"Comparison is the thief of joy."
Comparisons between people are a recipe for unhappiness unless you are the best in the world. Not only are we unhappy but the other people are as well. They are probably comparing themselves to you—maybe you’re better at networking than they are and they’re jealous. At worst, when we compare ourselves to others we end up focusing our energy on bringing them down instead of raising ourselves.
Starting with this way of thought, the world begins to look better again. You don't dwell anymore on where you are compared to others. Instead, concentrate on what you can do now and how you can better yourself.
Life becomes a better version of itself. And when that happens, every day your efforts and effort are geared to the enhancement of your operating system, not to think about your colleagues. You are getting happier, away from the collisions of false comparisons, and concentrated on today.
If you don't live up to others' standards, too bad. The way they look at you, through a warped lens, created by perceptions and desires, is the same way you look at them. What matters is what you think you are doing, what your standards are, what you will do today.
Who do you most repeatedly compare yourself to?
Who have you compared yourself to in the last 24 hours?
Break the manner of feeling insecure, envious, and discontented with your being. I read research showing that time spent on social media raises depression, jealousy, and well-being. This motivates me to use social media deliberately, to pick what I'm searching for, and to eliminate it.
When I let my guard down and begin scrolling, I almost always regret it. I will eventually see something that made me feel terrible for myself or my life, or anything else that makes me feel incredibly jealous, something that others have overlooked in my life. I feel better now, reading, asking, and socializing helps me to learn more about the comparison.
How do you put your contentment away in the comparative trap?
Become conscious of, and avoid your triggers.
Start to note the circumstances where you play the match. Social media is a major one for most of us, as I said. Certain situations, what? Are there any people who admire this or that?
Create a list of who you admire and what you also envy. Write down how you are affected negatively and why your time is wasted. Make up the next time you catch yourself. If you can avoid comparison, especially if the behavior or contact does not add any real value or significance to your life.
Know that the "outsides" of others cannot be contrasted with the "insides" of others
The habit of cultivation is so beneficial. You can't use their exterior appearance to assess their life truth unless you're close to anyone. The social media versions of their lives are carefully curated and they do the same for their public life. You may have had the experience of being surprised, Of course, keep wishing others well, but if their lives give you cause to feel uncomfortable, note that you don't know what happens behind closed doors.
Money doesn't and never can buy happiness. It is well recognized that wealth is not related to increased happiness or success over and above getting the basics of life. Money and stuff offer fleeting joy; they are generally far more deceptive than anything else since they are unable to provide long-term sustenance.
Be grateful for the fortunate in your life, and avoid any falsehoods that shout “It’s not enough”
You would be far less open to comparison and jealousy if you pledge to be genuinely thankful for what is good in your lifeline every day. If anything or something causes this ugly sense of negative contrast, pause now and remember what's positive in your life.
Use contrast to enhance what is relevant
This human desire to want what others have is such a waste of time, until you see and "covet" another, like their generosity or kindness, is of great value. Who do you adore? Who do you love? What kind of similarities might be useful for you? There are, for instance, many kind and generous people, mothers and friends whom I know well. In their worlds, they make a difference and I want to be ever more like them. Who encourages you, most importantly, to live better? Please invest your valuable time and thoughts.
Imagine if the contrast game could be lifted to a useful art form. Avoid falling victim to its dark foundation, which just increases suffering and lack in your life. Instead, make a comparison to a better person and maybe even a better position for your tiny corner.
Keri lang naman mainggit pero not to the point na maobssessed na makuha or maachieve lang yun hanggang sa nadepress na tuloy. Lakas din talaga makadeceive ng social media e di naman lahat ng nakikita natin ay legit talaga ganon nangyayare.