Although every parent wants the best for their child, it can very easily happen to cross the border and try to achieve their ambitions through the child.
Parents generally want the best for their children. It sounds familiar that everyone strives to provide their children with the best possible living conditions, including, among other things, the best possible education and material status that would serve as a good starting point for children. However, it is often allowed for parents to cross the thin line between the best wishes for their children and the desire to fulfill their own ambitions through them, which they failed to achieve.
HARMLESS EXPECTATIONS
It usually starts with "harmless" expectations that primarily concern the school and the best possible results. While this sounds perfectly normal at first glance, it essentially isn’t. These are not expectations in the true sense, but demands. After school, there are various extracurricular activities that parents often choose without consulting the child, his wishes and preferences. It is common to report a child in several sections and plan their time in detail. Also, parents here expect the child to have the most noticeable results. Everything gets a competitive spirit, and nothing but the best is an option.
Society and environment are very important for every child. Parents do not want their child to become part of bad company. Education and an open relationship full of trust is a very important prerequisite for that. Parents should never think about their children and make their children dependent on their decisions, because they will not always be there to make decisions that directly affect the child's life. What parents need to do is teach their child to think. However, sometimes parents are not a good role model for their children, no matter how rude it may sound. Surely you know someone who chooses in detail who is suitable to be in the company of his child and who is not. The criteria for that choice are mostly children who are of better material status, children of prominent individuals from certain spheres of life, children whose parents can primarily benefit from their association.
Instead of being relieved, the child begins to feel constant pressure to be among the best, if not the best, and that everything else will be a disappointment for his parents and will be considered a failure. Parents themselves constantly try to remind their children of that. The more a child grows up and becomes more aware of the diversity of the world around him, the greater the pressure.
PRESSURE OF PARENTS, ENVIRONMENT AND OWN WISHES AND OPPORTUNITIES
With the onset of puberty, children try to develop their own identity, and then the first serious problems can be noticed. The child is torn between numerous obligations, high expectations of parents, expectations of the environment, and on the other hand, his own desires and interests and real possibilities. Children can try to oppose their parents in the desire to gain more independence in decision-making, but parents generally do not listen to them. Parents often do not shy away from anything that would help keep their children on the "right path". They can often threaten children that they will be denied the privileges they have if they do not obey them, that they will not finance them if they do not enroll in the school they have chosen for him, and the like. Then children become anxious, the first symptoms of depression, chronic mental fatigue, insomnia may appear… If these conditions are not treated in time, they can lead to serious psychological problems and eventually to the use of medication.
In essence, we are talking about completely normal children who succumbed to the constant stress caused by their parents, all with the best intentions. No parent likes their child to have problems, especially mental ones, so it is very difficult for a parent to face the real situation. In many cases, they refuse to take responsibility and deny the problem. It is perfectly fine to try to provide the best for the child, but we should have measures in everything and let the child explore the world with his steps.