You know, there is an idiom that is frequently spoken that we take for granted; "People talk, talk, animals coke, coke ..."
"The basis of all lace is also a tiny noose." Although it has spoken its word to encourage those who aspire to write poetry, this discourse; I think he is a locker that can be adapted to every aspect of life in motion and can open every door.
The door to the conversation is "Hello!" a salute or "O folks!" pop up with similar exclamation,
"Hello", which we use almost everywhere to everyone, is an Arabic origin greeting. We can say that it is an exclamation that means "no harm will come from me to you or to you". Usually the beginning of all speech, all human relations begins with such an exclamation.
Although it has decreased a lot nowadays; When a person passes by the road or when he is sitting down and sitting, he gives a small greeting and a voice in his own language. The door to conversation opens. People "talk, talk" get to know each other, discuss problems, acquire new information, share their thoughts, etc.
Man is a social being. They are in constant relationship and communication with each other from a close distance for various reasons in different environments. Most of these relationships are co-production, co-development, socialization, etc. for purposes only. The reason from him is necessary and necessary relationships. They are also ordinary relationships with limited purpose. Ordinary friendships and friendships emerge in this ordinary relationship environment.
Michel de Montaigne (French writer 1533-1592) “For ordinary friendships; in those friendships, one should walk on the reins. The bond between them is not so knotted that there is no place for distrust. ” recommends to be careful with ordinary friends and friends. This suggestion and warning is also a mania.
Let's get back to the subject by reinforcing it with "My coffees were cooked // Come, the foam overflowed.
I mentioned it in another article… Your family, relatives, your mother tongue, your nation, your ethnic origin are not your choice but your destiny. Other than these, all your preferences are yours. You have to determine your own job, spouse, friend and other preferences. This is what a free person should do. A free person knows how to bear his destiny on his back, with his own preferences and consequences. He should also know ...
You cannot choose your brothers and sisters, but you choose your friends. In this sense; the friend is the chosen brother, in some cases even more than a brother.
A well-known proverb says: “Brother kept his brother at his side,” he says. It is a verified promise on many occasions. The brother turns his back on the brother for many reasons, throws him off his head, but the friend does not throw away, does not leave your hand. Because in the person or people you call my friend, you will be inspired by your mother's limitless love, affection and tolerance. You will see behaviors that you know from your father, such as a critical but protective attitude and taking responsibility. You feel warm inside. You feel that you are not alone. Confidence grows in you.
“Trust is like a potted flower. It grows over time and stops to flower. "
Even though your friend does not know your family at all, you write him in your heart as chosen and count him from the family in time.
Also, if you are connected to your spouse with a bond of friendship, you are the happiest person in the world. Your togetherness and happiness is unlimited.
They asked someone who has been married for many years as a happy couple, what is the secret of this?
"Man:" I shouted, roared, He was silent. He blew and thundered, I kept silent ”and this is the bond of friendship. As you throw up your anger, your friend pauses and tries to understand. If your friend is in a fit of anger, you will be silent and try to understand.
“Friendships are like a forest tree. They grow up in each other's widows. "
When death takes one of you, you have to walk with one foot. Because one half of you is gone. You are a half human now. Maybe you think you are alive for a while, but you are actually a living dead person.
Horatius (Roman poet, 65-8 BC) describes this situation as follows:
“Since a untimely death has taken you away, half of my soul, what is the point in living without half of my being on earth, the least cherished part? We both died that day. "
Here friendship is such a union of spirit (Spirit).
It is the person, friend, with whom you can share everything, good or bad, hidden in the depths of your heart that you hide from your mother, not tell your father and not inform your brothers.
Dost, "Let it be between us." or "don't tell anyone!" is someone you know to speak without warning. Unless you are babbling to someone else or not; what you share remains in your friend. You know this, you trust your friend more than yourself.
Friend is a man of heart who is happy with your happiness, perished with your sadness.
Of those who have read what I have written so far: "Amaaan, my Teacher! Is there such a friend in this age? " I hear what you say. Maybe you can be right ...
Those who say “there is no friend” like Aristotle; The owner of the lines "I would be a traveler and travel around this world // I couldn't find a friend, the day was evening",
“What is known as a friend in the world. My best friend is my drink, my cigarette. I wouldn't have left them, too. ” "My faithful half is black soil // I wandered in vain, I was tired in vain // My loyal half is black soil." Says the poet
"Seeking a friend without fault remains without friends," says the author
I wonder if this, those who cannot find friends, are looking for a perfect, faultless friend; can't find friends? Whereas…
"A human being is as clean as he is purified from his dirt and as much as he is purified from his faults."
Why, travelers who travel the world looking for friends, starting with the closest ones; Like the rings from near and far, they themselves do not or cannot be friendly with people?
Why would the poet complain, saying "I hugged so much as friend and friend"? I think he would not complain if he had hugged those he hugged in a friendly manner rather than as a friend.
Why does one look for friend outside, for friendship in others, and not present himself amicably? Befriend others, rather than expect friendship from others.
Love yourself, love all nature who loves him, people who are part of nature, too.
Don't lie to yourself. "He lies to anyone who lies to him."
Keep your promises to yourself. "If you are keeping your promises to yourself, you will already keep your promises to others."
In a nutshell, be friendly with yourself. The heart of those who are friends with him is open to everyone.
The person who opens the door of heart with love and humility becomes light for some and enlightens their paths. It receives light from some and becomes enlightened itself. In this beautiful relationship, he loves some of them with love, he glorifies their hearts. Some love themselves with love, and their hearts are glorified.
"The most precious time is the time spent with a friend." Let me end by saying.