Dear you,
Number one tip when it comes to falling in love:
DON'T.
Don't fall in love.
But I don't mean don't EVER fall in love.
Sounds ridiculous, right?
But what I'm really trying to say is, don't fall in love or enter a relationship if deep inside, you don't want a commitment because love is a commitment itself. Don't give someone half-baked love because no one deserves that, and that includes you. Be honest enough to tell someone the truth because it will both set you free. And that's the least thing you could do. On the other hand, I hope you not fall in love with someone who pressures you to a commitment you aren't ready for. And if ever that happens, have the courage to speak for yourself and walk away. If someone truly loves you they will understand, and they will wait for the right time until you are ready.
Don't fall in love if you only want to have some fun, then you'll break it up once you're fed up. Someone's heart is not your playground. If someone is serious about you, don't play with them. Don't rush it, don't fake it. At the right time, you will meet someone and that someone will make you realize that waiting will always be worth it.
Don't fall in love if you only look forward to rainbows and sunshines, and butterflies in your stomach. Because love is always a two-way journey. It's not always rainbows and butterflies. It is also storms and pain. It is happiness and sorrow all in one. Love is not about just how the way someone looks at you, talks to you, holds you. It is not only about watching movies together, park dates, flowers and chocolates, and all those material things. It also means sharing the tears, the hardships, and going through them together. At times you don't need to always solve it together, especially when it's something personal; sometimes just have to be with them as they try to lift themselves up. That alone, is a big help already.
Don't fall in love because you're still not over your ex. You, hurting someone will not heal you. Heal slowly, at your own phase. Let it hurt. Cry as much you can, as much as you want. Feel the pain until you're over it. Let it hurt you until it hurts no more. Don't use someone to forget your ex and your memories together. Not only you are lying to that person, but you're also lying to yourself. You don't know what it might cause the other person if you hurt them.
You don't know the feeling of losing confidence, after years of trying to build it up. That feeling when you look in the mirror and question yourself why. You will have fear for yourself and think that everyone else will hurt you because it has always been like that. You will hate everything that you think is wrong with you that's why they left you, or replaced you. You don't want that. And no one deserves to feel that.
As I end this, let me tell you that I am not always right, and these are just my opinion. Write me back when you feel like it.
Love,
Someone who's been there, done that– and now over it.
Let me repeat that these are just merely my opinion. I may be wrong, I may be right. We are always a work in progress, I believe.
Thanks for reading. ❤️
