Why is it so hard to accept joy and happiness in life?

Are you aware that you have blockages about accepting pleasure and happiness? Let's bring some awareness to this together.

At the time I was living in, I kept bumping into my blockages and I was reminded of Sadhguru's story of Heaven with the Karpavrishka Tree. In that story, one day after a long walk, a person sits down to rest under a tree and falls asleep there, wakes up feeling hungry and thinks, "Now, how nice it would be to have a nice breakfast over there". And whoops! A delicious mixed breakfast is right in front of him. The person eats well with this breakfast and then says, "Now, I'd like to have a nice sherbet, something to drink, a glass of wine," and cool drinks with different flavors appear in front of him. At this point, now that the person is full and rested, he starts to question the situation he is in, that is, the fact that everything he wishes for appears in front of him so easily, and he asks, "Where and how do all these things come from?" and since this is contrary to what he had previously learned and believed, he anxiously thinks that this situation is not normal and that it must be ghosts roaming around and whoosh! Immediately afterwards, shadows and voices start to appear around him, wandering in the bushes... Finally, the person runs away from the wishing tree with a shriek.

Life, in fact, is exactly like this wishing tree, a tree that eventually brings you the thoughts in your mind and fulfills everything you believe in with deep conviction. So, knowing this, why can't we have thoughts of ease, pleasure, abundance, happiness, joy and friendly feelings in our minds?

I have to give something in return, I have to labor because I only got love from my father/mother when I behaved well and that's how I learned to receive love reciprocally. Even for God's love I have to worship, pray, fast, don't drink alcohol and don't eat sweets on a full stomach because I have to earn it. I have no idea about receiving unrequited love because I have never seen it or experienced it.

Being troubled is almost, in our society, an easy and short way of communicating. Let's all suffer in common so that we can empathize, so that we have something to talk about, and if we have common problems, we will have a warmer and more sincere communication.

In order to appreciate myself, I have to achieve difficult things, so that if there is a promotion that comes easily to me in my life, if there is money that comes easily to me, you will feel uneasy and you will be subjected to the phrase "I think you are uncomfortable!"... Difficulty has become a kind of fuel for your ego. The more you struggle, the more you admire yourself and the more you are seen as worthy of admiration in the eyes of others.

However, if one can let go of the love of proving oneself, what comes easily is also valuable, and if one can say "I know how to be grateful", one can easily accept what comes easily. Plus, if one feels ease in receiving what is given unconditionally, they will be able to more easily absorb the pleasures and goodness of life... Because the experience is what the person is.

One's pleasure and happiness comes from accepting and realizing that this world can be paradise and that one is inherently worthy of it. Here I go back to the first point and wish that each one of us realizes and accepts that we are unconditionally loved in the first place.