I can relate with this!

Especially nowadays when I am approaching 40 and feel like some imbalance hormone is disturbing me monthly. I think most of us can relate to outbursts. All of us have a sudden 'splash' or 'volcano' of strong emotions. Sometimes, we manage it well, and often we flop.

Early parenting years opened my eyes to a new horizon. Every now and then, I witnessed outbursts from my eldest son (my second had not borned out yet), it could be as little as a ripple in water or as huge as volcano, depending on the trigger. And I witnessed how they slammed the door, how they talked back with words, they sounded and looked like none other than me. It was embarrassing. Thank God, this was few years ago and I had then changed alot after reading tonnes of parenting articles, subscribed to alot of parenting newsletters for self-improvement.

And recently, started end of last year, I started to notice weird behavioral pattern in me monthly. There would be two to three days when I felt extremely down and beaten down - for no apparent reasons - that's the scary part, because usually I got upset and frustrated for valid reasons.

Then I read about hormonal imbalance as women grows older in age. But, 40 years old is still young, isn't it? Anyway, I read more about it and found out that the best way to cope with it is by proper diet. Cutting down sugars and excessive carbs. I am not a sugar eater but I eat alot, like alot of carbs. Bread for breakfast, rice for lunch, rice for dinner. Rice is our staple food. So I stop eating rice too. If I cook meals for family, I eat only the vegetables and protein.

Then, I also started intermittent fasting using the 16:8 ratio and started drinking black coffee without sugar since January 2021. 18 days had passed and I noticed a big difference in my emotion and feelings. I got better day. No longer had that foggy heads and uncontrollable feeling or outbursts. Even my boys said they notice the difference in me.

I was like....

Yay!!!

It is true, mummy usually holds the key or set the pace of the house atmosphere. When mummy has outbursts, the children have more. When mummy is calm, children follow suit. I hope I will be even better than today.

As for the children, whenever they had outbursts, I changed my approach. In my early days of parenting when I didn't know much, I would scold, and I would have outbursts too, joined the party. Everything got worse. Eruption happened. It was bad.

Now, when my children had outbursts, I was calm, took a deep breathe to tell myself it wasn't an emergency. I waited for the child to calm down before I approached to give a hug. It usually melted the child then he would open up to express his feeling better in words.

Growing up surely has its outbursts. I hope as I am better in handling mine, I can impart the skills to my children.

Thank you for reading my article. 

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❤️Love, Jadeline