Ah, that infatuation ... that strange feeling ... Most people know the feeling of infatuation, when we are fascinated by the belief that we have found the perfect person, and then we feel "butterflies in the stomach", the world is a better place for us, we are optimistic and good we maintain the mood in spite of everything. Some say it's just a feeling for young people ... others think it can happen, regardless of age. It is often jokingly said that lovers are "crazy". But when we think a little, we will understand that this expression quite accurately describes what happens in a person then. The idealization of a partner, which creates infatuation, involves the detachment of one part of the image of the person we are in love with, and that part in which all his negative traits are. So, falling in love excludes one part of the image of the partner, that is, one part of reality. I remember how nice all his flaws were to me. Obsession is the right word to explain falling in love. It’s just sympathy or physical attraction to another person. If this does not happen, anger and jealousy ensue.
Love is the complete opposite feeling. The person will be patient and ready to accept any challenge. A person who loves will try to solve possible problems, and not just give up. There is always a feeling of belonging and devotion in love, which can never be expected with love. Psychological maturity is a prerequisite for mature love. It includes compassion, care, consideration and interest in the partner. In mature love, we feel satisfaction with the successes that the partner achieves, we identify with the pain as much as with the joy of the partner. In addition, we do not lose personal boundaries and a sense of our own identity. While infatuation may involve a relationship with our own ideal fantasies that we have attributed to another person, love implies a relationship with a real person, their real virtues and flaws. With age, more precisely with maturity, we allow ourselves to see and achieve this.You will realize that you have the right person by your side when you can rely on him anytime and anywhere. It is the same with the stronger half. When he realizes that he can count on you at any time, he will feel carefree.
It's the story of US. ❤