Privacy
To most, if not all, individuals, privacy is important. When others, unless granted permission, intrude into our private affairs, we respect personal space and get offended. In certain cases, interfering in the affairs of other people is a sign of disrespect, and if you're one of those people who continue doing this, convey yourself some ways to help break the habit.
Sometimes, individuals invade the lives of other people simply because they have little to do with their own. Either they are bored or looking for something to fill their time with. Try to keep yourself busy if you find yourself belongs to this group. Get a career if you're unemployed. Play a game, or work out, if you're bored. Watch a movie or a reality show if you're just looking for entertainment. Any behavior is okay as long as it keeps your mind away from messing with others' lives.
Perhaps the emphasis on self-improvement is better than just keeping yourself busy. Only work on improving your own instead of asking other individuals how they should better their lives. Your motives may be in the right place, but if people are already showing their disdain for your continuous interference, then just let yourself follow your advice.
There are occasions when interfering with the life of another person is appropriate, particularly if the intention is to assist that person or prevent him or her from doing anything stupid. However, regardless of your intent, before you intervene, you then have to request permission. Be polite and respectful enough to ask the other person if it would be all right with him/her if you share your thoughts before offering your opinion or advice. This will send to the other person a direct message that you value his/her privacy and that because you care about him/her, you just want to give wisdom or a friendly reminder.
Despite the steadfast reluctance of the other person to obey your advice or listen to your opinion, don't give the authorization you got as an excuse to keep on interfering. You ought to know when you should quit insisting.
Gossip is a big driving force behind why people invade the lives of others. They are intrigued by the affairs of others and the knowledge they gain, whether it is true or false, encouraging them to get involved and trespass on one's personal space. You wouldn't want people speaking behind your back, though, and breaching your privacy, so try to stir up gossip. Not only will doing this help you avoid making unsolicited intrusions, but it will also help you develop into a person who is more ethically and morally upstanding.
Every person has a wall, and you shouldn't just pull others up or push your entry in. This wall must always be respected. You are only permitted to enter when the other person opens the doors. After all, you have a wall like this that protects your kingdom from secrets, views, and desires, and you don't want someone to crack your wall arbitrarily and just waltz over your territory.
There are instances where individuals do something wrong and they don't know that what they're doing is wrong. The same may be true when individuals enter the lives of others. The former may be unaware of the fact that he/she is already upsetting the latter; that's why we need to be alert enough to say if we're acting out of line already. For us to build a degree of awareness that will tell us when we are already overbearing and should therefore step back, we must continually reflect and empathize.
If meddling in the lives of other people has already become your routine, then maybe it is appropriate to employ a more unorthodox process. Try to place a note on your fridge or use wallpaper on your phone that says "Respect limits," "You're not going to pass," or some other statement or symbol that continually encourages you not to invade the lives of anyone. It may seem stupid to do this, but extreme behaviors call for extreme measures.
The solution you are searching for might just be as unclear as silence itself. It is also when we open our mouths that the meddling begins. We talk when we just have to watch, or we condemn when we just have to watch. There are times, of course, where we can share our concerns, but there are also cases where it is better if we only keep our thoughts to ourselves. Doing nothing, sometimes, is all that is required.
We also interfere with the affairs of other people by our actions, apart from using our language. And so, before acting, we should always consider. Thinking before acting will keep us from taking excessive and unsolicited actions and help us avoid the repercussions of decision-making that is tackless and impulsive.
We should still offer due respect to the privacy and choices of other people. We should not force them to live their lives the way we want them to. Their lives are theirs to enjoy living. You may express your opinion and offer your suggestions, but the limits should always be respected and understood.
