with practical applications throughout the day. If your goal is to lose weight, for example, paste your face on a photo of someone with the physical features you are targeting. Hang it where you can see it every day…. A second method is to pretend to have the features you want to have. Try acting like your Self Model throughout the day, talking like him. These applications will make you feel closer to him. In the words of Leonard Cohen, act as you want to be and you will soon be as you act.
The legendary story of the hunchbacked king is a good example of this. In ancient times, there was a hunchbacked king who lived in a country. Because this king was hunchbacked, he could not come out of his shame in front of his people. One day, he decided to have his own statue made in front of the king's palace; however, this was a statue that did not resemble him at all, stood upright and had a proper physique. Every day he would stand in front of that statue, look at it and try to look like it... After a long time, the hunchbacked king decided to appear before his people. When he appeared before them, all the people were stunned. Because no one could believe it when they saw that their king no longer had a hunchback and even had a very smooth physique.
Your self-model is a powerful figure that can support you in the challenges you will face throughout your life and guide you to make the right decisions. So much so that, as an imaginary being, you can talk to him, have trouble with him and get ideas from him. It is also your strongest link to your subconscious wisdom. Your inner voice that you've been suppressing for so long is your self-actualizing master self.
Consider consulting him whenever you run into any problems or need to make an important decision. Call him by his name and start talking to him. If he were in your place, what would he do, what would he say, what decisions would he make? You can use the following methods to feel the presence of your Essence Model more easily and quickly:
Try associating it with an object you can carry with you. This could be a photo, necklace, bracelet or a ring. Every time you see it and touch it, you can more easily feel your self-model.
Try to associate it with a music or sound. Thus, every time you hear this music, it will be easier to feel it next to you.
You might also consider associating it with a space. This could be any part of your home, a residential area or a hidden place in nature. Once you are there, your communication with him will be much easier. You can also do this by visualizing it in your mind. For example, imagine that you come together in the vacuum of space or in the middle of the sea. Remember, your imagination has no limits.
Your core model is your closest ally. He understands you when you make a mistake, he never judges you. It guides you to become better and guides you to reach your own resources. As he enjoys doing this, he does it with serious responsibility. You ask why? Because its existence depends on you. So in order to live, it needs you to move forward and evolve towards it. Start talking to him now without wasting time. For example, ask him what you need to achieve your goal… Ask him to tell you how he achieved all this. Maybe at first you may have a hard time hearing his voice and feeling his presence. But once you connect, you can be sure that with his support you can take stronger steps towards your goals.