Choosing not to stop, to keep moving forward, not to confine ourselves to our misery or to confuse our negative thoughts will help us win the battle against this great pain and come out stronger. After all is said and done, that person will only have one memory, good or bad, after all, only a memory.
Separations are increasing day by day. Years ago, even a few years ago, the couples remained connected throughout their lives, despite conflicts. Today, everything has changed a lot, and you could even say that things are turning upside down, reaching the extreme.
From the days when everything was endured and endured, we came to the days when we did not endure anything contrary to our way of thinking. This situation is in no way beneficial for the couple.
Realizing that the perfect person is not and can never be, accepting unconditionally with all the flaws and qualities of the other person is like the door to a satisfying relationship. Of course, we must always set insurmountable limits for situations such as mistreatment, disrespect or interference with freedom.
When a relationship is over, feelings such as loneliness, emptiness and loneliness do not pass easily. We go through that famous mourning process, but it's good to feel that pain because it's the pain that will eventually help us heal.
As is known to all, there are many stages of mourning: denial, anger, depression, acceptance… we can experience all or some of them. Some people do not fully mourn after a breakup, which causes their pain to stay solid for longer, which can eventually lead to emotional blockage.
What will I feel after breaking up?
Ending a relationship can be a painful process. You have been with that person for days, months or years, sharing your whole life with him. You know him almost completely. You shared your friends, you love the family, and all of a sudden, in almost a day, it's all gone. Is it possible not to suffer?
The person who is so important to you, who is a big part of your life, is gone, and you may never see him again. Of course, this is a very difficult thing. Your soul is shattered, you feel lost, you cannot find a way out, and this feeling of emptiness takes over.
Despite all this, life goes on… The world will not stop turning just because your relationship is over, and therefore you have no choice but to keep moving forward.
First of all, the first thing you should know and acknowledge is that you will feel really, really bad. As we said before, separations are painful. But you also have to understand that this is normal and not unreasonable. After the loss, you should cry, be angry at the world and cry out if you feel like it… unless this behavior continues for a long time.
As if there is a flaw in your life, as if half of your life is gone forever, you will never find someone like him again, you have a problem, etc. you can feel like
You should realize that these are just thoughts and ideas that cross your mind, and that these are the main causes of your suffering. The deeper these feelings are, the stronger they become and the more pain they cause. Don't feed them.
How can I be myself again after a breakup?
After you get through the mourning process we just mentioned, you will start to see things differently. Time is our best friend, so is our brain when it can think realistically. While we are still feeling incomplete and empty, they are the love of our life, etc. The time that passes while thinking is of no use to us.
So we must force ourselves to think realistically, not to entertain ourselves by being too romantic thoughts and daydreams, because it will only hurt us more.
We must wrap ourselves up, put an end to extreme thoughts and inflexible thinking. There is no such thing as the love of your life. There is no one born to be your soul mate, your other half, or something like that. The important thing is to feel comfortable with the person you are in a relationship with.
You are not alone or in space. You are surrounded by millions of people who want to get to know you. In addition, there are some that you have known before. Unless you close yourself to them.
Even if you don't feel like it, you should go out with your friends, get together with your family, look for someone you haven't seen in a long time, and fill your time by making fun plans.
As you do these, you'll gradually start to feel better. More importantly, by getting out and meeting new people, someone interesting, a business, travel or event opportunity may come up. You never know what will happen. Heal yourself. When you are with someone, chances are you have left things you have loved before. Now is the time to start doing them again and enjoy these activities in the same way. Most of the time, when we are with someone, we lose ourselves, it would be wise to find ourselves again after separation. Our self-esteem will thank us for it.