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Reasons Why You Need to Have Your Own Place once You're Married

Why do you need to have your own place once you're married? I know for sure that many can relate or answer this question. This is a common problem that a married couple had to face. When my husband and I decided to settle down here in Roxas, City, we had to live in my mother-in-law's house at first. Since we are new to the place and my husband had to look for a job, we had no choice but to stay there. It was okay at first but as time goes by, the problem started to occur. She always nagged about everything. She kept on complaining about how big our expenses were. She always had a say in everything. And these stresses me out, I often complain to my husband and told him that we should have a place of our own. He told me to be more patient, that our money was not enough to rent a place yet. It was like that for years. Every day, I had to go through the same problem. And believe me, It was really hard and stressful. Sometimes, I just silently cried in the corner to relieve stress. So let me give you some reasons why do we need to have a place of our own once married. These are based on my experience. Let's just say that in a castle, there's only one Queen and King, right? Once you have your own place, whether it is rented or not, you will have your "**privacy**" which is very important in a married couple. Like me, I'm an introvert so I prefer to have my own space where I can move freely. And my husband is also an introvert so we have the same thoughts on this. You can do whatever you want. It's up to you whether you would just lay in bed for the whole day, or wake up late or not clean your house. No one will nag you about it. **"Your house, your rules"** You would learn to be **independent** of everything. What to cook, how to budget, how to decorate your house, what things to buy, or even what color of paint to be used in the house, etc.... You have control over your child. How to discipline your child, what things that you want to instill in your child without any objection from others. No one will interfere when you have a problem. There are only 2 adults in your house, you and your husband, so no one will interfere. In married life, there shouldn't be someone who will get between the couple. Because most of the time, small problems become huge when someone interferes or we can say, someone added a flame to the fire. Financially responsible. Both of you would decide how to budget your finances/expenses. You will learn to save money. You will also learn to work for yourselves because you have no one to pay for your bills. You will grow as a husband and wife. You will know more about each other. You will have the privacy to discover new things together. You will have your own identity as a family. You can make your own family traditions. Less stress. You can move freely without someone eyeing you. Peace of mind. That is priceless. Now, that we had a house of our own (thanks to my father-in-law, he is the one who helps us to have our own house), I have a piece of mind, less stress and we became independent. Let me share some photos of my family in our home.

Everything we have in our house, we acquired it from our diligence and perseverance. Leaving your parents doesn't mean you don't love them. They can breathe freely because they also need a quiet place. They will also have fewer finances since you move out of the house. It's a win-win situation, if I may say. My husband's parents separated when he was just a child. My mother-in-law passed away due to lung cancer while my father-in-law is currently residing in Canada with her wife.

*all photos are mine*

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