Probably cheeky but the banks don't play with these information when it comes to building a relationship with their customers.

In a funny way, same rules apply to relationships. The question is why is it important though?

I was scrolling through facebook a couple of days back and i stumbled on this status update "the trick is to not let people know how weird you are until it's too late for them to back out".

Ain't trying to get all loud and spliffy but that right there is the reason why most relationships end quickly, marriages end up with litigation battles over child custody, asset-property settlement suits and divorce.

An arguable debate could be that most people are scared of being judged by their flaws.

Another plausible debate could be they haven't developed enough trust to be comfortable being theirself around the significant other.

Whichever debate that falls into the discussion, it still remains true that you can't have an amazing relationship without being honest with each other.

I mean i've seen real world situations where a guy rolls up a cigar daily and literally does a dolphin flip in glasses of Whiskey everyday, without the girl knowing and when they get married, he feels like his trapped cause he no longer has the privileges and tends to sneak around to do his regular. Same can be said of a lady, well not all the way, but same scene different stage props.

Bad habit? probably, but imagine just how it would of been easy if he had just been himself and went with the flow...he wouldn't be feeling trapped in the marriage cause she would have already witnessed it and accepted the fact.

Or on the other hand, will feel completely disgusted and had find a way to fix it, worse case scene she would of left.

Either way you wouldn't have to feel trapped in a personality you are forced to puppet play to every waking day after the walk down the isle.

Being yourself and having a close to perfect knowledge of your partner makes the verbal fights and exchanges less experienced, as you are already aware of what makes the other tick and the pleasure spots as well.

"When she gets mad, kiss her, when she cries hug her and when his mad, just hug him-but make sure your concerns are heard first, unless it will be pointless"

Here is the thing though, arguments could most of the time be healthy as it tends to paint a dent that is now known and can easily be airbrushed over at the next coating of the paints.

But most people are too scared to be theirselves cause of the fear of being judged, if (s)he can't love you with your flaws then (s)he just a sojourner through your path and isn't meant to make a tent in your life. So you not meant to play rent to his (or her) opinion about you.

The past isn't a castle to reside, it's a place to visit and pick one or two lessons to improve upon. Lot of people dwell too much in the past and never take a step forward into a new relationship without overthinking stuff.

Assumptions have killed more relationships than infidelity ever did, just because of the pride to communicate your fears with your significant other.

Communicate, communicate, communicate...

It's funny how this very vital component goes missing in relationships.There is no such thing as too much communication. And it's funny when people complain about receiving good morning text everyday, a late night tell me how your day went conversation is exhausting, always on about how the "how you doing" conversation gets boring and assuming the person is too needy for attention.

And on the other spectrum, there is the hey, i dropped a hint, you should automatically understand what i mean individuals. We're not nano bot chipped computers with blueprints of the streams of your thoughts. Congrats to those couples who have reached that level of mastery though, but if you haven't, don't compare you and yours truly with theirs.

Rome wasn't built in a day, they made room to harness communicating to each other daily to get to that point where they literally finish each others sentences, or just waved they hand and the significant other just knows what follows, and just went on ahead and did it without a word uttered.

If you don't gat it, you don't gat it, rather than fence up, use your words to guide your partner to what you are trying to communicate, and they will love you for it.

Communicating your thoughts with your partner builds trust. But at the same time making her laugh and smiling from ear to ear definitely throws in the cushion to build comfort.

With comfort comes a new level of surrender where you partner no long feels the need to mask their true reality anymore.

And it literally gets to the point where they can let some fart noise run lose when you around, go completely nuts and be whatever.

And from here upwards it's pretty much good vibes and checking off lists on your relationship goals. And often times you get the scar torn smile Joker or Daddy's lil monster Harleys, whom will most definitely spawn up some crazy conversations, steamy hot blockbuster nights and early morning re-runs. It doesn't get any bipolar than that.(Laughs)

At this stage, if you up for the ride, then like Beyonce would say if you like it, you should put a ring on, oh oh oh, oh oh oh, oh oh oh 🎶

But you definitely have to be sure you at that level first, you don't want to be breaking Banks to fix up smashed broken car lights, redo your car paint job, replace your TV or furniture now. Do you?

And with that i tip my hat, take a bow and leave you with the words of Robert Kiyosaki--Pick your partners wisely. While it's true, don't forget to be a good partner yourself.