Life and death of an addict

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3 years ago

Drugs.

This is a huge topic that I cannot elaborate much. But I will tell you a story that happened that involved drug abuse.

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They met when they were still teenagers. Married at a young age. They had 5 children. It was 4 boys and 1 girl. At first, they enjoyed living together. They were a happy family. The kids were growing fast.

Then, they begin to struggle. They cannot provide properly for their children. The father was a part time drummer in a band. The mother was a housewife. The father rarely have gigs to go to and the wife always asks money from her mom who works abroad.

As time goes, the mother thought they can't live with what the father is bringing to the table. She needs to do something too to be able to provide for the children and their future. She don't have any choice but to work abroad too.

The eldest was 9 year old that time and the youngest was 4. She left the kids with the father. The father stop working and stayed at home. But still, he was drinking until morning and invites a lot of friends coming in and out of the house. The mother found out from a friend that the father was also doing drugs. It all started with a small abused particle. He was not as a pusher but a user.

Later on, she learnt that the father was bringing a girl home and she knew it was the start of her broken family. She came home to get the kids settled somewhere far from the father. She was worried because she knew that drugs can alter a persons physiological and mental health.

Few years later, the only daughter complained something. Aparrently, she was sexually abused by the father. This was the time when the father became a drug addict. The daughter has a mild mental retardation and at first the people around her cannot believe that what she is saying is true. She was brought to the police station to have a statement and she was medically examined. She was found out that something happened to her indeed.

A case was filed. The father was imprisoned for more than 2 years. Was it enough thought? He was acquitted because of lack of evidence. The daughter did not stand on the witness stand because of her illness.

The father lived alone. Still continues to drink and do drugs. He cannot communicate properly with people because his mind is already altered because of drugs.

Today, at 10 o'clock in the morning someone came to the house to tell the mother that the father was rushed to the hospital because of pain in the stomach. The mother hated him but there's no one to look after him. She went to the hospital and bought the medicine.

After 3 hours, the doctor in charge is already performing CPR on him because he is having difficuty in breathing. At 2:20 pm he expired. The children cried. Their eyes are swollen and red. Their hearts are broken. They hated their father but they are their father.

Drugs abuse does not give any benefits. It only break families. It has physiological and mental effects to people who abused it. And affects their families. It brings pain and death.

:)ellimacandrea 😔😭

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3 years ago

I find it hard to tell why the children cried. Some are heartbroken and will never shed a tear. The abused daughter is humiliated by the law and that examination was useless. Even if she didn't have mental issues she wasn't believed.

Being a drummer is not a job unless he made a huge income to provide in the needs of the family. This man only cared about himself, his needs, his fun in every way. There are no excuses for it and I would not have paid for his meds. The man was a lost case years ago.

I would not pay for my ex's meds either because ex = exit to me. I paid long enough. A father who doesn't care is not a father. He lost his rights. This man did a long time ago. So did my father who never cared.

Strength and 💕🍀

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3 years ago

Thank you. I guess childrens heart are different from adults. I also don't understand why they are still fond of their father after all the pain theyve been through with him.

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3 years ago

Perhaps because society doesn't accept it if they do not like their father? Perhaps because this bad life is all they had? Perhaps because they didn't see the real father and think it's normal what he did? One day they will see the real man he was. I hope it will not be too hard on them like it was for me.

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3 years ago

I'm sorry to hear about your father. It was very hard for the youngest. He likes his father. Maybe because he does not understand much.

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3 years ago

I liked my father very much too. As I became older I saw the real him. It started at the age of 8 as I saw how others saw him. It was quiet a shock. At the age of 10-12 the next shock/realization came...

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3 years ago

The eldest did not shed a tear. Or maybe he did but did not show us. Maybe the eldest understood better what kind of father he really is.

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3 years ago

It might take years or perhaps you will never know who feels what. Shedding tears are not necessary a sign of grieve. Some people cry easily about everything. They will manage. Better keep an eye on those who don't cry... I hope somehow it will work out fine to each one of them, they all find a way to express their feelings. Art is a good method.

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3 years ago

Drugs and alcohol (is also a drug) destroy people, destroy families, destroy lives. I keep asking myself, why there is drug and alcohol abuse. I know someone who left the woman with two small children (actually the woman kicked him out) because he was a drug addict. He was quite intelligent, but now I see this man sometimes on the street with his clique (all pretty broken people). He does not look happy. I really can't understand it. He has 2 such beautiful and nice sons. Instead of playing with the kids, he sits on the street and spends time with broken people.

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3 years ago

I don't understand as well as to why they do such drug abuse. They can't stop by themselves either. I pity them. I pity the children that are being affected. 😔

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3 years ago

My father didn't do drugs but he delved in alcoholism. He was somehow a good father while i was young (or that's what it seemed) but i saw how selfish he really was by the time I was in highschool. He focused on his band hobby more then came the fridge never running out of beer bottles. Then eventually he thought it was a great idea to hook up with this woman (i hate. Because i think she indulged him more to his vices). I initially didn't have a say in it because well, people need a sort of release but when he started drinking almost everyday and started causing chaos in the house. We all gave up. In the end, he left the house. Lived in the mountains with his bitch then only comes back to get some stuff. He focused on his beloved drums and hobbies now and lost his job because of that too

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3 years ago

Im also sorry to hear about that. It must be heartbreaking knowing that he exchanged his family for a woman and drums. The father also do drums. I don't know whats with drummers. Hays. I just hope it wont be too late for your father to regret what he is doing.😔

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3 years ago

He's not. He's actually boasting about how happier he is with his woman and his drums up in the mountains where they just drink and smoke all day. I think he'll only regret things when he gets severely sick or when his woman leaves him.

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3 years ago

That often happens. When he gets sick and the woman cant get anything from him anymore.

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3 years ago

It's always the case. Sometimes he only goes home because he feels sick and we have to treat him (specifically me because chemistry has premed courses too). And i hate it but i feel bad that my sisters still like him so i can't let him die yet

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3 years ago

Are your sisters younger than you? I guess younger sibs do not really understand whats going on. Hays.

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3 years ago

They are but they know how much he's changed. It's just the attachment, really else it wouldn't really affect any of us anymore

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3 years ago

The children are the ones who pay the consequences for the parents' error, most people have their children without being prepared, nobody has control of this, the mother abandons her children in search of economic improvement. going to take care of the children just like the mother now the children will grow up alone with the mother, if she can support them

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3 years ago

You are right. Oftentimes, children are really the one who suffers for the parents mistakes.

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3 years ago

I hope the mother can still support the children. She has to.

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3 years ago

Yeah most times drugs are instigated by bad friends and gang that's why it's always good to fully access all the people you're rolling with so you won't be caught up in peer pressure

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3 years ago