WHAT TO DO IF… ..
These specific discipline tactics will help you establish the proper corrective for misbehavior.
When your child is a baby, it is easy for you to solve their needs, but when your child turns 2 and suddenly that nice baby has turned into a little rascal who throws the food from the cabinets, snatches the toys from his friends and scribbles on the walls.
It is then that we as parents feel the need to impose a little discipline, but we do not have the slightest idea about what is the appropriate way to act in each case.
Most of us feel anxious and insecure when it comes to discipline, in part because we don't want their actions to have a negative effect on our interactions with our children. The most common mistakes we make when trying to discipline them is threatening punishments that we then fail to comply with, reacting abruptly to minor infractions, and unconsciously responding to recurring problems. These mistakes can confuse children and make behavior worse.
If the short-term disciplinary goal is to prevent certain types of behavior from recurring (the long-term goal is to educate children with values and ethics), we have to understand what is behind our children's behaviors. Children generally misbehave because they are tired, need attention, or are frustrated or bored. If you take a minute to see things from our child's point of view, we will be able to deal with each situation effectively.
Here are some examples of useful tactics for dealing with specific instances of misconduct.
1. If your child has tantrums at the grocery store:
What you should do.
First make sure he does not hit his head or hurt himself in any way, continue with what we were doing, why? Tantrums are usually a way of attracting attention, so they should be ignored.
Get back in the car and let your child scream until he calms down, while you wait think about how to avoid another time. We must consider different possibilities of why our son acted in this way and look for the most appropriate solution.
Once our son calmed down, we should give him a hug and say: I'm glad you're calm now.
What you must not do:
Giving in, for example, if our son is screaming because he wants a candy, buying it will teach him that tantrums are an effective means of getting what he wants and this is the opposite of what he must learn.
2. If your child scratches the walls of the room:
What should you do:
He takes a deep breath to calm you down and tell him: we draw on paper, not on walls. Then he brings a bucket of soapy water and two sponges and tell him to help you clean. It is always advisable to link the punishment with the misconduct. While they're cleaning the wall, tell him: I want you to help me clean this so you realize how hard it is to make the wall look good again.
What you must not do:
Yelling at him and telling him that he is a bad boy, it is convenient to condemn bad behavior, but never condemn the child.
Your 5-year-old knocks down objects and then doesn't want to pick them up:
What he should do:
To make him understand that he is serious, approach your son, look him straight in the eye and tell him: I want you to clean up this mess and I am going to help you so that you know how to do it next time. When we finish we will go to play, by acting in this way and establishing a reward for having obeyed you can induce your child to do something you want. If he refuses to help, punish him by forbidding him to play on the computer or watch television.
What you must not do:
Ask her several times to do it in a hurry and then do it yourself. For some children, this can become a game.
Your 7-year-old son swears in front of guests:
What should you do:
At that point you should tell him that it is not an appropriate language and later discuss the issue with him. Children who use inappropriate vocabulary are generally going through a value crisis, so don't make a drama out of it.
After all the guests have left explain that being rude has negative consequences, that God does not like rude children, that offending people makes adults think that it is disrespectful and you may have problems at school. If he continues with the bad words, punish him by suspending a privilege or take away what he likes the most every time he says them.
What you must not do:
Adopt the typical behavior of washing your mouth with soap and water. By doing so you can eradicate the problem, but it is potentially dangerous, it is better to deprive it of something.
Is physical punishment appropriate?
If you occasionally slap your child on the tail it does not mean that you are a bad mother, but we should always look for alternative methods of discipline. Remember, although you should never resort to bribes to obtain good behavior from our children, rewarding good behavior when it is carried out is an effective attitude to achieve effective discipline.
I hope they put it into practice so that our children have good behavior.
Happy day to all and God bless you.
