Erasing bad memories!
ERASING BAD MEMORIES
o far, you have learned about how to remember information.
In this chapter, you will learn how to forget.
All of us go through ups and downs in life, we sometimes
succeed, sometimes fail. Happiness here and sadness there
troubles and tribulations, profits and losses, births and deaths
appreciation and backstabbing–all are a part and parcel of life
Whenever any activity or event involves emotions of face
happiness, we act in your usual manner. but when we face hurdles
or experience failure, most of us take a long time to recover
from them. The reason is that the brain has been designed to
remember and forget. And this forgetting is more important than
remembering. You can forget, and push all the bad memories out of
your working memory so that you are able to lead a happy life.
When there is a death in the family or neighborhood, loss
or failure, the intensity of the negative emotion is so high that
you are not able to lead the usual life. Most of you take a break.
sit in a corner, stay aloof, go into depression and it takes a long
time to bounce back to your normal routine. As you go through
the motions of life and get back to daily chores, negative emotions
that have affected you gradually fade away. After some UC
are able tO watch movies, visit restaurants, attend functions,
and jokes and move ahead in life.
Unfortunately, some people hang on to the negative
emotions or lose so much that they are unable to lead a
life and ruin the rest of their lives. In case, you are stuck with
such a thing. you could try the technique below to erase normal bad memories.
You have learned in the previous chapters how to remember.
For any image to be strong and vivid, you have to magnify the
picture, visualize it in motion, color, and in an illogical and funny
manner, involve all your senses to do so, and build a personal
connection.
To forget, you have to follow the same process in the reverse
and take out all the above components.
Let us imagine somebody scolded you, shouted at you, or
criticized you for no apparent reason. This is repeatedly returning to your mind and is affecting your mood, hindering you
from leading a normal life. Let us see how can you overcome
this problem.
Step 1
Sit all alone in a room and close your eyes, take a deep breath
and tell yourself to relax, relax and relax.
Imagine that you are in a big movie theatre watching a movie.
On the 70 mm screen, try to play the incident that is bothering
you, with vivid colors and sounds.
Watch the entire incident from beginning till end. (This way,
you have removed the personal element from the memory as
you have watched a scene where somebody criticized someone
else and not you).
Step 2
This time, replay the same incident from the beginning to the
end, but remove the colors, turning it into a black and white
movie. (Here you have removed the colors from the scene).
Step 3
This time, replay the same incident but turn off the volume
dialogues. So, you see some people move their lips, but you a
not able to hear anything. (Here, you have removed the sound
from the situation).
Step 4
Now, replay the incident. This time, turn this incident into a very
old, black and white movie of the 1960s and 1970s. The clarity and
screenplay of these movies were not up to the mark and thus you
tend to lose interest in it soon. (Here you have blurred the images
in this movie so that your mind loses interest in this incident.)
Step 5
This time, play the black and white, blurred, mute movie once
again. Imagine the movie screen is becoming smaller and smaller
and moving away from you. Before it vanishes, either imagine
holding it in your fist, tearing it into pieces, and throwing it away
Or throw some water on that small piece or set fire to it.
You then tell yourself that it is gone.
am sure, this five-step process will help reduce the intensity
of the incident that is bothering you and this memory will De
erase from your current memory.
O not give any importance to that incident, do not try to
recollect it or be part of a discussion where people may remind
you of what happened. This will certainly help you to 1e a
normal life.
For the last few years that I am in the profession of memory,
rain people have shared with me their problems and things
that they have been unable to forget. I train them usin8 this
technique and counsel them to look at life on a larger canvas.
You need to train yourself to look at life in a better way.
1Ou may drop a tear or two on certain occasions. That is it
The problem is that you repeatedly think of the same incident
FL has cracked a joke and if you have heard it for the first time
you will laugh out loud. Just imagine that I cracked the same
joke after a few minutes; you will not laugh, but you may smile.
After another 15 minutes, if I crack the same joke again, you
might look at me thinking that I may have gone mad. The logic
is that if you do not laugh at the same joke the second time,
why do you cry over the same incident again and again? Cry
once and let go. You must learn a lesson and ensure that such
an incident does not happen again.
Lite is all about looking ahead and not backward. You cannot
change people, what they say or how they act, but you can control
the situation by learning how to embrace it. No one can make
you happy or sad but you. Understand that life is very short
and you’ve only once and it is good to remember and cherish
nappy memories rather than hold onto bad ones, cry over them
and ruin your life.
I am sure these principles will help you lead a very happy
and a mentally healthy life.
Keep practicing these techniques and keep using them in
your day-to-day life and you will see phenomenal results.
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