How do you define friends?

Is it someone you can rely on? Someone that comforts you when you are down, a shoulder to cry on, someone that is one call away.

If that is how you define friends there might be lacking in your friendship. Because in the past I also used to believe in that definition of friends and it took me years before I finally understand how friendship should be.

Given the fact that you came from different backgrounds and you all have different personalities be it in the way how you express your genuine love and care or the way you bond with them it all doesn't matter as long as you are willing to establish a friendship with that person. You are willing to accept their flaws and you will understand their feelings in situations they are in; be it why they make such decisions or be it why they are being emotional because that is how friends should be. It's more than just being there for them hearing their problems and telling random advice because telling and hearing doesn't always mean feeling it.

I have learned my lesson about this concept because in the past I was greatly obsessed with the word "friendship" to the point that I always make myself available for them. But it all changed when I finally realized that because I always make myself available they just treat me as a friend of convenience. And it hurts me thinking that they only come to me when they need someone to talk to or someone who will comfort them but when I need them I don't get the same energy back. You know that overwhelming feeling that they only reach out to you when they need you or when it's convenient for them but when it comes to you, they make you feel like an afterthought.

That is why I eradicated all my so-called friends one by one. That is also my reason why my friends are few and selected now because I choose to be realistic. I choose someone who I can communicate with and gives back the same energy I gave to them.

The Awesome People

I'm so blessed that I found these amazing people they are the reason why my senior high school year was memorable, they taught me how to socialise, to trust people and to believe in friendship again, they made me realize how friends should work. They accompanied me to everything whether it was academic-related or not they always back me up. We shared the same likes and passion maybe that was also the reason why we get along well.

They are the reason why I become adventurous and live my life to the fullest. I tried everything that I never did before like going to different bars and parties like there is no tomorrow, drink alcoholic beverages, and going home late at night. I really enjoyed those times especially the memories we created.

Unplanned Getaways

These people are so fond of unplanned getaways and are just go with the flow type person like if someone asks to go swimming and another one agreed others will automatically agree no more buts or ifs and the next thing you know they are already at your doorstep.

Graduation

Though we party a lot and drink and goes to many places we still did not forget our responsibility as a student, our goal in life. Studies are still our priority. In fact, 3 of us graduated with high honors and others with special awards (not to brag I am of those 3😂)

Their Surprises

One of the many things I love about these people is that they never fail to surprise me like this one. The story to that was they planned a get together with the gang without my knowledge because we are longer classmates at that time since we chose different programs and universities for our college life. May 6, 2019, On the morning of that day, one of them asks for my class schedule which I also gave to him. I thought he was just curious so I didn't bother to ask. During the afternoon of that day around 2 pm, I was already about to go home when I saw them in the visitor's area of my school wearing a big smile on their face I was really surprised that day seeing all of them together again after a long time. After a few chats, we decided to eat lomi nearby our old school. I really appreciate their efforts and time that day makes me love them more.

They made a big impact in my life maybe if I never meet them I will still be the same lonely boy in a big city type of person that is why I am thankful that fate let me be part of their lives.

Closing Thoughts

We all deserve a genuine kind of friendship so you need to choose your friends carefully. Check if they gave you the same effort you give to them. Choose those who understand and value you because in this world everything is true but not everyone is real.

(All photos used was mine)