Recently, expressing our emotional pain has begun to lose popularity. While everyone is suffering from within, most people prefer to ignore their pain. While people often want to make friends with people who are "positive" and "energetic", they avoid people with emotional pain as if the pain was a contagious disease.
The truth is that all people experience emotional pain of any kind at some point. Although some suffer more than others, there are times in everyone's life when it does. And when we are in pain, it is very important to be able to express that pain. Suppressing emotional pain only exacerbates it and makes it impossible to overcome.
"Even if you can't help changing a painful situation, you can always choose to face the pain you've experienced."
Viktor Frank
The problem is that we often don't know how to express emotional pain. At the end of the day, words fall short. Words alone may not be enough to relieve pain. So, in this article, we've decided to give you some helpful advice on how to effectively express your emotional pain.
Shout out your pain like me
While it may not seem like it, there is a big difference between thinking and saying things that cause pain. Thoughts are surrounded by words, and we all maintain an ongoing internal dialogue with ourselves. However, thoughts do not require us to organize and pinpoint our views.
As soon as we say our thoughts aloud, we start a new process. We organize our ideas to create an understandable and consistent message. Also, we identify and explain facts to make our thoughts understandable. Thus, we experience emotional ejaculation (catharsis) by screaming pain, and as a result, we relax. You don't need to pour your feelings to someone else to relax. You can also tell yourself about your feelings. Or you can record your voice and listen later.
Learn to relieve tension with relaxing activities
Emotional pain causes great tension and an uncomfortable feeling of discontent that is difficult to get rid of. It can also lead to anxiety and anxiety, even apathy and numbness.
There's nothing better than exercising to reduce emotional buildup. Physical activity helps change the emotions we focus on and activates the neurological processes that trigger feelings of well-being.
Share your emotional pain with someone else
In general, today's people are indifferent to the suffering of other people, so it can be very difficult to express emotional pain. Nobody wants to offend others, or worse, be rejected. And getting out of a bad mood alone is sometimes impossible.
Avoid differences of opinion
Your pain can make you angry and cause problems with others. When you are hurt, you may unintentionally attempt to take your anger and anxiety out of others.
However, preventing this is very important as it will worsen the situation in the long run. When we are too angry, we need to avoid any argument. Otherwise, we may find ourselves in an unnecessary argument. In such a situation, it is better to avoid conflicts than to face differences of opinion.
Keep a journal
Mankind has kept a diary for various reasons for centuries. Expressing emotional pain is one of these reasons. Just as speaking our thoughts out loud re-organizes our thoughts, writing our thoughts helps us organize and clarify them as well as say the least.
All of the advice we give to express emotional pain is more valuable than the other. In fact, everything is better than keeping quiet, suppressing or holding the pain inside. For the pain to go away, you have to let it go out. Expressing emotional pain is the only way to process it and eventually get rid of it.
