Cheer up your child's stubbornness may be good news for you

The Spanish newspaper “Lavango Guardia” published a report in which it talked about some characteristics that characterize children and that parents do not like, but in reality they can benefit them when they grow up, such as stubbornness and broad imagination.

The newspaper said, according to Albert Einstein, imagination is more important than knowledge. But sometimes, parents may resort to reprimanding their children for a notice from the school notifying them that they are laying off their imaginations in class, even while trying to get their stubborn children do their homework instead of playing. But although these qualities upset parents, their refinement and development would benefit children in the future.

The newspaper reported that the common traditional idea that a child who has reached the age of ten, should be distinguished in his studies and never fail, is questionable. Although some personal traits are annoying or subject to improvement or modification, they can actually benefit the child at a later time. According to child psychologist Abel Dominguez, "many personality traits that characterize some children in childhood become adaptable and distinctive when we better handle them and harness them to serve specific goals."

The newspaper advised parents not to lose hope. Although patience, which includes dealing with some troublesome children's practices by parents, such as not following the rules or insisting that their desires are fulfilled, is not easy, it will bear fruit in the future. Below are four important features that distinguish some children that can be the key to their future success:

1. Stubborn

The newspaper indicated that convincing your child that it was time to leave the park could be a daily hardship. But regardless of the differences that may arise between the child and the parents, the child's stubbornness indicates the extent of his ability to negotiate in the future. According to a study in developmental psychology that included about 700 children from the age of eight to the age of forty, it was found that those who defied parental authority and violated the rules received high salaries and achieved professional success in adulthood.

Marta Campo, president of psychology at Sanitas University Hospital La Zarzuela, noted that "some of the behaviors referred to in this study, such as challenge, hostility, or disobedience, can constitute behavior disorder and affect the life of the child and his family as well when it reaches its height and lasts long. ".

The newspaper reported that in order to enhance flexibility, it is important to promote the principle of respect in relationships. On this, Marta Campo said, “The child must be helped to establish balanced and satisfying social ties, because difficult and aggressive behaviors lead to the opposite. While nervous and disobedient children may end up receiving higher salaries in the future, they are also vulnerable Greater risk of developing an anti-social character, for example. "

2. The failed

The newspaper added that, in a society obsessed with success, failure is a somewhat disadvantaged topic. But reality indicates the opposite, because when we face failure, an opportunity arises for us to assess the situation and learn from it. "Some children show special strength in the face of painful life situations, as is the case with some victims of Nazi concentration camps. Those who have suffered serious accidents or human losses are not only less vulnerable to psychological problems in the future only, but also become stronger in the face of Life. This is called flexibility. It can also be described as the ability to overcome adversity. "

The newspaper pointed out that children who are exposed in their daily lives to loss and failure, whether in a sports game or at the academic level, develop more advantages than those who always win. In this regard, Dominguez said: "On the other hand, they must have a goal that leads them to persevere, and they are sure that sooner or later they will achieve it, because permanent loss can cause them frustration and surrender, and for this reason they need self-confidence and perseverance."

3. Distraction

The newspaper pointed out that children cannot live without rules, but there are some exceptions. For example, it is normal for some children to be absent-minded most of the time. In this case, it is not always a matter of lack of interest or lack of attention, but may mean that the child has a very developed inner world. According to Dominguez, "There are kids who have an irregular way of thinking, that makes them look like they are distracted and have a wide imagination, but these advanced skills can make them great creators in the future, because when you decide to invent something you have to think wisely and reflect on what you intend to do."

The newspaper reported that these creative and anarchic children at the mental level, usually do not perform their duties while sitting on the desk to attend a lesson or exercise. Dominguez emphasized that, “If the teacher notices that the child is distracted in the department, he usually resortes to speaking with his parents to teach them that he does not know anything, or that he is in another world.” In contrast, it is important in this case to determine the child’s hobbies and how to express them And suggest ways to learn to adapt to it.

4. Social

If a child has many friends, this is good news. If he becomes neglected of his obligations, this could lead to the emergence of disputes between him and his parents. Often these children are willing to lend a hand to others with a social personality. Dominguez explained that "this feature can make them in the future teachers, psychologists, social workers or people with a social sense of intervention in crises."

In conclusion, the newspaper pointed out the need to help these young people to control and better manage their time, taking into account study times, and encourage them to practice social activities, especially that volunteer work is also an activity that helps to develop this ability in a positive way