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“If you don't know how to row, changing boats Will Not Help You Anything. The same thing happens with our partner, what if instead of replacing… You Learn?"
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The image is very clear, we see a person rowing in a boat, and in that boat a girl accompanies him, then we see that same person in the same boat but with another girl...
When the image asks "If instead of replacing ... do you learn ?, surely they will ask" Learn To What? The answer is not just one, but many ... to tolerate, understand, respect, be honest, supportive, responsible, feel empathy, the list is long to be able to list all those values we need to take care of a relationship, whatever it may be, of husbands, parents, children, friends, co-workers, neighbors, siblings, in short, all relationships must have a firm and solid foundation to prevail over time and not die trying.
All the tools that I have named (tolerance, empathy, understanding among others), we must make an effort to use them in All our relationships, do you know why I mention them? Since I have noticed that in some cases, not in all because it is not necessary to generalize, when it comes to our spouse and friends, If we try and make an effort to use them, taking care of these relationships like a treasure.
The success and durability of our interpersonal relationships will depend on the way we relate, care is necessary, and when I talk about care, I mean to improve communication, that the foundations are honesty, sincerity, respect, tolerance, compassion, patience, trying to put someone else's shoes on, excellent communication. If we do the opposite, we are mistreating and we do not give it the privileged place it deserves, this results in our relationships falling apart, fractured until we lose them.
When consciously or unconsciously we get used to offering mistreatment in relationships with our spouse, co-workers and / or friends, these people will reach a point or limit, because everything has a limit, they will get tired and when it exceeds or exceeds that limit Divorces and feuds will come, no one will endure for long, perhaps years, a relationship based on disrespect, intolerance, physical, verbal, psychological or emotional abuse. We can see that there is a big difference between relationships with people who are blood relatives and non-blood relatives.
But what about dealing with the family (blood relationship), for example, siblings, mother, father and son? We cannot "Change" them, perhaps we think ... if I Do Not get along with my mother, we will still be family, then if I do not like something about them, we will not change mother, father, children and brothers, in this case it is not the case, this is where it lies and is the core point of this publication.
The teaching of this post is that with all relationships (consanguineous and non-consanguineous), but even more with the family we must "Learn" to row, we must learn to live together, accepting their defects. Many times the problem is not in others, but in ourselves, and we change partners and clothes, the image is a perfect example of what happens many times in interpersonal relationships, we change spouses, friends because we believe that they are the problem, when in fact it is in us.
Or on the contrary, we treat the spouse well but our families, whose nexus is blood, not them, perhaps our mentality is because we cannot change them or they us, love and affection fracture and at worst of the cases is fading, it is because of them that we see families estranged for years, it is sad to hear that such a person has not spoken with his brother for 7 years because they are upset.
In previous publications I commented that on a personal level, within my weaknesses, I must lower the levels of perfectionism, I catalog it in myself, I must "Learn" to accept that other people make an effort and give their best even when they do. different of my.
Empathy is also part of "Learning", I firmly believe that putting ourselves in the shoes of the other will help us to understand and understand why the other acts in a certain way. Anyway, if we don't "Learn", to accept the differences of others, we will change spouses, partners, friends ... and in the end the problem is with ourselves and we will be left alone.
I hope this post will be a great blessing and edify your hearts.
