The difficulty of being an adult. When Your Salary, Career and Romance Don't Go As You Plan

Looking back, the world seemed so easy and beautiful to see from a child's perspective. There are no pressing demands or burdens of thought that make life more complicated. You don't need to worry about what people think, because you don't even know that other people sometimes like to say things behind the back. If you want this and that, just ask, the case is obeyed or you can't take care of it later. Perhaps because of this, many plans were so easy to make when we were kids and teenagers.

Plan stay plan. Living an adult life, the mindset must be changed completely. This and that must be thought carefully, so that you do not get criticism "Adult a little! Don't be like children ”. Now you believe that there should always be a plan B. So that if a plan doesn't match expectations, we don't get too caught up in self-collapse. If you knew it would be this hard to be an adult, you might think about being a child forever. Be patient, everyone will experience it.

1. Childhood all looks easy. Dreams, career, finances and love can all be arranged perfectly

Do you still remember when you were in elementary or kindergarten when you were asked what your dream teacher was? With confidence we answer out loud. Doctor! Engineer! Teacher! Police! There is no doubt at all, although when we are asked how to achieve this we also do not know. Developed a little in adolescence, about love began to be felt. The current girlfriend is expected to continue to the aisle. Perhaps because of that, they don't hesitate to use intimate calls of Papa-Mama or Father-Mother even though we have only been together for two weeks.

2. In fact, the ideal life exists only on an outdated to-do-list. Entering adulthood, things are more absurd than you think

Becoming adults, we must be ready to say goodbye to any definite thing. The ideals that you speak out loud sometimes have to be forgotten because the reality is not in line. All the to-do-lists you made as a child and teenager seem so naive. In the adult world, there are many things you have to worry about. Starting from work, dreams, education, salary, to romance. Everything asks to think about it, and this is what is called real confusion.

3. It is planned that at 25 you will be financially independent. But in fact having your own money doesn't mean you can buy whatever you want

I used to want to be an adult when I was little. Graduated from college, worked, and became rich. Yes, if you are not rich, you can at least have your own money so you don't need to burden your parents. It would be nice if you could buy anything with your own money.

Now? Even though you can fill the ATM with your own hard work, you are still struggling to manage money until the end of the month. Even to give something to your parents you have to tighten your wallet with extras.

4. Doing hobbies, traveling around the world, and many things you want to do. In fact, you are just stuck behind your desk all day long

Want to travel around the world, want to take music lessons, want to learn diving or snorkeling, want to join humanitarian activities, and want to continue their education. Try to re-open the old agenda, how many wish lists did you write down there? And how many have been delivered? It's sad to remember so many things you want to do, but the truth is that you're stuck behind your desk 8 hours a day, 5 days a week. It's a weekend and only sleeps all day. The wishlist that you have compiled is just a discourse, you don't know when it will be delivered.

5. Getting married after college and becoming a parent at a young age? Ha! You don't even have time to think about it

Ah, romance is an old song. Maybe it's too steeped in watching Walt Disney films with their legendary “happily ever after” sentence, you too are expecting a sweet and happy love story forever. Over time you realize that finding one person who fits all the similarities and differences is not easy. Moreover, your time is up for work and chasing goals. The priority of young marriage and finding a partner disappeared somewhere.

6. Being an adult, happiness is never simple anymore. The innumerable demands of life make fun always delayed

Your happiness as a child was limited to meeting friends at school. Or when parents come home from work with souvenirs. Or it could be when your test scores outperform everyone else. Or it could be when a crush throws a smile that doesn't have a clear meaning. In adulthood, happiness is no longer simple. You also begin to understand that happy and happy are sometimes different. Having a good job, sufficient finances, and a sweet love story doesn't necessarily make you feel happy.

7. Many things don't meet expectations. But you don't have to give up, that's what strengthens yourself

They say that the age of career maturity has to be mature, but it turns out that you are still adrift. The plan is for the age of 25 to be able to pay in installments on the house and buy this for the parents, it turns out that the living expenses alone are still not complete. Marriage plans are easily stuck in the fact that their soul mate doesn't yet exist.

In adulthood, you don't just have to memorize the distance and acceleration formulas to pass an exam. You need other skills that are not taught in school. The skill to stay sane when the world is too oppressive and also the skill to come to terms with a reality that sometimes drives you crazy. You will encounter many things that don't match your expectations. But isn't life that fun?

Finding one thing off the mark is painful. Makes us nervous, slumped, and for a moment don't know what to do. But believe that it is normal. Being an adult, problems are much more complicated than math and physics problems.

There are advanced economic principles that must be understood so that a meager salary can be saved so that parents can be happy. There is psychology that must be mastered in order to find the right partner or just to entertain yourself when the question "when to get married" is getting more frequent. And the most dangerous thing is uncertainty about determining direction. But remember, every time you run into the wrong path, remember that you are one step closer to what you have been looking for.