How I lost a friendship...sadly

First year in the university is always all about adapting to a new environment and meeting new people in classes, gardens, walkways or basically the school premises at large. I as a 17 year old fresher then in 2018, full of naivety and little to no experience of being a member of such a vast population of students in the University of Lagos, was very much reserved, had no friends and barely even knew my coursemates.

For the first few weeks, it was an absolute nightmare of an experience as I was mostly always on my own with no too much conversation going on with others. It steadily got better as time went on. Met a coursemate whom till date is a very good and close friend of mine. From him, I also met his twin brother and another girl who he knew from a certain class, she was a Chemistry student while my friend and I both majored in Physics. The initial struggles of being lonely in school suddenly washed away as I had three close friends who were always there. So we sat in class together always, got lunch together, walked and talked together. Flashing back to those times give me thrills.

Some few weeks later, my friend noticed he had feelings (not just friendly feelings lol) for our female friend. He told her and surprisingly she also felt the same way for him. They went on to date until he and his brother left the school for the United States. It was a sad time for me as I knew I was going to really miss their closeness but was even a worse time for his girlfriend. She was really hurting and needed some time to overcome the breakup.

It got better for both of us as time passed. We talked a lot on phone and text, spent even more time together as friends and got closer and closer everyday. About two months later since our twin friends moved to the US, we knew already that we had developed feelings for eachother but I honestly didn't want to ruin the "bro code" by dating my friend's ex. She also didn't want to out of respect for our friend. But we couldn't help but admit our feelings for eachother eventually cos we really felt something that wasn't dieing down. We started seeing eachother more frequently and eventually started dating. We let our friends abroad know about it, they were not quite happy with it at first and were surprised but understood and were fine with it as time went on. They even joked about it lol.

About four months later, she started needing some space and told me she was going through a phase and all. I was surprised cos it all came from nowhere but I thought it was fine anyways not knowing it was actually the beginning of the end of our relationship (not just dating but friendship). She was so off with me, wasn't calling or texting and it was just like I didn't even have a girlfriend.

One day, she called me and told me about how she doesn't want to be in a relationship for now and just want to be on her own. It was a sad day for me but she assured me that our friendship would still go on and we would still call and text and all only for her to completely cut me off after that day. She didn't even wish me a happy birthday despite the fact that our birthdays are only a day apart, which makes it harder for her to forget. Till date she only talks to me if I reach out first. She made me think constantly for months about what I did wrong to deserve this much treatment. Sometimes I feel bad about our relationship even as I'm very sure I did nothing wrong.

I've finally moved on and don't initiate contact with her anymore. I miss our friendship so much cos she is a really good person. I still can't believe what she did to me but I'm fine now. I lost a really good friendship and that's my story. Thanks for reading.