Give yourself the compassion you show to others

By nature, human beings start communicating with someone or something from the moment they are born. This communication can be verbal, emotional or behavioral. In fact, if we go back a little bit, communication actually begins with existence in the mother's womb. The baby in the womb especially first establishes a bond with its mother. It loves her, feels her sadness, understands her concerns, reacts to her speech. Apart from all these relationships, the most important relationship we establish in our lives is the relationship we establish with ourselves.

On the other hand, our mind is in a constant flow of thoughts. Positive and negative thoughts are constantly coming and going in our minds. With this flow of thoughts, we have formed opinions about ourselves as well as opinions about others, but our awareness of ourselves is less than our awareness of others.

For example, after spending time with someone we have just met, we make sentences such as "He seems to be a very understanding person", "I like this guy", "I didn't warm up to him much", "We seem to get along well". But do we also use these sentences for ourselves? In other words, do we produce sentences or opinions that include what we think about ourselves? Above all, do we really love ourselves?

If we examine our feelings and thoughts in detail, we may notice that we criticize, judge and treat ourselves more harshly than others. Unfortunately, when we are more cruel to ourselves, others can become our priority. We may start to care more about the opinions of others and get into the habit of seeking approval from others.

However, we must first show compassion to ourselves and approach ourselves with love, compassion and acceptance. We must remember that the way we treat ourselves, the more love and respect we show, the more others will love and respect us.

So, do you say, "I want to value myself before others, but I don't know how to do it"? At this point, our priority should be to raise awareness about how we treat ourselves. When we realize how we treat ourselves, we gain the power to change it.

Where do we need compassion, where do we need support, what are our strengths and weaknesses, what are the qualities we appreciate? In fact, we should realize our overall potential and approach ourselves with compassion and mercy, especially in the areas where we need support.

Make loving and accepting yourself your most cherished goal. The more you increase your value within yourself, the more others will appreciate you. As you accept your mistakes as well as your successes, others will not be able to hit you with your mistakes.

For all your experiences where you are forgiving towards others when they happen to you but blaming yourself when they happen to you, first embrace, embrace and love yourself because you deserve it!