Do you believe in siblings rivalry?
While there is more than one child in the home, there is unavoidable sibling rivalry. Moms and fathers are also tired and weighed down by the battles of many parents, the sibling struggle, and questioning why their children seem to struggle so much. You want to know how you can foster a warm and close relationship between your offspring that leads to the maturity of your children.
You of talk of the following responses that the parents have learned of their kids' rage, anger, anger, rebellion, disorder, exasperation, hopelessness, powerlessness, sorrow, confusingness, disappointment, annoyance, agitation, and amusements less often.
Parents worry about physical or emotional damage to their children. Has their self-esteem particularly impaired if the disputes are chronic and bullying? Never stop fighting, as adults, have bad connections, lack empathy, and don't take care of others.
Parents are often surprised by the multiple ways of sibling rivalry and how imaginative and meaningful children can be with their siblings.
Some of the reasons why children can trigger each other:
Named, blaming, poking, robbing, lying, challenging one's confidence, fighting, only looking at one another and body modification, kicking, throwing something that belongs to one other, and hiding something important to another.
Some of those strategies probably are familiar to you agonizingly, and you can probably find a few more ingenious ways your kids tend to harass each other!
Most parents find all the fighting so needless, anxious, and disturbing because they don't want to see their kids hurt or cruel to each other. And many parents have increased pressure to solve problems like a wise old owl!
Sometimes, weary parents wonder: why are children trying to deal? For us adults, it makes no sense! It's fascinating to understand sibling conflicts from the viewpoint of your children.
Why children fight?
Get your attention.
Have a deep feeling.
Get a boring break.
Annoying a brother may seem more exciting than anything else.
Contact your brother.
Get physical contact.
Since your sibling looks terrible, they'll become the 'favorite' in their eyes.
These items are all important to children, but the best way to accomplish these aims is not to battle a sibling; you should help them find more effective ways to meet their needs.
Also, children do realize important esprit abilities by insisting they commit
They learn to:
Power fighting contract.
Conflict management and conflict resolution.
Be optimistic and stand up for their role.
negotiate and settle.
Parents’ Expectations vs. Reality
Even if siblings struggle for these positive results, the never-ending nature of this argument may also cause a parent to wonder: "Why do so many people have more than one kid?
Before you ever had children, you may have had other encouraging photos of your child's relationship. These good things occur occasionally, and it can make your heart warm to see your kids love each other and kind. But you can despair at other moments that they'll always get along or even like each other.
You will feel a sense of loss when you miss the picture your children have of being warm and still love each other when your expectations do not correspond with reality.
While you may feel sorry for this fact, it is better to give up your dream and agree that struggle and competition come with more than one child.
If you understand that siblings struggle, and there are moments when they seem to do all they can to hurt each other, you won't think you have to do anything wrong, or your kids do something wrong.
When you get to grips with this inevitability, you will be able to build strategies for battle management.
How our parents handled sibling rivalry
Often, as your parents answered you, you may find yourself answering your children. It could be because you don't know how to do it or because you don't know how to react otherwise.
But if you are mindful of the successful and non-efficient responses your parents used, you will find alternatives and better ways of coping with your children's brotherly rivals.
Circumstances that Influence Sibling Rivalry
Knowledge of the factors that affect the competition of siblings will make you more conscious and help you answer sibling problems more sensitively.
Both individually and in the sibling relationship, the birth order of each of the children affects. And your order of birth also influences you as an adult in your family of origin.
Knowing the consequences of the order of birth will allow you to understand the underlying competition dynamics and sibling relationships more clearly.
You will use this knowledge to discuss sibling conflicts between your children more sensitively.
Much study shows that different birth order trends are characterized by the different experiences sibling has in their families in different birth orders.
First-born
First-borns tend to be more involved and task-oriented with the parent who decides more about the family. First-borns want results and productivity, have a sense of objective, and appear to be perfectionist, consistent, responsible, well planned, and severe.
Second-borns or middles
Babies or second borns tend to recognize the parent closely. Emotional and expressive. They are interested in output quality and are usually in line with the emotions of people. It's really important to them to feel they belong. They also act as mediators, prevent confrontation, be autonomous, are highly loyal to their colleagues, have many friends, and can be even more unpleasant. Unfortunately for them, in the family album, there are the fewest photos of these guys.
Third-borns
Third-borns are also linked to the couples in the family and want to maintain a balance in people's relationships, to have a choice, and to use humor.
Youngest
The youngest people often look at the whole family picture and want to preserve unity with their family. The people in the family and the family seem to become emotionally connected. You can deceive, not take responsibility for your acts, you can feel like showcases, you can use mood to get what you want and you are always charming, precocious, and engaging.
Note that this is not an exact or hard science and that the predicted characteristics are not in line for all children. But you can see how well your kids fit the stereotype or how little.
There are its advantages and inconveniences in of birth order and none of it is better than the other. If your children lament about what they consider as the limitations of their birth order, knowing this will help you become more empathetic. This awareness will also expand your viewpoints and help you widen the viewpoint of your children on their order of birth.
It is also important to note that the way you relate to your kids sometimes affects your sibling's role in your family of origin.
Distances between children can influence the rivalry strength
Children who are close to age are more likely to be physical with each other; children with less room and less competitive because typically less time is spent together, different things are interesting, and various activities take place. They would be less successful.
Siblings who are 'easier' temperamentally will be handled differently by their parents, compared to 'more difficult' siblings. Temperamentally 'easy' children appear to be more 'liked.'
The establishment of family rules in your home is one way to handle fraternal rivalry. Regulations are in place to express your family values and to help you consider in advance what your actions and what you want to implement is important for you. Regulations are good strategic prevention. Regulations will set a tone for sibling rivalry and tell you whether your children want to be interconnected. When children fight or don't treat each other respectfully you can refer back to the "family rule." Take them into account in conversations about what laws the family should have as to how people should be handled.
