Do you have Pollyanna syndrome?

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‘Always be positive’

‘Hard times will pass over’

‘Together we are stronger’

‘Avoid negativity’

Such things have taken over the social media during this Covid pandemic and its related economic and social impact.

On one not so bright day you are told that you are fired from the job due to cost cutting measures of the company. You are informed that your pay is slashed by 30% and you should be happy that at least you did not lose the job like some others. The company cares for your hard work. You get to know that one of your close friends died due to Covid. Are we supposed to feel positive and feel grateful about it? One has to be an angel or stupid of a detached sage to be positive under these situations.

These Pollyanna-type (an excessive positive or blindly positive person) teachings are now everywhere, but how does a normal average person deal with it? This toxic positivity is taking a toll on the mental health of the people.

When we are suppressing our negative thoughts and trying to be positive due to external stimulus of motivation during difficult times- we are not being honest with our feelings.

When life is full of so many challenges it is OK to cultivate positive attitude but we should not over do it. Sometimes it is required to give expression to our sorrow, anger and resentment in a harmless way and thereby let it go so that positivity naturally comes back again. It is just not possible to be happy 24 x 7 x 364; one should not feel bad or guilty about it.

We are humans and not programmed robots to keep smiling and be happy all the times. Negativity, sorrow, pain, sadness is sure to come to all of us. The secret is that we have the power within us to control and give direction to these emotions to flow through us in a non harmful way for us and for others also, both bodily and mentally.

Those people who are peddling these positivism advice and pep talks should also advice people how to accept and exorcise negativity. Otherwise toxic positivity will creep in us unknowingly and create a situation of guilt and unworthiness within us for not able to deal with the negativity forming up within.

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4 years ago

On one not so bright day you are told that you are fired from the job due to cost cutting measures of the company. You are informed that your pay is slashed by 30% and you should be happy that at least you did not lose the job like some others. The company cares for your hard work. You get to know that one of your close friends died due to Covid. Are we supposed to feel positive and feel grateful about it? One has to be an angel or stupid of a detached sage to be positive under these situations.

I know I sound like a smart-ass now. But such problems are part of life. Some people have more luck, some less. Some are born into a rich family, others into a poor one. Some have good cognitive abilities, others are incompetent and cannot understand simple connections. But they all have one thing in common. They are lucky to live. They have received the gift of life. Every person is unique and there will never be another equal person (like a Bitcoin Cash address 😉). When one becomes aware of this, many problems fade away.

This does not mean that you should radiate an artificial joy when you feel bad. When you feel bad, you feel bad. This is normal and part of life. It will probably get better again. Just like the sun comes out again after a thunderstorm. It is only stupid to deny the thunderstorm and say that the sun shines when it rains. You lie to everyone else and above all to yourself.

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User's avatar Telesfor
4 years ago

You have summed it up well sir.We should not be artificial about anything in our life. Sorrow anger and pain are part of life and these things should have a normal outlet.

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User's avatar aniruddhasen
4 years ago

Good work

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4 years ago

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User's avatar Priyanka
4 years ago

In my opinion, positivity cannot be toxic, but it can be very irritating if it is manifested everywhere and in every place, and especially where it is not appropriate to express such an attitude. I honestly have never heard that such an attitude is defined as a pain

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User's avatar milanlukic
4 years ago

A true positive cannot be toxic, but a putative positive can be. I think that the author meant such fake positivity.

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User's avatar Telesfor
4 years ago

Positivity is not toxic per se but hiding your sorrow by wearing the positivity mask and not letting the sorrow come out fully is. That way positivity can be toxic.

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User's avatar aniruddhasen
4 years ago

yap but this is different point of view, if positivism comes from the need to cover up the sadness just make it worse

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User's avatar milanlukic
4 years ago

You get to know that one of your close friends died due to Covid. Are we supposed to feel positive and feel grateful about it? One has to be an angel or stupid of a detached sage to be positive under these situations. Yes, one need to

If you decide to kill yourself because you're trying to be hardworking, trust me, the company will definitely get another person far better than you when you are gone, so wise up

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User's avatar PrettyHelen
4 years ago

That's what I have written, it is not necessary to always wear the mask of happiness when one is sad inside.

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4 years ago

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User's avatar Anika
4 years ago

My gosh it's too un likely that illnesses its dangerous to all who have that hope many people don't have that

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4 years ago
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