This journey is a lifetime treasure for myself, I learned many things to help me develop as a human person. This is more than just a subject but this is a guide to become the better version of yourself. It maybe hectic and stressful to answers many activity discussing issues that need to be discuss but it is worth the time that you put into it. My journey of self-development has taken scale on a variety of experiences. As a child, I was always withdrawn, almost as if I was in my own world entirely. I tried my hardest to become extroverted, but overtime problems arose with my speech and social anxiety. No one knew at the time, but this part of my personality impacted me a lot as I grew older. I developed a low self-esteem and became very self-conscious of myself. I developed an awareness and curiosity for what comes next in life. Somewhere along the way, I became lost in the idea that I could accomplish anything when fully giving myself, but what did I want to fully give myself to? It took some tough hardships and experiences for me to finally "find" myself.
In this part I depicted what are my values that I care so much. I learned that I will prioritize my family more than anything, I am willing to sacrifice my time and effort just to give comfort for my parents. But sometimes I am forgetting about it and live my life according to my own needs. This journey helps me remind my values and now it will always be on my mind. According to Sigmund Freud’s psychoanalytic theory of personality, personality is composed of three elements. These three elements of personality, known as the id, the ego and the superego, work together to create human behaviors. According to Freud, we are born with our Id. The id is an important part of our personality because as newborns, it allows us to get our basic needs met. Freud believed that the id is based on our pleasure principle. In other words, the id wants whatever feels good at the time, with no consideration for the reality of the situation. When a child is hungry, the id wants food, and therefore the child cries, when the child needs to be changed, the id cries. The id speaks up until his or her needs are met. The id doesn’t care about reality, about the needs of anyone else, only its own satisfaction. If you think about it, babies are not real considerate of their parents’ wishes. They have no care for time, whether their parents are sleeping, relaxing, eating dinner, or bathing. When the id wants something, nothing else is important. The ego is the component of personality that is responsible for dealing with reality. According to Freud, the ego develops from the id and ego understands that other people have needs and desires and that sometimes being impulsive or selfish can hurt us in the long run. Then we learned about Maslow’s Hierarchy of needs, we discuss that love comes first before esteem needs because we human are so affectionate to each other that we also want to be loved. This need is higher than the esteem needs and it will always be. Self-efficacy can play a role in not only how you feel about yourself, but whether or not you successfully achieve your goals in life. The concept of self-efficacy is central to Albert Bandura’s social cognitive theory, which emphasizes the role of observational learning social experience, and reciprocal determinism in developing a personality. Self-efficacy is part of the self-system comprised of a person’s attitudes, abilities, and cognitive skills, according to Bandura. This system plays a major role in how we perceive situations and how we behave in response to different situations. Self-efficacy is an essential part of this self-system. Personality traits maybe manifested in everyday behavior in a way that repeating of something become your habit and later on it becomes your personal traits. I am living a lifestyle that promotes physical, mental and spiritual well-being after learning this part of this journey. I manage to be physical fit as we jog everyday with my friends. We try to achieve a fitness goal that will benefit us. I manage to be mentally strong by making my mind exposed to all things and be open minded. I lessen myself to be stress all the time and try to relax and chit chat with my friends. My favorite way of take care of myself in all aspect is by sleeping. By sleeping my body can get enough rest to take on another day, and by sleeping my mind can be at peace only imaging all the good things that could happen in my mind plus it boost my spiritual well-being as I can talk to God during that time. For issues of human growth and development, I believe that proper education and monitoring by parents in their teenage days can prevent this kind of issues. For me all kind problems occurs during adolescent and it has been not treat and affected their rest of their life. Marcia's theory does not assume that every adolescent will pass through and experience all four identity statuses. Some youth may experience only one or two identity statuses during adolescence. Additionally, there is no assumption that a youth's identity status is uniform across all aspects of their development. Youth may have different identity statues across different domains such as work, religion, and politics. In this sense it is possible for youth to have more than one identity status at a time. Furthermore, unlike Erickson's stage theory, Marcia's theory accounts for multidirectional movement between and among the various identity statuses. For instance, youth may experience a traumatic event such as parental divorce, or a violent assault, which may cause them to re-evaluate their understanding of the world and their value system. This type of crisis may cause them to retreat to a previously enacted identity status as they integrate this new information. As a teen we must choose proper moral judgement for our development as it affects our future life. We can change our negative things about ourselves day by day, starting in small things and later on taking it seriously to make your life away from those.
My social circle is best circle I could ask for, we have the constant laughter that helps during my stress and depress days. We care for each other and our brotherhood will last forever. I care more how my life feels than it looks, the feeling of being satisfied is the best feeling you could ever feel. Being contended on everything is more than it looks, having everything means you can be truly happy, once I was staying in my relatives house for many days I feel that my life compare to their is more than I could ask for. I am still growing but I know some things that could make me mature and not being ignorant in this life. Painful experience is the time in your life that you really want to give up on everything. The feeling that everything is falling apart and the tide is against your will. But one thing I learned from it is that it helps you become strong and made me realize that pain doesn’t last forever. It tells me that time can heal wounds even some may take a while. Experiencing the same situations makes you more flexible and ready to face it not like the other time. Among the 10 tasks of Adolescents, I already develop form friendships that are mutually close and supportive. My friends are bit crazy to handle sometimes but they are real supportive friend that inspires you to reach your goal. The task that I am struggling to develop is meeting the demands of increasingly mature roles and responsibilities. Life Skills are very important for everyone particularly, students studying in schools. Today, English language has become the most indispensable component of everyone's mode of communication and also a means of survival. Though most of the textbooks/ course book including curriculum emphasizing on life skills in the content but teachers are not well trained to teach life skills and always it is neglected in English classroom which are necessary for student and this can cause a bigger problem in the future.
The simple gesture that I will offer to demonstrate care and compassion for myself and to others is being kind all the time. Everyone has their own battle that they are fighting, you may not know that they are in the edge of it and just being mean to them will make them completely give up on life. For me being kind is just a simple gesture that has a many of meaning, you lighten someone’s day for being good to them and for being kind you make a friendly atmosphere on people’s surround you. But it is also important to take care of your own body, self-care is a present to yourself and this is not being selfish as prioritizing your self is also an important matter. The quality of life selfcare gives is an extra comfortable, making the best out of you, fulfilling your needs and wants. Self-acceptance starts with you and not with others. Not giving a thing about their comments and be confident proves you are proud of who you are. It all starts in your way of thinking and mental health. You must promote it more by giving yourself rest day and letting all the stress let out your body. Connecting, social relationships are vital for promoting wellbeing and for acting as a buffer against mental ill health. When you remember someone’s name and use it correctly, it is respectful and shows them that they matter enough to be remembered. It is better to be interested rather than being interesting. When somebody tells you about their family, friends, or what they did at the weekend, try to remember the details. It pays to be attentive, curious and not judge mental. Being active, studies into why exercise is so beneficial are generally split between biophysical response, where exercise allows our bodies to become physically more capable of dealing with stress, and psychosocial mechanisms, where taking part in exercise boosts our self-esteem, distracts us from negative thoughts, and helps us build connections with like-minded people.
I found it difficult to express my thoughts to others, I feel like when I speak a word about myself no one is going to listen. I must overcome this anxiety so that I can truly express myself all the feelings that I feeling, every opinion that I have I must let it all out. I need to develop social skills as it is very useful in in the future when I have a job or something that needs a leader. Accepting your own flaws is going to make you a better person. You overcome the negative side in yours that can be said to be improve. Negative qualities can be turned into positive if you are willing to take effort. By going in a slow pace, step by step changing your issues into something useful. When a situation where my emotion is built up into a point that I can’t think rationally, I always close my mouth and let all the emotions in my head. I need to care about others when I let out words that I did not mean just because of my emotion getting control of me. Being silent is a method I use and I try to avoid that situation give myself enough time to think of what I am going to do. My self-esteem is about average, when it times to where decision making is necessary I tend to get the opinion of others first not prioritizing my own decision. Emotions plays a role on myself to help me manage it effectively, I need to be happy once every day and sometimes I need to be sad and think rationally, I need to be angry to let all my frustration out. Emotions is something that makes you a human, you have emotion to reflect yourself and reflect to others.
Mind body connection is the idea that the mind and body are not separate entities. Rather, they are intricately connected, interacting with each other in many ways. The body's three main regulatory systems are the central nervous system (which includes the brain), the endocrine system (which produces hormones), and the immune system. There was I time that I have wrong mindset that lost my confidence in my abilities, before I think of looking down on others that seems to suck a particular area, until I learned when one of them actually makes me realize it to my face that everyone has their own strength and you must not look others base on their appearance. Criticism is something that we all deal with daily and many of us believe that when we give criticism we are expertly doing so but as we receive criticism we tend to believe the other person is degrading us personally. Since criticism is mainly to judge merits and faults of a person or their actions, it is natural for us to feel defensive as we act the way we do based on the knowledge we have and we feel that the criticism questions our knowledge. Many of us may see criticism as such and act defensively towards it but according to an article called Giving and Receiving Criticism the author Sue Hadfield states, “Constructive criticism, however, can be helpful and lead to better working relations.” (Hadfield, 2013) With this in mind we can process that criticism can be used to give feedback to better ones position or knowledge in that which is being criticized. Grit entails working strenuously toward challenges maintaining effort and interest over years despite failure adversity and plateaus progress. This perseverance of effort promotes the overcoming of obstacles or challenges. This quality is important for an individual’s to achieve accomplishments and serves as a driving force in achievement realization. Taking steps to it is something you must take seriously and the benefits that it gives you is a self-assuring.
Each person in the world is different from anyone else because of the countless number of factors that shape a person. Despite the distinct differences between each individual, there is one common goal we all share: happiness. Whether we seek happiness through accolades, money, or service to others, the end game is simple. We all want to be happy and spend our lives trying to achieve and maintain a certain level of happiness. One of the biggest factors that affect one’s happiness is his connection to family. The importance of family is paramount to one’s level of happiness. Does this mean that everyone with a family is happier than those without a family? Absolutely not. The only way family can increase one’s level of happiness is by maintaining a healthy relationship. If someone has a good relationship with their family, they are going to be a physically healthier individual. Before the connection of family and happiness can be addressed, “family” must be understood for what it is. Everyone has two types of family, and given family and a chosen family. Simply put, one does not choose who their parents are, but they do choose the family they build in adulthood. Each of us is born into a unique situation that we have no say over, and from there, it is our duty to make sure that the people we surround ourselves with are the people who will create happiness in our lives. Given families are out of one’s control, as genetics “assigns” us parents, grandparents, and siblings. The term “parenting style” focuses on how the parent acts and reacts to their child. This includes expectations, beliefs and values surrounding how parents support and punish their children. These run the range from unsupportive and controlling parents to warm, democratic mothers and fathers who let their children lead the way. Parents may or may not have a sense of awareness when it comes to their own style and how it affects their children. Diana Baumrind (1966) found in her research what she considered to be the two basic elements that help shape successful parenting: parental responsiveness and parental demandingness. Parents that follow authoritarian parenting style demand total collaboration from their children and have no acceptance of questions or breaking rules. They also demand blind obedience and control their children through punishments. This parenting style expects high degrees of maturity from the child with low levels of parent-child communication. Children disciplined by authoritarian parents stay away from difficulty and make good grades, but their social development is depressingly affected due to not being motivated to have opinions, being shy and always worrying about their parents’ disappointment.
I am thankful to experience this kind of journey even though we are stuck in our houses because of the pandemic. All the stress that this pandemic gives me, I express it all throughout this journey. Knowing yourself is the greatest travel you can ever experience and all of it was I felt during this activities. I can surely say that personal development is a nutrition both in our body and mind. We cannot say that all of this is useless because you will forget about it in the near future but the feeling will still be embedded in our hearts.