Sometimes it feels like society says you should be always happy, and that showing your sadness is a sign of weakness. This is far from true, if you were to hold in all your sadness or anger you would explode. We all have good and bad days. No one can be perfectly happy all of the time, that is not human. One day you feel on top of the world, the next you are down.

It's okay to not be okay means allowing yourself to feel your feelings. Accepting the emotions and thoughts you are keeping within you. Remember that you are not a robot that has no emotion so stop invalidating your feelings. Your emotions are valid express your feelings if you feel like crying just cry, if you are angry vent it out. Don't pretend to be happy when you are not because the more you try to avoid, suppress or ignore them, they only grow stronger and as time passes by you will be trapped in that illusion you created and believe that you cannot cope with it, which soon may leads to a mental problem.

Keeping your emotions to yourself is physically, mentally and emotionally draining it is a kind of behaviour you believe is right but actually deleterious to yourself, a toxic positivity. Pretending you are okay when you are not is isolating yourself from the people around you and it's a lonely battle. You are a human you have weaknesses, you have flaws and you are not always strong so it's normal to not be okay you don't need to feel sorry, you don't need to be guilty and think that you are a burden it is a part of human nature.

Coping With Your Emotions

You can fool the world but you can't fool yourself, and the more you try to make yourself believe that everything is okay the more it will hurt. Try to listen to your emotions don't resist it, know that what you are feeling right now is temporary it will pass soon as long you addressed it and not be overwhelmed with those emotions.

Be more expressive of your emotions, communicating your feelings to people around you soothes your inner peace as you let go of what is bothering you.

Do things that makes you happy, if you like listening to music, watching movies, reading books, being with friends or meditation do it, don't just stay in your room and think why you are not getting better. Find your reason to be happy instead.

Forgive yourself and anyone else you might be blaming this is very important because when you are at your lowest point you find someone to blame its either you or someone else and much worse you tend to be too hard to yourself overanalyzing every situation that might have been different if you made different decision.

Wrapping It Up With a Change Of Perspective

Right now, there are people all over the world who are just like you. They are either lonely, missing someone, hurt, fighting silent battles, scarred from the past, healing alone and they have secrets you wouldn't believe. Like you they wish they dream and they hope. And right now, they are sitting here reading these words and I'm writing this for you so you don't feel alone anymore. Always remember, that it's okay not to be okay. You can feel what you feel and sit with itfor awhile, but always remember that no one can address it except you, you have to make a conscious effort to fight for yourself one of these days, but take your time, no pressure, march at the beat of your own drums and make your own timeline. Tomorrow is a new chance.

Takeaways

Acknowledge your feelings and not evade or suppress it because it will take a toll on you if you keep disregarding it.

We have different healing time frame and coping mechanisms, don't force yourself to be okay when you are not.

You refuse to grow if you refuse to acknowledge that you have problems.

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