Hear not what I say, but what I keep silent

If a woman speaks, don't be afraid, she is still not gone from you. When a woman speaks, she is struggling, but when she is silent, be afraid because she has given up, she is gone, you know what they say. Today I want to talk a little bit about that. I like to dig a little bit on the scientific side of every word that is said.

Silence is actually a form of communication. It is a silent scream. It is noble. It is not acceptance, but renunciation. It would be impossible to talk about every aspect of communication and not talk about silence, contrary to what we think, silence is a very intense form of communication. It is ending one communication and moving to another dimension. What you cannot express with dozens of words or behaviors, you sometimes express with silence. As the words multiply, the person chooses what he/she can understand from all the words and sometimes you see that what you really want to tell is bypassed, but "silence" is so magical that there is nothing to bypass, you convey exactly what you feel by being silent.

Contrary to popular belief, nonverbal communication is not only body language (body posture, facial expressions and gestures, use of the head, the place chosen for sitting, clothing, eye contact, use of the feet, sitting style, distance, accessories used).

"Silence" is perhaps the most mysterious of the nonverbal indicators that constitute the sub-branches of nonverbal communication such as body language. Yes, a silent person is mysterious. A silent person is brave. He is not afraid of losing. He is sure of himself.

Silence is a phenomenon that often causes distress and sometimes pain to the individual, except when it is necessary. Silence for too long, or the continued silence of others, can cause tensions. And of course, silences are actually dangerous. Because the absence of communication in interpersonal communication can lead to more negative consequences than poor communication. Being silent for a long time or being subjected to the silence of others can cause tension in relationships. Sometimes it can even lead to irreversible points.

Research by psychologists has shown that in interpersonal communication, the absence of communication has more negative consequences than tense communication with constant arguments. So we can say that silence is sometimes more dangerous than speaking. Because communication is important for discussion and problem solving, for creating a beginning. However, silence destroys all this.

So why do we remain silent? Silence in communication is not random. There are different reasons for being silent or staying silent. Each silence has its own meaning that can lead to different interpretations and consequences in communication: Sometimes one is angry and grits one's teeth, sometimes one is tired and has no hope, sometimes one is silent because one is not understood, and sometimes one is silent because one knows that no matter how much one speaks, one will not get results. In short, silence in communication reflects different messages or responses. And worst of all, in essence, one is silent because one has given up. He or she is silent because he or she is leaving.

Silence is a phenomenon that constitutes the silent aspect of vocal communication analyzed within the scope of para-linguistics. Silence is seen as a situation that causes problems in interpersonal communication except when necessary.

But sometimes what you cannot express by speaking, you can express only by silence, maybe you don't even need to express it anymore. You shut up spontaneously. These are unconscious silences. I suggest you take a look at your silences. Some silences can last forever.