About My Parents. I'm Not Single, But Happy.

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So I am this challenge again, and I am on Day 5 and 6 prompts. I am trying to do this challenge every other day so I think it's not that bad. Anyway, here's what I have to say today.

Your parents

I actually become emotional talking about my parents because they both passed away already. You know, losing your parents at your 20s, and still wanting for their guidance. Even at 30s, the thought of having parents can still make your relationship with your siblings intact.

My mother passed away in 2007, and it's certainly one of the saddest moments not having her with us anymore. She's only 59 at that time, and seeing women at higher age at that time who still seemed strong makes me envious. I just hoped she's still here even at an old age.

She suffered from cancer, and its origin cannot be traced anymore because it's at late stage. Too late for the doctors to suggest CT Scan despite obvious symptoms. Even my mother is worrying it is cancer, and she was relieved every time the doctor gave their diagnosis, and it is not what she feared.

My mother is very caring, and has been fair towards her children. Thus, she's been close to all of us.


My father passed away in 2011. The thought of losing your remaining parent is very difficult, and that's what we felt when it happened. He is supposed to be the one guiding us, but it's less than 4 years that he followed after my mother's death.

I admit, growing up I am not too close towards my father. He is not perfect, he is very strict. Still, we are thankful he didn't let us become the kind of people who haven't had purpose in life. Spiritual inheritance is among those I truly treasure. As we grown older, I began to appreciate him. When my mother passed away, my father tried his best to guide us.

The sad thing, because of our sadness and in process of moving on from my mother's death, I forgot about my father's emotions. Yes, he tried not to cry at my mother's funeral. He wants to show he is strong, and be the one to carry us. For sure, it gave him a lot of distress, and probably concealed depression.

When the diagnosis regarding a mass building up on his pancreas, he prefers to undergo surgery because he doesn't want us to suffer the way we suffered on our mother. The assurance given by the doctor is 80% that it will become successful, and he relied on that. He prepared himself, and even gave us advise before the surgery just in case it will be unsuccessful. 20% is huge, and not a joke. He survived the surgery but, he had complications. It could've have been avoided if there are no missteps from the hospital. Yes, there are some. But what can we do? They cannot undo what happened. Even a doctor we knew told us the hospital can be sued, but it can only take more energy from the remaining that we have.


If my parents are still alive, they're both turning 74 this year. They're also married for 52 years. I imagined seeing them with grandchildren, which they already have 5. My mother haven't seen any of them, and my father only saw one of them. He's supposed to become a grandfather for the second time before his death. Yes, his second granchild was born three days after his passing. That same year, two other grandchildren are born. Too bad he can't wait. He probably wanted to be better before seeing them but his health already gave up.


Single But Happy? I'm Not Single

Oh yeah, the prompt is Single but Happy.

I don't think this is suited for me because I am already married. In fact, we're turning one year this coming month!

I admit, getting married is not in my plans 5 years ago and more so. I love the single life, and I am happy. But it has changed when someone came to my life. We're just friends at first, and I'm not into her at that time. It developed gradually, and she became my girlfriend in 2018. Our relationship is not perfect, but I think she is for me.

Late 2020s, we talked about getting married. Last year, June 2021, we finally got married. We're turning one year, and I am very much in love with her.

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Sorry about the passing on of your parent, I know they wouldn't have left if they could stay. It must have been stressful after they left the world, their Angels must definitely be around you always.

May the Almighty God bless your marriage and bless your home as well.

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Thank you. Even it's been 10 years or more, it's still painful.

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