Suppress; It's living a life you don't want to live. This choice is an option that is up to the person. The person determines his own direction. Becoming the person you don't want to be, doing things you don't want to do, slowly commit suicide, self-destruction are the result of suppression.
Perhaps 90 percent of psychological problems arise as a result of suppression of emotions. Problems such as depression, panic attacks, anxiety, anxiety anxiety disorder develop as a result of this suppression. Throughout human history, we have been told and taught the repression of emotions. You have never been yourself for thousands of years. Because society didn't want you to be yourself. Society did not like you to be yourself. You have always been suppressed. It was encoded in the collective subconscious of the society. You unknowingly wanted your son to suppress his feelings. You would express your feelings in front of your father, "Hush, do not be disrespectful, you are not spoken to in front of your father." Every time you came across the concepts of shame, sin, and forbidden. Your feelings have always been suppressed. You were treated like a plague. By saying "Girls don't talk, little ones keep silent, boys don't cry", your feelings have been so suppressed that this suppression has penetrated your cells and bones.
Due to all this, you felt yourself sinful, worthless, useless, helpless. As a result you denied your own existence. You went to the leader, the teachers, the clergy to get rid of this situation. You have always waited for Mehdis, Yavuzlar, Conquerors. You have been taught that they will save you. Because you have been taught the belief that "you cannot achieve your own salvation, you are cursed, you are bad, you are disgusting, of no use". Can you say "no" to your father, your teacher, your commander in the military, your leader in politics? You can not say. Because you have been taught unconditional obedience and allegiance to authority. As a result of all this, you learned hypocrisy. Because you were never allowed to express your own feelings. If you think differently from your superior and express this, you are immediately labeled "treason". The most dangerous thing for you has been to express your own feelings as they are. You used a lie to express yourself. Any suppressed emotion does not disappear, on the contrary, it continues to grow stronger. You were a teenager, you fell in love with another person. Your family immediately asked you to put this down. You were also buried in it, you could not go and pass it on to the other person. The emotion is suppressed. Years have passed since then, you got married, mixed with children. One day that suppressed feeling comes into play again, and you go to a period and position that should not have existed, and you start experiencing forbidden life with another person.
Accept your feelings. Suppressing, destroying, and destroying your emotions will only harm you. You have to develop the art of living in harmony with your emotions in the legitimate circle. Just as your hand, foot, eye, ear are a part of you, your feelings are a part of you. Taking care of them like your other parts and making peace with them will lead you to happiness. You have to find harmony between all these feelings. You must be like a conductor. If you can't play musical instruments you will just make noise. All your neighbors complain about you. You drive the audience crazy. But if you manage to play musical instruments, you will be instrumental in the creation and composition of very nice, very beautiful pieces. Just like this, life is like a musical instrument. In some hands it is a noise device, while in others it is an apparatus that creates masterpieces. If you know how to use your emotions like a violin or a piano, you will live a decent life. But if you cannot use them, you will be destined to be a pervert, thief, liar, dishonest.
Learn to use resources well. If you can develop the ability to transform anger into passion, lust into love, greed into sharing, you will be at peace with your emotions. Remember, Nemrut, not being a Pharaoh or being a Pharaoh, Yunus, being Mevlana is also within you. It depends on whether you play the instrument or not.
There is an endless universe within you. You just know yourself, be yourself. Respect yourself, love yourself. You are now inverted with all your emotions. As you express your feelings and learn to use them, you will be able to put everything right in the right places.
