We need to cultivate intimacy and talk about how we really feel.

Hello,
Intimacy is not born overnight, nor does it remain eternally intact once established, and it must always be cultivated; it requires continuous effort. That is why it is easier to have feelings for a person than to be intimate with them.

Lack of intimacy results in a less satisfying relationship for both partners. Intimacy should increase with the passage of time and with the accumulation of interactions, making the couple feel able to share increasingly sensitive and meaningful aspects of themselves that they normally keep hidden, in some cases, even from themselves.

Anyone who believes that sex is the greatest intimacy a couple can have is mistaken: there are far greater intimacies. Exposing your own vulnerabilities and sharing fears and insecurities is one of the greatest intimacies a couple can have.

The process of deepening intimacy begins when one person "risks" by revealing an emotionally or emotionally charged personal or partnered thought, feeling or event that leaves them exposed and vulnerable, in the hope or expectation of a supportive response. which, if implemented, increases the intimacy between the couple.

Regardless of how intimate your relationship is, you must understand that pretending does not solve anything, it only conveys the false idea that everything is fine. Pretending can even make the situation worse: the other person may not be fine either, but when they see that the other person who is not fine is also pretending to be fine, they wonder "with me it's not fine, how can everything be fine with the other person." Doesn't he care about me? Don't you care?!", silencing the fact that he is also pretending to be fine.

Talking about yourself instead of talking about the other makes all the difference: saying "I'm sad" or "I'm so angry" instead of "You made me sad" or "You were wrong!" will lead to more productive dialogue because it doesn't put your partner on the defensive.

The ability to create and maintain intimacy is critical to a healthy relationship. practice!

written by @foodboy