I wonder how much conscious harm we can cause to other people including our own children.

From the first moment of each gestation, a new life and the destiny of a new life is marked. All parents, in some way, have an impact on what lies ahead for each child.

Sometimes we are aware of the importance of maintaining the emotional health of our close relatives, but to do so it is essential to know ourselves, to recognize and accept that we are incomplete beings.

Emotional health comes before anything else. Before deciding to have a child, it would be important to know my wounds, fears and compulsions. What affects the SELF will affect everything around us.

I am very close to a case where a child has suffered repressions from the moment of his birth. It happened on the day of his birth that the mother decided to give birth far away from her place of residence, denying the possibility to the father, grandparents and relatives to share the happiness of receiving the new member of the family.

Later, after a month, is when she accepts the approach with the baby. The mother's attitude always seemed to me to be out of place. As much as you want to raise the baby under your own rules, sometimes the excess gets out of control.

The mother's attitude became increasingly obsessive? She became determined to form habits in the baby at an "early age". The child did not eat when his little body asked him to, but when she said so. The child's cries were uncontrollable for the first few months until the child learned to suck his fingers.

The child was not denied good food, he was denied to ask for his food when he needed it. I, myself, died of sadness at the sight of so many reprimands. Bath time was the same, already with a forced conditioned behavior, I watched as the child fell asleep in his bathtub with his fingers in his mouth.

Time went on and the child has been denied to leave his space with the excuse of protecting him, he plays alone and through a window he communicates with the grandparents whom the baby adores.

Now, there are consequences for the mother. The child, barely three years old, has become spoiled, rebellious, the mother cannot control him, he complains, he prefers to spend the day with his toys, with other people, but not with his mother. In fact, the child is more empathetic with men than with women.

With this anecdotal narration I only want to make an argument about the importance of being educated in emotions. Unintentionally or unintentionally, we can destroy the pure feelings of a child. If what is eating our soul is a wound, we are innocent of it but aware that we have the duty to look for a solution.

Psychologists have tools to help us to get out of these problems. To go to them would be the wisest and healthiest thing for all of us. Let's not fall into lies, sometimes we are unconscious of what we do but sometimes we are more aware than we think.

If you feel trapped in emotions seek help, there is always someone waiting to reach out to us.

When we adults insist on punishing ourselves with our own insecurities, we will have to assume consequences later on, hurting emotions provoke fears that are difficult to identify but become compulsive and that is another unexplainable point.

Thank you!