#1 The Need To Love Is An Evolutionary Trait.
We have a lot of needs as human beings. We need food, water, air and shelter in order to survive. But what drives us is something else. We need to belong to some sort of social group, we need to feel useful. If you take away any of these needs we will feel as though we are left with a hollow void in our lives, and we are not prepared to live life that way. But what about love?
In many different ways we need to love. Whether we’re attracted to someone or having a relationship. It’s an instinctive need that we are born with, and it is not optional. So why do we need to love? It could be because we can’t do without it, but I’d prefer to believe that it has evolved as an adaptation from the need to feel as though we belong to some sort of social group.
#2 We Need To Love To Feel Valued.
Another reason why we need to love is that it has evolved to make us feel valued. We want to feel as though we are a significant part of the world, or at least that we matter. The fact that you care about your partner in the way that you do demonstrates how much they mean to you.
But how much you care also demonstrates that you have needs, too. That you care about them, you feel valued and worthy. In fact, how much you care can be taken as an indicator of how well you are doing in life. That is because we all do it instinctively. We want to be valued, we want to belong. And if we need to belong to a social group in order to feel this way about life, that’s what will motivate us to feel valued and love someone.
#3 You Need To Love When You Fear Deprivation.
Many of us are naturally drawn to the people and things that make us feel safe. We are afraid of living our lives alone and we need to know that someone cares for us, will protect us. Of course we need love when we are in pain. However, we don’t just need love during our moments of greatest need. We need to be loved throughout our whole lives.
When we’re afraid of living alone, of being deprived of love, of getting hurt by it, we want to have it because we know that love is important. When we’re afraid of not having it, that same feeling can motivate us to live a life filled with love. In fact, the feeling of love for the people we care about can help us out of situations where our life could get really rough. This can include financial insecurity, an unhealthy relationship, and a difficult lifestyle situation.
#4 You Need To Love To Feel Valued As A Person.
Most of us experience life by comparing ourselves to those who are more successful. While that’s what keeps us motivated and in business, we also end up devaluing ourselves. How can we feel good about ourselves when we are comparing ourselves to others who are doing well? How can we possibly be valued as a person when we are valuing others? It takes our eyes off of us and instead places them on others who we can relate to or feel bad about. This allows us to see ourselves from a different perspective. It gives us more confidence in ourselves.
#5 The Feeling Of Valuedness Comes.
With Our Own Loving Love The best way to become more confident and feel more valued as a person is to love yourself. When you love yourself, you are also loving others. You’re showing them that they are valuable. You’re saying, “I love you,” in other words. In fact, you feel happy when you love yourself and then you also love others.
People are not always easy to understand, but if you can learn to love them, it will make your life so much easier. Once you learn the art of loving others, they will have no choice but to love you back.
We all need to be loved so we can learn how to love ourselves and then teach others how to love us as well.